Ok this is a stupid question, but am I not supposed to relate with the OP? Is it not just a normal part of being human. I get my most frustrated when I get something “wrong” like the OP describes because I didn’t prevent what I was trying to prevent. It’s not constantly distressing by any means…just when I get an interaction incorrect.

I have to use a headset all day for work for work. When I have Teams open on my computer, it occasionally decides to completely break my microphone until I close Teams. No idea why the fuck it does that or how Microsoft manages to mess up voice input for a program that uses voice input…

Can you describe it to me like I’m the stupidest person on the planet? Idk what it is but there are always too many words involved and I get confused.

Yeah…I’ve always found it odd how internet dwellers seem to completely ignore the mentall illness and drug issues that cause and exacerbate much of homelessness.

You’re being down voted, but I feel you. It’s why I picked one of the largest instances when I joined, despite what other Lemmings tend to tell people to do. Picking a small instance is a bad idea because they die out like that. I’ve seen several fairly significant smaller instances die out at this point. I don’t want to wake up and my account suddenly vanished one day because the host forgot about it.

I’m really out of the loop. Why is lemm.ee shutting down? I thought it was one of the more sizeable instances.

I just turned off One Drive when I got Windows 11 and have had zero issues

I relate heavily to the OP. Especially the past couple of days. I always just seem to get in trouble for just existing the wrong way… particularly at work.

What am I supposed to even talk about in therapy? I’ve tried it numerous times over the past several years, and I don’t know what the fuck to say. And then when I do try to say something, the therapist latches onto some simpler and more obvious issue that I don’t care about OR just ignores my concerns altogether.

I think therapy seems to work out better if you have one obvious, specific problem. Like I knew someone who was having panic attacks. Therapy helped her. I knew someone who was hallucinating and cutting herself. Medications combined with therapy helped her.

But if I don’t have the one specific obvious problem, then both myself and therapists seem to get lost and the resulting sessions are ineffective .

Yeah, drama can be pretty fantastic if you’re not the one involved. It’s when you’re involved by the drama that it sucks major ass.

Any time I see Dr. Oz, I immediately disregard anything as snake oil. The man is a terrible human being…preying on the desperate so he can line his pockets with more cash. He was already a very successful surgeon making boatloads of money. How much of a greedy asshole can you be to then start lying to people to get more when you’re already rich?

Lmaoo omg I totally relate when you talk about kind of wishing you were just gay because it would be easier! I have thought about this myself, really! Honestly, sometimes I’m not even really sure because I do have a tendency to find the same sex attractive in my limited way. I’m probably on the bi and ace spectrums in some limited capacity, but sometimes it makes me wonder if it’s something hidden deep down inside somehow or wish to just be gay!

Lmaoo my coworker always talks about the baby smell too. I find it funny because I have never sniffed a baby hahaha

Thank you very much for sharing your story! I’m sorry to hear about your friend, btw. But I’m glad you got to share your life with them for so long. I’m lucky that I have a really good friend right now too at least! They have a family of their own so it’s not as if we can mutually prioritize each other to the same extent, but that’s ok.

Omg I had the same experience during puberty lol. Even into my late teens and early twenties, my mom would kind of hug me about it. When I still wasn’t taking anyone home, she used to drop hints that it would be ok if I was a lesbian and had a girlfriend lol! Thankfully at this point, people stop bringing it up haha.

Yeah I’m definitely working on trying to get rid of the FOMO at this point in time. I have a lot of great people in my life tbh and I’m trying to branch out and be a bit more social with things that scare me. But even if I do, I’ll never really have the “standard” human experience. Gotta figure out how to eventually be ok with that.

I’m not a spiritual or religious person, myself. I briefly looked into Taoism, but it seems that the westernized idealized version of it isn’t what Taoism necessarily is in reality.

Thanks for your offer to chat! Hope you don’t mind if I’m just giving a long winded response here lol.

I found out about asexuality in my teens. Even today, whenever I approach asexual communities, I find that most of them are filled with very young coming of age people who are so extremely “terminally online” to the point where it makes me a bit uncomfortable. And I’m saying this as someone who is terminally online myself. It’s difficult to explain what I mean and I hope I am not offending other asexuals out there. But it’s refreshing to hear from your perspective, as an asexual in the “real world”, with thoughts, feelings, and experiences based more in reality as opposed to in an online hypersensitive safety zone.

Hope the best for you!

I saw in a patient’s chart recently that they were unable to perform a breast biopsy because her breasts were too small. I was like goddamn.

I don’t think I’ve ever really spoken to an older asexual on the internet before. I know it’s a tangent from the main OP, but do you think you could expand on some things for me?

1. When did you realize that you were asexual? And how did you deal with it considering it’s a relatively new term that wouldn’t have really been spoken of when you were growing up.

2. Do you find your life fulfilling? I have a social need, but not a sexual need, so it makes it frustrating knowing that I need people, but that a relationship with 99% of the population doesn’t make sense. (Yes, you can find other asexuals out there, but we are exceedingly rare and there are not going to be many, if at all, in your same city.)

I’m younger than you, but not so young that my life as a whole is still being figured out or anything. I’m in my 30s and now secure in my career, but still struggle with social things and figuring out what I need for my life to be fulfilling. I’ve likely been a lifelong asexual. I’ve also never had a partner.

Anyway, sorry if that is too much to ask lol, but I was just curious!

Sleep deprivation is literally a torture technique. I am thankful that people do choose to try to raise children with this in mind, but it just sounds like literal torture to me. Even with people who tell me how much they supposedly love raising kids, I see the immense pain and suffering that they go through literally all the time.

My guess is that some powerful hormones must be released or something after having a child to make people think that they are enjoying their life even though an outside observer can view their immense suffering.

Oh yes, duh. Sorry I don’t know why my brain was thinking I needed to remove the CPU itself lol. I see where it unscrews on the board. I’ll see if I can replace the thermal paste.

I replaced the battery today anyway as I have been wanting to do so.

I am able to manually trigger a crash in Linux Mint when I do NOT have the CPU throttled. I was monitoring the temps and it looks like they stay 5-10C cooler when it is throttled. However, the crash occurred most recently when the temp was supposedly “only” 75C, which I would think wouldn’t cause a crash in a laptop.

I don’t think so, but I guess I can’t be totally sure. I am able to manually trigger a crash in Linux Mint when I do not have the CPU manually throttled. If I open up a bunch of tabs of YouTube videos, the system hangs. I was monitoring the temps as I was doing so. It looks like I could push the CPU temps into the 80s and briefly into the 90s while doing this. However, when the system crashed, the temp was reading at 75C. My understanding is that this temp shouldn’t trigger a system hang. However, it could be that there was a large spike in temp and the monitoring program (PSensor) wasn’t able to catch up on time before the freeze.

I feel like I can pull out of the parking space quicker and easier if the nose of my car is facing towards the street.

Also, and this sounds silly so please don’t judge too hard lol…

I got a new car recently. My old car had front parking sensors that would beep in increasing frequency the closer you are to an item. My new car does not have front parking sensors. My new car has both a backup cam and rear parking sensors. So it is sometimes easier to back into a space.

I’m assuming since you’re older now, you’re out of that environment, yeah? It’s one silver lining in things I guess. If your teddy bear were sentient I’m sure it would have hugged you back and told you everything was gonna be ok.

Honestly, for me it’s a bit weird. I’ve actually forgotten a lot of the specifics of my childhood. I know my dad would do it, but I don’t really remember any specific moments in time or what my responses were. Memory is a weird thing like that. I guess because it was so long ago or something. Dunno.