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i am in awe of the courage and leadership of people in the Korean #adoptee diaspora for forcing governments to recognize the heinous history of intercountry adoption, to issue formal apologies, and to take steps to end the practice and to provide some measure of justice for those caught up in it.

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I've just edited my profile introduction & thought I'd do another posted intro as well, since it's been awhile.

🍕 I'm from the #stateofGeorgia in Southeastern US.
🍕 An actual #adoptee, I'm in reunion with some of my biological family.
🍕 I #crochet and #draw | #sketch and enjoy practicing amateur #mobilephotography -- this is my work as traditional employment wasn't the best fit for me.
🍕 I'm proud of my #Appalachian roots | birth culture and always looking for good #stories about life in those mountains.
👾 I play #StardewValley
🌈 Rainbow-friendly, y'all.
🖋️ Office | #Stationery supplies are my jam!! Sadly, I'm rarely asked about my favorite pens or pencils etc.

What are y'all up to?

during that q & a one of my #adoptee friends talked about how we are dismissed as “angry” about our “bad adoption experiences” when we criticize adoption. Gretchen replied “well, adoptees have a lot to be angry about,” and my heart leapt up.

RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:2sfy6irvmfmnwxe4ouhrrn7a/post/3lq6xijirhd7p

i know i am not the only #adoptee who thinks about the notion of wrongful birth. birth under coercion is wrong, and birth under *these* circumstances is a heinous wrong. no life should begin this way.

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speaking as an #adoptee: seeing rosie o’donnell make a cameo appearance on a tv show is enough to kill my interest in the show

Adoption makes a larger group of people into family only after making another group into non-family. legally, it places an #adoptee into one tree only after pulling them out of another. who “deserves” this?

i saw this on reddit. being an #adoptee who never saw an actual relative until the age of 40, i am mesmerized by images like this.

as i have said before and will never tire of saying, i am in awe of the energy, creativity, and courage of the Korean #adoptee diaspora in bringing the realities of adoption in front of the eyes of those—millions of them—who prefer to look the other way.

my past 10 years as an unfogged #adoptee have shown me that not only do i reject utilitarian ethics, but also the kind of constructivism that says that ethical principles are those “we” would choose under certain idealized deliberative conditions. moral demands are *objective* and *uncompromising.*

My essay in GEIST, "The Dead Viking My Birthmother Gave Me" and you can read the whole thing! www.geist.com/fact/the-dea... My illustration of my #birthmother fielding messages from the dead for an audience. She connects people. #adoption #adoptee #faith #spirituality #lgbtq

watching tiktoks of happy adopters underscores the thorough completeness of this cultural change: the infant #adoptee becomes the prize in a display of very conspicuous consumption. ...

#Adoptee here. The very idea of a registry of infant suppliers—of breeders for baby buyers—is fascism. Coercing people to relinquish to strangers the children they were forced to give birth to does not redress the injustice of forcing births; it compounds the injustice.

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she is an intercountry #adoptee from China; she has two heart conditions and she requires a transplant; her hospital will not approve the transplant until her adopters agree to her receiving flu and COVID vaccines, which they adamantly refuse to do. She is in heart failure.

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I finally got 'round to updating my Substack and going to work on posting there more often now.

I've been marveling at how much easier it is to get things done without Meta-based brain clutter.

I've not left Meta -- I may eventually hop on & deactivate accounts. But for now, I've backed away quietly. A big part of this is the fact that I'm in recent reunion with my biological family. I'm an #adoptee -- so not only am I recently in reunion, but several have added me on Facebook & it makes me sad to think of leaving the platform totally behind... feels a little like severing those relationships without giving them half a chance, even though that's not what I'd be doing at all. I will be inviting some of my newly-acquainted first family to other apps where we can do the same things as on Facebook, but I'm taking my time to figure the best way to phrase those invitations.

#adopteechallenges #adopteevoices

i think it is my experience as an #adoptee that led me to this perspective. having been cast in a role i had to perform outwardly to fulfill others’ wishes, i learned early in life to keep my evolving understanding of myself largely *to* myself. it was not safe to deviate very much.

the really hard questions concern what an #adoptee is to do when the (birth) parent wants to keep the familial connection a secret from others. Adoptee memoirs like @thesusanito.bsky.social 's magnificent I WOULD MEET YOU ANYWHERE meditate upon this. But *my* right to know is not a hard question.

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as an #adoptee, I struggle with the way I use kinship terms. So do many adoptees. And other adoptees don’t struggle; they know exactly what they mean by words like “parent,” “child,” “birth[/natural/original/gestational] mother.” The trouble begins when any of us tries to legislate for all of us.

i think about how i could justly unleash my fury on the people in my life responsible for this abuse, & for the abuse that consisted in keeping me fogged & deprived of all access to the truth, & even of permission to define & explore my own identity as an #adoptee—but i share it with you instead 😀

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because everyone, including me, assumed i would never know the identity of my original family, and because i never dared to discuss it with another #adoptee, i could never have predicted what it was going to be like when at the age of 39 i saw my name on my OBC. It was: This is who i actually am.