Managing Multiple Relationships

Multiple Relationships: The Roster Approach Explained

Are you dating multiple people at the same time? Explore the “Roster” approach to handling multiple relationships with honesty and vulnerability. This strategy redefines commitment beyond traditional norms, promoting clear communication for healthier connections. Discover key insights from a viral Instagram Reel on modern dating dynamics.

What is the Roster Approach in Relationships?

Life is complicated, so why create more drama? The Roster Approach involves openly managing multiple romantic interests like a sports team roster, prioritizing transparency and mutual consent. It challenges secrecy in dating by encouraging defined roles and boundaries for everyone involved. This method gained traction in social media discussions around ethical non-monogamy.

Why Vulnerability Strengthens Multiple Relationships

Clear communication is needed. Vulnerability fosters trust by allowing partners to express needs without fear of judgment. In the Roster model, sharing emotions early prevents misunderstandings and builds resilience. Relationship experts note this openness leads to more sustainable connections than hidden arrangements.

Redefining Commitment for Modern Dating

How committed are you? Commitment shifts from exclusivity to consistent honesty and respect in multi-partner setups. Customize agreements based on individual comfort levels rather than societal defaults. The discussed Reel emphasizes ongoing dialogue as the true measure of dedication.

Benefits of the Roster Approach

• Enhances communication skills for all relationships.
• Reduces drama through predefined expectations.
• Promotes personal growth via emotional honesty.
• Supports diverse relationship styles ethically.

How to Implement the Roster Approach

Deep thinking and deep connections are difficult! Start with self-reflection on your capacity for multiple connections. Discuss intentions upfront with potential partners, setting boundaries like time allocation or exclusivity tiers. Regularly check in to adjust as feelings evolve, ensuring mutual satisfaction.

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I just filled out this (unpaid) survey for OPEN, which is a polyamory advocacy organization! It took me 12 minutes. The survey description says they expect it to take 20-30 minutes, which makes sense - I'm fast at answering surveys.

Here is the link they told me to give people, which seems to tell them you were referred by a participant, but not which one: https://chapmanu.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3qvDjh6xlTrjEZE?Source=participant

And here is a link with all tracking removed: https://chapmanu.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3qvDjh6xlTrjEZE

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Reading swinger dating profiles is like deciphering dirty poetry. “Just here for the vibe” could mean flirty fun or full blown chaos.
We broke down the most common phrases so you know when to swipe… and when to run.
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Myths, busted. 🚫🍍 From neon pineapple signals to relationship ruin rumors, it’s time to set the record straight. Here are the Top 5 Swinger Myths Everyone Believes (Until They Learn the Truth).

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Was thinking about the concept of "Hall Passes"‡ in the shower, realized how "interesetingly problematic" they are.

I ended up making a blog post. If you have been given, or have granted one, I think you should definitely read this & have a think.

https://weblog.masukomi.org/2025/07/07/the-interesting-problems-with-hall-passes/

Alas, I didn't even get to how odd they are from the perspective of a demisexual polyamorous person.

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‡ a "free pass" for a monogamous partner to have sex with a celebrity

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Yvonne Rorrer Declares Herself Ethically Non-Monogamous

Good for her, and for those of us who are also into ethical non-monogamy.

I have never heard of Yvonne Rorrer until Stephen Colbert talked about her on The Late Show last night. I know she is a Democrat, but I don’t know more about her political positions. At any rate, it is a good thing that she declared herself ethically non-monogamous in a statement. I’m not saying that she came out because I got from a Huffington Post article that she was already out.

Colbert talked about her as a swinger. Mainstream media often does such a piss-poor job at reporting about things they do not understand that I was wondering whether swinger was her expression, or whether the journalists jumped the gun, and assumed. The Huffington Post article I link to above confirms it is her expression.

Ethical non-monogamy is a large umbrella term. Swinging falls under this umbrella, and so does polyamory. (I am polyamorous.) In all cases, of ethical non-monogamy, the assumption is that everyone involved knows what is going on. Ethically non-monogamous people do not hide one relationship from another.

One thing irritated me in Colbert’s talk about Rorrer. It came across to me as mononormative. Colbert said,

She might be one of those people who thinks everybody wants to hear about their thing.

😩 Why did he need to go there? Why?

Colbert, like the majority of our population, monogamous, and straight. People will assume, correctly, those two characteristics about him. When people run into someone like me, or like Rorrer, they make the same assumptions, and they are wrong. We are both ethically non-monogamous. I am because I’m polyamorous. Rorrer is because she is a swinger. I’m moreover not straight, because I’m pansexual. I don’t know about Rorrer’s sexual orientation.

We do not talk about our ethical non-monogamy because we think that everybody wants to hear about it. We talk about it to normalize it, and because some people will benefit from it. In a world where monogamous people are in the majority, we who are ethically non-monogamous are assumed to be monogamous too. That is, until we tell people otherwise.

I’m open, too, about all kinds of things. I cannot count the number of times when, after being open about being pansexual, polyamorous, or autistic, I had a nice chat with someone else who was in a similar situation. This discussion would not have happened if I had not been open about my identity.

Please do not assume that when someone is in a minority group that, when they are being open about their identity, their intent is to shove their business into your face.

#AutisticWriters #EthicalNonMonogamy #polyamory #SexualMinorities #StephenColbert #swinging #TheLateShow #YourAutisticLife #YvonneRorrer

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Just ended a three hour video chat with my boys. I know I'm high on New Relationship Energy™ but the number of times we all had the urge to jump through the screen to hug each other is... A lot of times! This is my first time trying to make a long distance relationship work. Largely because before I don't think I had the maturity and, let's face it, the financial means to make it viable. We just made plans for them to come in June for my birthday. 🥰
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Ever since returning back from the Netherlands, I've been so happy. I feel like one of those cartoon characters that floats around and sings because they're lovestruck.
Well, pushing aside about 24 hours of missing them.... (Me? Miss someone? That's rarely ever happened and was a very new experience!)
Just got time off and a ticket to go back at the end of March.
(Please bear with me. 🙃)
#love #polyamory #lgbtq #lgbtqia #queer #enm #ethicalnonmonogamy #gay #gaymen #crush

What an amazing week and some change with these guys... Sometimes when you least expect it, amazing people come (back) into your life and despite the hurdles, you've got to seize the moment and do what you can. Counting the days till I can go back and see my boys next month. ☘️
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I've had the most amazing polyaffirmative weekend. Exactly what the doctor ordered. Hung out with an old, dear friend that I love immensely and his situationship. We all felt something special immediately.
Cuddle puddles, compersion and connection. ❤️❤️❤️
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TL;DR: Research on austism and consensual nonmonogamy.

Dangit, I've already lost the original post. Someone posted a pop-sci take on this study (qualitative small-N convenience sample, but still fascinating) of sex, romance, and intimate relationships in autistic people) , so I hunted it down and got very sucked into it, especially the intro, which is a lit review full of things (a) I didn't know and (b) super interesting.

Anyway, here it is. I'd say I recommend it (which I do), but I'm guessing many people on masto already have this knowledge, which was largely new to me.

https://sci-hub.se/https://doi.org/10.1007/s10803-020-04377-8

EDIT: Sci-hub is blocked in some places. Here's the DOI so you can look this paper up if you can't access sci-hub
https://doi.org/10.1007/s10803-020-04377-8

#autism #sex #nonmonogamy #polyamory #cnm #consensualnonmonogamy #ethicalnonmonogamy #love #sex

A new podcast is out!
#405 – Squicks or Turn-Ons?
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A new podcast is out!
#403: User Manual, or Dungeon Crawl? What’s Your Preference?
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3/3 These are just examples, and your own patterns will likely be very different - and even more important.

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A new podcast is out!
#402 – More Than Two, Second Edition – With Andrea Zanin and Eve Rickert
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Anyone else crying their eyes out because you had to break up with a guy for his own good, because he couldn't be polyaccepting anymore than you could be monogamous? I've had so much else going on in my life that I think it's only a month after that I can do my grievance. I'm a mess tonight. We really love(d) each other and tried so hard.
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