Having to maintain my relationship to the #narcissist that abused me is becoming the biggest challenge of my life. No contact is not an option as we have kids.
I'm processing the emotional abuse I experienced. I'm grieving the woman that never was her. It's a lot of very raw and very intense emotions.
And I'm doing all of that while I need to regularly interact with my abuser. It's a gigantic mind fuck.
I'm reclaiming a lot of my agency by #yellowRocking extensively. Killing her with kindness. Ignoring her emotional baits that are meant to trigger a fight I'd lose anyway. I'm getting #revenge by being my best fucking self. Let the kids see that unconditional kindness is possible while enforcing boundaries.
But I'm not gonna lie. It takes my everything. Being kind to my abuser when everything in me screams for justice is a challenge like no other. #RadicalAcceptance is most definitely non-optional.
I might not win the battles but I will win the war.
For Saint Patrick's Day, two quotes that are attributed to WB Yeats - one real and one not.
First, a lovely line Yeats never wrote that didn't seem to appear until 50 years after he died:
"Being Irish, he had an abiding sense of tragedy which sustained him through temporary periods of joy."
I love the stoic message, but the phrasing is funny enough to subtly undermine its own meaning. Whoever really came up with it remains, tragically, unknown.
Second, a real one from Yeats in 1911 describing another Irish writer, John Millington Synge:
"He loves all that has edge, all that is salt in the mouth, all that is rough to the hand, all that heightens the emotions by contest, all that stings into life the sense of tragedy...."
I wish everyone, Irish or not, a joyful day that is not quite 100% free of sadness. We need the combination. And in any case, you can't avoid it. โ๏ธ
https://quoteinvestigator.com/2023/03/21/irish-joy/
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Another day passing, while the life outside goes on. I am working on #radicalacceptance to keep up. It's another day where absolutely nothing else than lying around is possible. No sounds, no TV, no phone calls, no food preparation. Just calmness and some breath work.
In my body, especially in mouth and lungs, there is a burning feeling. ๐ฅ
There is no medication that helps.
๐ฅ New Video Podcast!
Struggling with fear, uncertainty, and doomscrolling? ๐ Jim Ellermeyer & Mike Sorg share mindfulness techniques and radical acceptance to help you stay grounded. ๐
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๐ง New Podcast Episode!
Feeling overwhelmed by uncertainty? ๐ Jim Ellermeyer & Mike Sorg break down mindfulness, radical acceptance, and overcoming fear in chaotic times. ๐
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๐จ New Podcast Episode! ๐๏ธ
Feeling overwhelmed by uncertainty? ๐คฏ Jim Ellermeyer & Mike Sorg tackle doomscrolling, fear, and radical acceptance to help you find peace in chaos. ๐
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Listen to Steve Shives!
Our incredulity won't protect us.
#logicalfallacies
#OpenYourEyes
#RadicalAcceptance
#politics
#Disbelief
#uspol2024
I've been asked to give a short message (3-5 minutes long) at my Friends Meeting in a few weeks. While considering some ideas, this gem popped into my head:
Maybe I could read a passage from one of the best book series ever written?
So, nerds, what are some of your favorite #Discworld quotes about #DisruptiveCompassion #RadicalAcceptance and/or #RevolutionaryKindness ?
These two depictions of me are equally real. All of us are dynamic, complex individuals. Maintaining an image and pushing ourselves to fit an externally-defined or -influenced mould makes us ill. I try to be gentle with and accept myself but societal pressures evoke inner conflict for me, and I imagine for you as well.
#radicalAcceptance #selfImage #mentalHealth #authenticity #executiveFunction
I could throw myself a pity party, and let the judgements of people who don't matter get to me, ooooooor, I could love and accept myself for the caring, giving, smart, unconventional person that I am. I'd rather love and accept myself through compassion instead โค๏ธ ๐
We need to be aware of what we can change and what requires radical acceptance. This discernment fosters improved mental health and levels of joy. Begin you journey to a more fulfilled life! #radicalacceptance #mentalhealth #discernment #wellbeing #meditation
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Buying #meds turned into coming back tomorrow to get them, and impulse buying $1 trinkets for my #birthday gathering guests as well as a couple of #SecondHand #PatrickWhite #novels at a haggled price ($11 for both) plus a $2 #StarTrek "Spock's World" paperback for my #student.
This morning I should have fetched free food from a #charity but at 4:30am I SMSed my #friend (who would have driven me) to cancel because I'd sabotaged my #sleeping pattern with stupid #coffee.
#Selfies taken circa 2012 when I was 27.
On the left is the girl on the right whose #makeup hides a glaring sign of her inner turmoil from a world of people who don't want to care.
That sign is #dermatillomania. More info: https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/conditions/dermatillomania-skin-picking
Please #BeTheChange that you want to see and that we all need. Let people feel safe around you; dissolve their #shame and yours.
I ain't spot-fixin' this #selfie. Yes, I attacked an "imperfection" on my nose. We injure ourselves to please others; it's shocking.
And my nose's bump isn't actually how it looks here. I dunno how to explain it. But I digress. One might go under the knife (injure themselves) to "correct" such a perfectly fine nose.
Instead, let's "correct" our view of ourselves; of standards imposed upon us; of how our resources might be most ethically directed.
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