So, Psychology Today is encouraging the public to doubt the existence of #bisexual and bi+ #men even in 2024.

#biphobia #monosexism

Straight and #gay people often act in ways that feed #monosexism and keeps #biphobia going. But there needs solidarity between gay, #bisexual and other bi+ folks, because we all get the short end of #heterosexism, the system of power that keeps straight people on top.

As this is the International Day Against #Homophobia, #Transphobia & #Biphobia, here's my obligatory post saying that biphobia is the overlooked one of these 3. It's a consequence of #monosexism, the system of power that makes the experiences of people who are attracted to just one gender more valid, and gives them power at our expense.

I've been visibly out as #Bisexual here and in persona since early last year, yet it took me until my 13th #GameDev industry anniversary this week to follow suit on LinkedIn.

So I decided to do so with a short write up on some of the reasons for why it took me so long and why I felt that I needed to post it in the first place. How #Monosexism made the effect slurs in the workspace had on me invisible, made it tricky to be subtly out, in fact suggested it as unnecessary
https://www.linkedin.com/posts/martintiloschmitz_games-gametechnology-autistic-activity-7191473739451027456-uFKR?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_android

35% of #bisexual #men in a relationship with another man had never been open with their partner about their #bisexuality. That's from a 2019 ILGA Europe survey.

#closet #comingout #monosexism

https://www.ilga-europe.org/report/intersections-the-lgbti-ii-survey-bisexuals-analysis/

Some of us play whack-a-mole with biphobes online too, or spend time and energy untangling myths about us. It can be worthwhile, but it's draining. Still, doing this doesn't challenge the root causes of #bisexual and bi+ #men's issues, the systems that keep us down and spread #homophobia and #biphobia: #heterosexism and #monosexism. 5/

@Nclt I need to do more political writing, but my own Sex Ed for Bi Guys series has a couple of posts on coming out and power dynamics. These talk about myths that tend to come up in those conversations, and how to deal with those constructively. It's often not direct #biphobia, but biphobia and #monosexism feed these, and a lot of #bisexual people run into them. This is the main post about this. https://sexedforbiguys.tumblr.com/post/652070450810191872/coming-out-power-emotions-and-myths-sex-ed-for

@Nclt I'll give links to shorter stuff, but if you're down for a longer read, the most insightful book on #biphobia and #monosexism is "Bi: Notes for a #Bisexual Revolution," by Shiri Eisner. Shiri is one of the few activists who look at this stuff as a system in society and not just as individuals being prejudiced.

We talk about #bisexual #erasure as if it was the end result of #monosexism—the system that puts bi+ folks down—hurting us. But it's not. It's just the middle part of it, its tool. Biphobes erase us to push the belief that we don't exist nor matter, that we're not worth talking about nor taking seriously. Once this is done, they have all the power to call the shots in the #straight and #queer worlds. And they can do what they want with us without anyone in a position to push back hard.

@noam About individual jerks, even though it's individuals who have biphobic views, like any prejudice in society, there's a system that helps spread it around. For bi+ folks, this system's called #monosexism. A part of it is rooted in the gay and lesbian movement. This doesn't mean everyone in that movement has biphobic views. But it means that many key figures in the movement have opposed #bisexual inclusion, and they've chosen goals that primarily benefited lesbians and gay men.

@QLC Not gonna lie, I hate this idea that we're somehow "destined" to this. Our bad health outcomes are not an inevitability, and #biphobia is more than individual bigotry. There's a system that makes sure this keeps happening, and it's called #monosexism. While the article mentions some changes that could happen in the physician's office, these never discuss how to tear down monosexism within #queer communities and in the straight world. #bisexual

#Bisexual #erasure itself marks us as worthy of #violence. "You don't exist." "You don't matter." These are the first steps of making someone fair game for targeting them with violence. #monosexism #biphobia

People say #bisexual #erasure isn't as bad as #homophobic or #transphobic #violence. But what erasure does is to erase our #bisexuality when violence targets us. We become #gay or #trans people then in the eyes of the public. So violence becomes something that doesn't happen to bi+ folks, because we're erased from our own stories of others targeting us with violence. #monosexism #biphobia

The default experience of same-gender attraction is being attracted to multiple genders. It's between 52-57% of same-gender attracted people are #bisexual.When you default to thinking "gay" or "lesbian" when you see someone display same-gender desires, you're reinforcing #monosexism.

"I'm too worried he'd leave me for a man", "I'm too worried he'd leave me for a woman" or "there's something I could never give them". This is saying that what another person is packing, their sex or their #gender matters more than a passion they could share with you, that you don't share with your current partner. This is saying that no difference matters more between people than sex or gender. This is the root of #oppression based on gender. #bisexual #queer #lgbtq #monosexism #biphobia

Calling out gays and lesbians on their poor allyship of #bisexual people ticked some people off. If you get angrier at this than at the #monosexism and #biphobia among gays and lesbians, you are part of the problem; allies know it's not about them. #bisexuality

Lesbians and gays should not assume they are good #bisexual allies on the grounds that they are #LGBTQ. They often propagate #biphobia, #monosexism, and #monocentrism. A decent ally constantly reexamines their behavior. #bisexuality