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The Grievance Collector's Grievance Collector.
How her obsessions transfer.
You may notice that while the pool of targets is ever-expanding, she will periodically dip back to focus on past fixations periodically, including the Chinatown neighbours, even though she neither holds business nor living space in the building in question any more.
I̶'m̶ n̶o̶t̶ r̶e̶a̶l̶l̶y̶ s̶u̶r̶e̶ h̶o̶w̶ m̶a̶n̶y̶ e̶n̶e̶m̶i̶e̶s̶ i̶s̶ c̶o̶n̶s̶i̶d̶e̶r̶e̶d̶ ✌🏾"n̶o̶r̶m̶a̶l̶"✌🏾 b̶u̶t̶ I̶ s̶u̶s̶p̶e̶c̶t̶ h̶a̶v̶i̶n̶g̶ u̶p̶w̶a̶r̶d̶s̶ o̶f̶ 2̶0̶0̶ i̶s̶ v̶e̶r̶y̶, v̶e̶r̶y̶ a̶b̶n̶o̶r̶m̶a̶l̶.
Okay, so I had to look it up and now I've gone down a tangential rabbit hole...
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And according to the results, the most popular answer by far is . . . ZERO enemies.
44% of people said they don't have any enemies in life. 5% said one . . . 10% said between two and five . . . and 4% of people have MORE than five enemies.
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[EDIT: 37% said they DON'T KNOW if they have any enemies.]
Hmm.
I guess the kindest way to view it is: Caryma Sa'd is an overachiever when it comes to collecting enemies. Even for a grievance collector, she seems to take it to excess.
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Realistic average for an active grievance collector:
• Mild version (keeps grudges but doesn’t broadcast it): 8–20 “enemies.”
• Moderate version (regularly talks about their “enemies list”): 20–60.
• Extreme version (full-time hater, documents everything): 60–200+ (some claim thousands, but that’s usually hyperbole or they count entire groups—“all men,” “all liberals,” etc.).
In short: while the average person has 0–1 true enemies, the average grievance collector has 10–100× that many, because they manufacture and maintain enemies as a hobby. The more someone prides themselves on “having enemies,” the higher the count climbs—it becomes a core part of their identity.
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If you are seen as STANDING WITH one of her enemies, you get classified as an enemy. (Unless her goon-baboon can get you to distance yourself from them, but that's a whole other post unto itself.)
So when people thwarted her effort to punish her Asian neighbours by bringing violent Sinophobe to the heart of Chinatown, they became enemies in their own right. And every time people decline to function as proxies for her deviant punishment fantasies, they get added to the list.
There are now entire organizations and unions on her vendetta list.
ON THE UP SIDE, grievance collecting is associated with shorter life expectancy. Specifically, it is associated with:
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➡️ Increased depression and anxiety: Rumination about past wrongs keeps the brain in a chronic low-grade stress state.
➡️ Higher blood pressure, weakened immune response, more inflammation, higher risk of heart disease.
➡️ Poorer sleep
Grudges → intrusive thoughts at night → longer sleep latency and more awakenings.
➡️ Reduced life satisfaction and happiness.
➡️ Smaller, lower-quality social network.
➡️ Cognitive load and reduced self-control
Keeping mental scorecards uses working memory and willpower. Leads to worse decision-making and more impulsive behaviour.
➡️ Heightened aggression and revenge fantasies
Chronic rumination keeps the amygdala activated → more hostile attribution bias (seeing neutral acts as attacks).
➡️ Slower emotional recovery from new setbacks
Once grudge-holding becomes a trait, every new slight gets added to the pile instead of being processed and released.
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I mean it's been pretty clear to me for a long time that she is quite miserable and the people around her are unwilling and/or incapable of altering her habits to put her on a path of potential happiness.
You can literally see the toll her grievance collecting has taken on her health in the past 4 years. It's visible on her skin. It's noticeable in her weight. It's noticeable in the puffiness.
And if she wasn't such a destructive, fixated, malevolent being, I might even feel sorry for her.
But I don't.
There's also nothing I can do to change her, for better or for worse, so I'm just going to keep on keeping on, living my life, doing what I believe in, taking care of my health as best I can, and enjoy the knowledge that of all the things she's destroying, her own life and health is at the top of the list.
And I don't have to do anything, because her career criminal goon-baboon spouse Adam Lee Wasserman is helping her enough for 100 other people.
Every time he says that he "does it for love," I'm just going to laugh louder and harder. Neither one of them knows what love even is.
Sorry for the sidetrack in the #WhoIsCarymaSad thread, but having seen the results, I thought I would share.
#CarymaSad #CarymaNgo #AdamLeeWasserman #CreepySpouseInDaHouse #CreepySpouseInDaBigHouse #NarcissistLogic
