me: *gets a bad grade on an exam and has a nightmare*
me: oh no, I'm going to fail. dad's going to make me ride the bus with all the unmonitored kids
*wakes up*
also me: wait, I'm 31 and he can't threaten me like that anymore
(riding the school bus made me extremely anxious and my dad was bitter about "wasting gas" driving me to school. Yeah, good to know your gas mileage matters more than my mental health.)
#trauma #mentalhealth #anxiety #school #highschool #toxicparents
thinking about how utterly unhelpful my parents were in my teen years:
parent: "I don't want to have thoughts about you dying, stop talking like this"
wow, what a coincedence, I don't want to have the thoughts either but thats not how severe mental illness works
#mentalillness #thanksimcured #toxicparents #mentalhealthawareness
The other day, I was still sleeping and my unconscious mind sensed something dropping to the floor. It instantly woke me up and yelled, "I'm up!"
It was what I used to do as a teen when my dad screamed at me to get up for school. Because if I lingered too long in bed, he would drag me out of it or put a wet washcloth on my face.
It's like, "Ohhhhh, wooooow...that's a trauma response. That's not good, is it?"
He wasn't even that violent, but apparently the screaming was enough to trigger my fawning response.
#traumaresponse #trauma #cptsd #ptsd #uhoh #toxicparents #daddyissues
I remember one time as a child, I got scared because of a thunderstorm. My dad got mad at me because I cried. Instead, I should have "trusted the Lord to protect us."
That was the first time I was like, "Wow. That was mean." Like I was 10 and my fears were irrational and he just told me something even more irrational.
Christians are weird like that. I told the principal of my Christian school that I was depressed and basically told me I needed to pray more and that depression happens because of lapsing faith.
Gee, for a religion complaining about people turning away from the faith, you sure are determined to be absolutely useless in a crisis.
#exchristian #exvangelical #toxicparents #christianity #deconstruction
I’m hoping she’s just tired (she didn’t sleep) but if she treats us like hired help on this holiday we are going to end up not speaking. #BigFatGreekHoliday #ToxicParents
We closed the door to literally chill out with the aircon for a bit.
Not even 10 minutes goes by.
She knocks.
“Well I suppose I’m in the wrong again am I?”
Are you?
“Yes because Darren slammed the door”
He didn’t (he genuinely didn’t, neither of us did)
“He did”
Ok
*I shut the door*
Arrived at the apartment.
We’re all very tired & very hot & some words were said after mum went straight to “no, because I’m paying” when we asked if we (two fat people) could have the room with 2 twin beds and she (a tiny skeleton) could have the small double bed.
#BigFatGreekHoliday #ToxicParents
A lot of parents will do anything for their kids, except let them be themselves.
- #Banksy
#quote #quotes #beyourself #parents #emotionalabuse #toxic #toxicparent #toxicparents #toxicparenting
Woah, a lot of nasty parents here: 😈🔥
https://liveboldandbloom.com/01/emotional-abuse/toxic-parent-quotes
when your anger at your parents' dismissal of you is valid but you still feel the urge to apologize
people pleasing is also a "fight or flight" response...whats it called? Fawning?
Don’t mean to brag but I’m pretty sure that Satan is building a special place in Hell exclusively for my parents.
me: is [names super fucking toxic thing family member did] as toxic as I think it is?
other person: uh yes. extremely, yes. why do you even have to ask?
me: I've been conditioned since a child to believe I'm a lost cause and that I need the abuse to stay on the straight and narrow...you know...gaslighting
other person: jesus christ
The best parents …
#Parents #Relationships #Parenting #NarcissisticAbuse #Survivor #Anxiety #Childhood #Children #ToxicParents #CoerciveControl #HelicopterParents #TigerMom #Sorry #Guilt #GuiltParenting
What was the first book you ever read that helped you realize you had Toxic Parents? For me it was 👇👇👇
#toxicparents #toxicfamily
You never did 😞
#sad #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticparent #toxicfamily #toxicparents #depression #innerchild
I hate when my mother repeating to me " Aren't you ashamed of that? " towards something I like but mother don't... Like, did she wants me to be more shy about my own interests and take more example from her and then become her clone/puppet? :hurb: #childabuse #childhoodtrauma #childhood #teen #toxicpeople #toxicparents #quote #abuse
Had to reschedule my therapy appointment because my mom & I spent all morning screaming at each other. (Bc she doesn’t respect boundaries). Now I have no spoons left for ANYTHING. My mom ruins so many things for me. It’s so sad. #toxicparents #narcissiticabuserecovery #narcmoms
Roast to toxic parents who force you to miss out on political events in the name of wanting to spend more time with grandchildren.
