With #MatthewMcconaughey talking about it on #HowardStern, and apparently #JennetteMcCurdy (#iCarly) weighing in again having written the book "I'm Glad My Mom Died", I see people once again talking about going #NoContact, #LowContact, or #GreyRock with #parents, as in, shutting them out of your life and avoiding ever speaking to them again.
If that doesn't sound like a thing you'd ever want to do, you probably had an actual relationship with both your parents beyond #abuse.
I'm glad you did, but we didn't.
For some, it's a long and painful process, which becomes liberating at the end, as we cut a source of lasting pain and ongoing harm out of our lives. For others, it's as easy as just not calling on the phone, because understand this: a lot of #AbusiveParents don't care.
And that's something to remember here too: if you think this is hurtful to the parent, maybe it is, and that returned-hurt can even be part of healing. But for the majority? It doesn't hurt them, because they don't actually care.
