Stefani Goerlich

Award-Winning Author, Clinical Sexologist, & Certified Sex Therapist. 
Clinical, Media, & Intimacy Consulting. 
“The intersection of all the most interesting Venn diagrams.”

2025-11-04

Giving my midterm presentation on the Epistomology of Technology tonight; so of course I’m rocking my QR tank, Clippy earrings and 8bit hourglass hair clip. #weloveatheme

Stefani wearing the outfit described in the post
2025-11-01

The three phases of womanhood:

“I’m a mouse, duh.”

“I’m the COOL coworker.”

“Fuck it, I’m an anglerfish”

A pic of the mouse costume from Mean girls, a pic of a teacher dressed like Ms Frizzle, and a pic of Stefani in a sequin anglerfish costume
2025-10-27

Does anyone have a Sora invite code they can send my way? I’m trying to prove a point in one of my PhD classes.

2025-09-22

Hey, question:

Who do I know that knows people at HushMail? Ideally someone with decision making authority on the legal/compliance side of things. @wendynather, you know everything, lol. Any friends on this team?

2025-09-05

I made 350 “cybersecurity starter packs” to give out at the ATSA national conference this month. Each one has a sticker, a usb condom, a webcam cover, and a card with 10 easy security habits. I’ll also be presenting on Tuesday the 16th- stop by and say hello!

Close up of security starter packBin full of giveaway packs
2025-08-08

@Rastal @jwgoerlich It’s almost as if his point was that *other* (less tech savvy/more vulnerable) would be hurt by this…

2025-08-01

Looking for an expert in the philosophy of robots to interview for an episode of Securing Sexuality. Is that you? Or someone you know? Reach out!
#robots #philosophy #digitalethics #cybersecurity #hackers

2025-07-19

@kwayk42 I’m still fairly new myself, but I’m happy to teach!

2025-07-19

@witch_of_winter I have 4! Will happily provide for a game, lol

2025-07-18

Very niche question:

Who in the #infosec community 1) plays #mahjongg and 2) is gonna be at #Blackhat? I’d love to set up some cocktail bar pickup games while we’re in town.

A penguin playing mahjongg
2025-07-09

@Sempf @jwgoerlich @Gabrielle

We’ll have a double-signature stamp made, to minimize the length of awkwardness, lol

Stefani Goerlich boosted:
J Wolfgang Goerlichjwgoerlich@infosec.exchange
2025-07-07

Securing Sexuality: the book. Tech now drives how we meet, date, marry, raise kids. Attacks on it undermines our agency and privacy. This book, written with @Tzefira_Neviah, helps therapist, coaches, and activists think like punk, act like a hacker, and take back control over our private lives. Coming soon.

2025-05-10

@neurovagrant @jwgoerlich Sadly, it wasn’t recorded! :-(

You’ll have to catch me live next time.

Stefani Goerlich boosted:
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2025-05-10

Stefani Goerlich giving the closing keynote at #BSidesDetroit. “We’re confusing information sharing with intimacy and surveillance with love.” — @Tzefira_Neviah

2025-03-01

So incredibly humbled and honored by the kind words offered about my work. 🩷🩷🩷

Stefani in a pink sweater standing next to a graffitied wall. There is a quote that reads “Goerlich has emerged as an important voice in the field of sex therapy…a guide to help vanilla people and their kinky partners look across the divide with curiosity and empathy, to understand and affirm their own erotic selves, and to create bridges toward a mutually satisfying sex life.” By Caroline Maykut from the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy.
2024-09-19

My kid, a 2x kidney transplant recipient got a letter in the mail from UNOS- the United Network for Organ Sharing. We thought it might be a letter from his donor.

Nope. Yet another data breach.

2024-09-11

What can I say… he brought the receipts. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Satirical pic of 80’s TV alien ALF with a kitten between two slices of bread captioned “Proof that Trump’s claims about illegal aliens are true”
2024-07-02

Hey, hacker friends! Do you hack dating websites? Have you ever poked around inside their matching algos? Or pen-tested their profile privacy? Do you wanna be in a book?! Well have I got an offer for you!!

(Seriously, if you do this kind of thing? HMU)

Moira Rose at a laptop saying there’s nothing here but hot singles in my area
2024-06-20

@Sempf @jwgoerlich in mine line of work? We prefer them a bit more obvious.

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