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Jazz Rabbit 🐇🏳️‍⚧️madrabbit@chaos.social

2025-06-10

@elilla the kids are all right for real

@FinalGirl it hit me for critical damage at the time too. I’m so sorry* you can relate.

When you’re buried under the weight of a sackful of rocks, it’s maddening to hear them try to debate whether a single pebble of it is actually anything at all.

* sympathy, not apology

@FinalGirl I always think of this metaphor from “Healing From Hidden Abuse” by Shannon Thomas.

“I often relate the process that survivors go through as ‘collecting pebbles.’ One pebble represents a single, negative encounter… [but] there might be an awareness that something isn't quite right.”

“Over time, recognizing the pebbles (hurtful moments) causes the bag to become very heavy—too heavy to carry anymore.”

Pebbles are people telling us who they are.

A screen shot of a page from the book referenced in the body of this post. It reads,

In
order for the pattern of abuse to be
seen, survivors will experience many
episodes that leave them deeply hurt.
Psychological abuse is not a one-and-
done type of harm. I often relate the
process that survivors go through
as "collecting pebbles." One pebble
represents a single, negative encoun-
ter with a psychological abuser.
In the early stages of a relationship,
there might be an awareness that
something isn't quite right. A survivor
will have a few pebbles in their fic-
tional bag. The bag isn't very heavy
and only holds a couple of weird or
hurtful moments with the abuser.
Certainly not enough evidence of
toxicity to cut a family member from
your life, quit a job, break up with a
boyfriend / girlfriend, leave a church,
and most definitely not enough to
end a marriage. They are only a few
negative moments, right? At this

Screen shot of the next page, reading:

[At this] point, survivors will rationalize that
nobody is perfect, and everyone has
character defects. Good days and bad
days. It is human nature to look at
one, two, three, or four unpleasant
moments with people and not take
them too seriously. We often shrug off
these moments and move on.
Over
time, recognizing the pebbles (hurtful
moments) causes the bag to become
very heavy - too heavy to carry any-
more. Many survivors describe being
crushed under the weight of the abuse
and the chronic dysfunction of the
abuser.
However, toxic people like to isolate
one incident at a time. They argue that
what they said, or did, was not that
big of a deal. They want to deal with
one pebble at a time and not look at
the entire weight of the abuse.
They
accuse survivors of "focusing on the
past" or they say things like, "The
problem is that you won't forgive me…”

@YouAreCarrying I

“You’re so strong!” #disability
#ChronicPainMemes

https://thisisindexed.com/2025/06/thanks-i-hate-it/

A graph drawn on an index card, with the Y axis labeled: Praise for being independent
The X axis is labeled: Support you have

A point near the top of Y and the start of X reads: The worst kind of compliment

@ColesStreetPothole I see nothing wrong here

@WEATHERISHAPPENING nice

@cabel I have had a blind houserabbit, and he was the cleverest little devil I have ever known. It barely slowed him down. My sympathies.

Seven years ago I realized that a potential ultimate question for life, the universe, and everything could be, "How many years is it going to take for Jazz to figure out that she’s a girl?”

It's been seven years of learning how to live, and how to feel joy and love. it's been worth every minute.
#happybirthday

I am the square of a prime number years old today. That hasn’t happened for a while. #happybirthday

https://mastodon.me.uk/@DreadShips/114550640357419963 #BigBoatStuck

The sickos guy meme where a guy stands at a window going “yes ha ha ha… YES” but it’s a cat girl going

“NyA ... HA HA
нA... NYA!”

The bit where I move from “solving the problems that keep me from just building the rest of the hardware in bulk” to “actually building the rest of the hardware in bulk” should feel good. I am rather annoyed that it does not.

My brainmeats are defective. They should not feel sad and discouraged about hitting a production target.

The Cursed Technology Ball Pit and Day Spa is here for you

https://kinopio.club/cursed-technology-ball-pit-and-day-spa-84UABXkuqsjv6EMOLmTPo?present=true

@xxv These look so comfy to use omg

@nora Can I say they look like UI widgets from OSX circa 2004?

Can see them hovering over horizontal white blue pin stripes.

@leah Thank you for posting this, it popped up exactly at the moment that I was looking for an appropriate license for the witch lights.

License adopted!

I'm reminded that I strongly relate to this comic: https://wondermark.com/c/1548/

@gsuberland I’m happy for you for discovering it wasn’t needed so quickly 😊

@ghost_bird me, reaping all these wands: well this sucks, what the fuck

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