My kid is on the struggle bus today and every day it seems, even believing that she can make it through another semester of college (this is a kid with straight As full of a quadruple helping of Midwestern nice living in the naked city who everyone likes on sight) and it makes me want Ableism to become incarnate right in front of me so I can punch it right in the fucking face
Assholes on the bus telling her that her walker is in the way are pretty much ruining the whole thing for her. I mean itâs not quite that simple, but almost. Add in scores of similar microaggressions, and the enormous horrible fact the toll of spoons that bullshit takes on the daily exhausts her so she ends up isolated and missing out on social life and feeling isolated. Plus she NEEDs the time to sit quietly in her room and decompress, and Iâm glad she knows to take it, but again that comes with missed opportunities to get out and be a student in New York and form friendships and alliances with her peers. She paid her fucking $2.90 and deserves to take up space just like any human. âyour walker is in the wayâ == âpeople like you should go to the back of the busâ plain and fucking simple as that.
And while I sincerely believe that the college as an institution intends to be inclusive and the people in disability services specifically and the admin in general are all kind and well-meaning people, they have been contributing approximately zero in the way of creative ways to help her confront and cope with this offensive and dehumanizing bullshit that she has to deal with on the daily simply to commute to class. Although to be fair, I donât know what the fuck to do to help either. God DAMN it
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