< Klaus > The flip side of this though is that sometimes other people are wrong, especially where it comes to opinions that could be considered extreme or radical in any sense of the words (yes even things that most left-leaning individuals see as very basic things to believe), and if you're a very opinionated person whose opinions can be described this way, you HAVE to understand that, at least depending on where you socialize (e.g. in general settings) and what your opinions specifically are, it is VERY likely that you will alienate a LOT of people. This is ESPECIALLY true if you have a habit of phrasing your opinions abrasively or authoritatively.

< Klaus > However, even in these cases, I do not yell at the person or even interact with them. I do not demand them to re-explain their stances in clearer language (not the least of reasons being that they probably can't). I just settle down, go "That's kind of weird, I think I'm going to ignore that", and go about my day.

< Klaus > You know the thing where some people have bad reading comprehension and basically just pick out a few words they recognize from whatever you said and get angry with you because of what they think about those topics?

I feel like I get a simulation of that any time I see a sentence that mentions some very emotionally-charged things and where I sometimes block people for their opinions on it, but the sentence is so incoherently written that I genuinely can't tell what opinion this person has, just a vague sense of being pissed off at opinions they COULD have.

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< Klaus > If you are a highly opinionated person and you make this a big part of your personality, that's not always inherently a bad thing, BUT you need to know that, not only will people sometimes disagree with you, your opinions will also sometimes be wrong. So you will need to know when to stick to your guns and when to listen to criticism, and you'll need to know how to gracefully accept that something you've deeply believed wasn't correct.

< Klaus > Got stressed as fuck last night and split a DPD holder who's a fictive of Cesare from "Bigtop Burger" and a music introject of our Spamton playlist, particularly the song "i am now going to bark at you".

What with the puppet themes. I don't think the DPD thing should be surprising.

< Perzoreth > I don't like when I make posts about my difficulty with gender and people assume that I have not transitioned yet and that, if I transitioned, I would feel differently. I have been transitioning for five years. The way I feel when people assume I have never transitioned is similar to how I feel when people call me "she" - they're invalidating everything I've done these past five years, whether they think they are or not.

Your fat body is not a problem that has to be solved.

< Perzoreth > I've thought about gender, and I'm going to omit the conclusions I came to that helped this conclusion make complete and total sense to me with no further questions, but.

I have finally found a definition for "man" that I believe includes everyone who is a man (including some women) and excludes everyone who is not a man (including masculine non-binary people who aren't men, or man-adjacent genders that aren't men per se).

My definition of "man" is "someone who has an internal sense that they are a man".

Unfortunately...This still doesn't include me. Because I don't think I do have that internal sense that I'm a man. I just feel like I want to be a man.

It's especially confusing because, being in a system with a certain level of shared cognition, there are moments where a lot of male/masculine headmates will front at once, and we'll all be doing the same thing, and they'll be getting masculine gender euphoria from it, but I won't. To them, it's like the thing we're doing right now reminds them of the fact that they're a man/similar to a man, but I don't understand that and I don't get that. I get something similar, but not for things that make me feel like a man, for things that make me feel like me.

If anyone doesn't understand why wanting to be a gender and being a gender aren't, in my view, the same thing 100% of the time, I can make a post explaining that, but it has to do with the reasons someone would use one gender label over another similar gender label.

I guess I just. Have to figure out how to give myself an internal sense that I'm a man. I'm not sure how, but. I really hope I can find a way.

< Klaus > I think people's misconceptions about me fit into two categories:

-They see how online I am and how openly frustrated I am with a lot of things and they confuse me with the kind of person who also uses the internet a lot and feels the way I do but who actually goes out of their way to argue and be hostile to strangers about it (I do not behave this way at all and have had people mistake me for someone who does)

-They see that I have a fairly high degree of self-awareness about my mental health problems and that I have spent a long time knowing myself to have certain identities, and they translate this into me having my shit much more together than I actually do

< Klaus > Also as someone who runs several (private) Discord servers: I do think that running a Discord server is (usually)* a form of community leadership. I see myself as someone who is managing several communities. I enforce my rules, even though I am conflict averse. Even though my servers are private, I still consider them communities that I lead.

*Some exceptions would include: an emoji server, (sometimes) an extremely small server for an established friend group to share things in, etc.

< Klaus > Am I the only one who thinks that running a public Discord server is a form of leading a community?

I was having a conversation with someone who left a server they were in because there were certain rules the owner wasn't enforcing and it made them (rightfully) uncomfortable. However, they also made excuses for why the owner wasn't enforcing its own rules, and they didn't seem to agree with me that those excuses weren't good enough for someone running a public Discord server.

Then I realized that I was holding this person to the standards of a community leader, but my friend was holding this person to the standards of an individual handling an interpersonal conflict where it's hard to set boundaries. If my friend was thinking of the owner of the server as not just Someone Doing Something For Fun but Someone Who's In Charge Of A Community, they might have a different perspective than me.

Drawn one week before surgery #babyfur #kidfur #ageregression

< Perzoreth > Good news: After making another Tumblr account, I've finally found it easier to find people online I can discuss some of my gender issues with. They are helping.

Bad news: It's all a little bit overwhelming, because I'm having to navigate multiple conversations with strangers at once, who have varying levels of context about my issues (some of them have looked at most of my blog posts, some of them have only seen one), and they all have very different perspectives, which isn't a bad thing at all but it does mean I have to accommodate a lot at once.

< Jasper > We went to an event at a local forest park today! It was about worms, where you could learn about them and the role they play in the ecosystem!

I took my worm plush and got to show him to people. I also got to make a lot of crafts there, including some postcards and cloth patches. I'm going to send some of them to my friends and partners!

Our roommate decided to go with us, and a lot of his friends were there (since she knows a lot of people) so I got to meet some of his friends!

Pokesona art go brr #OC

Obsessed with Date Everything and desperately in love with Teddy <3

Here's my OC, Little Bear, who is based on my own childhood teddy bear I made when I was a kid!

#DEBTSART #DEBTSOC #dateeverything #dateeverythingoc #humanoc #humanoicoc #furryoc #furry #furryart #bear #teddybear #plush #plushie