I’ve boosted a bunch of things here about trans rights and written to my MP on the subject a few times and donated to a few relevant places. It’s not really about trans people for me though. I expect they are all on the same spectrum from awful to awesome as everyone else, probably with a similar distribution. The ones I know are at the good end, but that’s not exactly an unbiased sample set.
Gender is not something I consider part of my self identity, so the idea someone would consider it such an important part of theirs that they’d go through a load of effort and risk persecution to change how they present it is alien to me. That doesn’t matter. I don’t need to understand your motivations to respect and support a choice that harms no one and brings you happiness.
But each of the times trans people are in the news, there are two kinds of people involved. There are trans people, doing people things and wanting to be treated as people. And there are others who have decided that they get to be the arbiter of how other people define their self identity and are trying to use social pressure, legal pressure, violence, or some combination to enforce their beliefs. And I have a very strong opinion that those people can go fuck themselves.
And this is never about trans people. They’re just the current most visible target for these people. They weren’t the first and they probably won’t be the last. And the only way that they will be the last is if enough people push back against the bigots.
Most people have a self identity that has some things that are personal choice, some that are part of early childhood experiences, and some that are genetically biased. I don’t need to know which of these are responsible for any part of yours. If your gender, hair or skin colour, religion, favourite Linux distro or sports team, or whatever are important parts of your self identity, the important thing for me is that you think they’re important. If you define yourself in ways I don’t understand, then we’re different kinds of weird people. If you decide you have to police how other people define themselves, we have a problem.