#breakingSilence

Asley HarperAsley_Harper
2025-12-31

Taking Away the Monster’s Power

There was a Threads post I read last night that stayed with me long after I closed the app. It was about sexual-abuse survivors and how, for many, the deepest wound isn’t only what happened. It’s how their families respond after. One comment read something like, “Parents feel shame because they failed to do the one thing they were supposed to do: protect their child. Out of that shame, they deny it ever happened. And after denying it for so long, the silence itself becomes real.”

That line hit me hard because I know that silence. I’ve lived with it.

When something horrific happens in a family, the natural instinct should be to protect and comfort. But for many survivors, the opposite happens. The adults retreat behind fear and shame, rewriting the story so they can live with themselves. According to trauma psychologists, denial is a common defense mechanism when the truth threatens a person’s sense of identity. A 2018 study published in Frontiers in Psychology found that families dealing with abuse often enter what researchers call “protective denial”—a state where acknowledging the trauma would mean admitting they failed at love’s most basic duty: safety.

That’s what builds the silence.

In families like mine, silence doesn’t just linger. It mutates. It becomes a living thing, a presence that sits at the dinner table and watches TV with you. Everyone senses it, but no one names it. It’s easier to pretend it isn’t there than to face what it means. Over time, the silence becomes the monster in the house: invisible, but powerful enough to shape every conversation, every relationship, every unspoken rule about what can and cannot be said.

That’s the monster I write about.

In The Ordinary Bruja, Marisol lives inside that same haunted quiet—the generational kind that passes from mother to daughter like an heirloom nobody wants. Her mother Josefina tried to protect her the only way she knew how: by wrapping truth in stories, lullabies, and warnings disguised as folklore. It’s something I’ve seen in so many immigrant and Latine families—pain gets encoded in parables because direct confrontation feels dangerous or disrespectful. Storytelling becomes the only safe language for survival.

When I write, I’m not just crafting fiction. I’m translating silence. Every ghost, every haunting, every ancestral whisper in my books represents something once buried. Writing becomes a kind of exorcism; a way to let those spirits finally speak.

People sometimes ask why my stories lean into darkness. I tell them it’s because I grew up in a world that pretended darkness didn’t exist. Writing horror and magical realism lets me drag it into the light. Horror, at its best, doesn’t glamorize pain, instead it forces us to look at what we’d rather avoid. Like the psychologist Carl Jung said, “What you resist, persists.” By writing the very things I was told to keep quiet about, I stop them from persisting in me.

Silence is powerful because it isolates. It convinces survivors that they’re alone in their truth, when the reality is heartbreakingly common. According to the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN), about 1 in 9 girls and 1 in 20 boys experience sexual abuse before age 18. Yet fewer than 38% of these crimes are reported. And of those reported, many families respond with disbelief or hostility, which re-traumatizes survivors and pushes them deeper into isolation. That’s how silence becomes its own ecosystem of harm.

For years, I didn’t understand that silence is a form of participation. When we choose not to speak, we hand the microphone to the monster. The more everyone avoids naming it, the more it grows. It slithers between generations, showing up as anxiety, addiction, or perfectionism—disguises that look different but share the same root: unspoken pain.

In writing The Ordinary Bruja, I decided I was done letting the silence win. Through Marisol, I took away the monster’s mask. Her journey isn’t about becoming fearless. It’s about facing what her family refused to confront. When she begins to see her ancestors’ ghosts, she’s really seeing what they hid from her: the pain, the guilt, and the truths that were too heavy to hold.

I’ve learned that every survivor’s story of healing starts with naming. That first whisper of “This happened to me” is an act of rebellion against shame. Shame thrives in secrecy, and truth starves it. When survivors speak, even through fiction, they reclaim their narrative. Research from trauma expert Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score, explains that storytelling helps survivors integrate fragmented memories and rebuild a coherent sense of self. In other words, telling the story—whether aloud, on paper, or through art—is literally how we rewire our brains toward healing.

That’s why I write.

I don’t write because I enjoy the dark; I write because I refuse to let it win. I write to remind myself that even if no one else names the monster, I can. And once I do, it loses its grip.

There’s a particular kind of freedom that comes when you finally drag the unspoken into the light. It’s painful, yes—but it’s also purifying. Every time I describe the ghost, or give a voice to a silenced woman, I feel a piece of that generational weight lift. It doesn’t disappear overnight. Healing never does. But the act of storytelling, of choosing to remember and speak, is a daily declaration: I survived, and the monster doesn’t get to live rent-free anymore.

Denial doesn’t protect anyone. It only delays the inevitable reckoning. Silence is not safety. It’s surrender.

So, yes, my monsters talk. They whisper, cry, and sometimes sing. But they’re mine now. They don’t walk freely through my house anymore.

And that, to me, is what real magic looks like.

#breakingSilence #familyDenial #generationalTrauma #healingThroughWriting #magicalRealism #ownVoicesFiction #survivorStories #theOrdinaryBruja #traumaRecovery

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Poetic Bipolar Mindpoeticbipolarmind
2025-09-07

Behind every “I’m fine” may be a story untold. 🌑 “My Door’s Key” speaks the language of silent battles, locked emotions, and the courage to let others in. Read the full poem on Poetic Bipolar Mind.

poeticbipolarmind.blog/my-door

standingogether_fr 🟣 🎗️standingtogether_fr@kolektiva.social
2025-07-24

Lettre d'informations de #StandingTogether

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Mardi soir (2025-07-22) à Tel Aviv, plus d'un millier d'entre nous ont marché avec des sacs de farine à la main, lors d'une manifestation d'urgence que nous avons organisée contre la campagne de famine du gouvernement israélien à Gaza.

Nous avons marché parce que nous ne pouvons pas rester silencieux pendant que la nourriture est refusée à des millions de personnes.

Nous ne pouvons pas continuer à vivre normalement pendant que les otages sont abandonnés et que Gaza est effacée.

Nous sommes incrédules face à ce que fait notre gouvernement.

Nous sommes écœurés par les images qui inondent nos téléphones chaque jour : des enfants squelettiques gisant immobiles dans des lits d'hôpitaux surpeuplés, des familles faisant bouillir des herbes pour le dîner, des mères essayant de calmer des bébés qui n'ont pas eu de lait depuis des semaines, et des enfants fouillant les ordures juste pour trouver un morceau de nourriture.

Ce ne sont pas des images lointaines d'une crise humanitaire.

Ces gens sont nos voisins.

Ils sont à une heure de nous, juste de l'autre côté de la clôture.

Alors que nous suivons une routine quotidienne qui ressemble encore à une vie normale, ils vivent et meurent dans une réalité qui a été conçue pour les détruire.

Il n'y a eu aucune couverture de la famine massive à Gaza dans les médias israéliens, et c'est exactement pourquoi nous agissons davantage.

Jeudi 2025-07-17, nous étions devant la chaîne 12 pour exiger qu'ils brisent le silence.

Ce matin, nous avons lancé une campagne WhatsApp. Nos militants ont envoyé plus de 700 messages directement aux journalistes israéliens, les exhortant à rapporter la vérité.

Ce soir, nous manifestons devant les studios de la chaîne 11 (Kan) à Jérusalem, exigeant qu'ils brisent le silence.

Il n'y a aucun moyen de justifier la famine massive.

Il n'y a aucun cadre moral, aucune version de la sécurité, qui puisse expliquer ces morts et exiger d'affamer des millions de personnes.

Et c'est exactement pourquoi nous sommes dans les rues.

Parce que quand ils appellent aux horreurs, nous répondons en nous organisant.

Nous devenons plus forts face à la brutalité parce que nous savons qu'il y a une autre voie à suivre.

Il y a un moyen de renvoyer ce gouvernement raciste et messianique chez lui : en construisant le pouvoir par le bas, en tant que nouvelle majorité de Palestiniens et de Juifs qui refusent de s'abandonner les uns les autres ou d'abandonner cette terre.

Nous n'arrêterons pas de nous battre.

Nous ne permettrons pas à ce gouvernement de nous réduire au silence.

Nous continuerons à nous mobiliser et à descendre dans les rues encore et encore jusqu'à ce que les crimes de guerre prennent fin.

Nous arrêterons cette guerre, nous ramènerons les otages à la maison et nous construirons un avenir enraciné dans la paix et la dignité.

En solidarité,
Standing Together

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# English version

Yesterday (2025-07-22) in Tel Aviv, over a thousand of us marched with sacks of flour in our hands, in an emergency protest that we organized against the Israeli government’s starvation campaign in Gaza.

We marched because we cannot remain silent while food is withheld from millions. We cannot go on with life as usual while the hostages are abandoned and Gaza is erased.

We are in disbelief of what our government is doing. We are sickened by the images flooding our phones every day of skeleton children lying motionless in overcrowded hospital beds, of families boiling weeds for dinner, of mothers trying to soothe babies who haven’t had milk in weeks, and of children digging through garbage just to find a scrap of food.

These are not distant images from a humanitarian crisis. These people are our neighbors. They are one hour away from us, just across the fence. While we move through a daily routine that still resembles normal life, they are living and dying in a reality that has been engineered to destroy them.

There has been no coverage of the mass starvation in Gaza in Israeli media, and that’s exactly why we’re taking more action. Last Thursday, we were outside Channel 12 demanding they break the silence. This morning, we launched a WhatsApp campaign. Our activists sent over 700 messages directly to Israeli journalists urging them to report the truth. Tonight, we’re protesting outside the Channel 11 (Kan) studios in Jerusalem, demanding they break the silence.

There is no way to justify mass starvation. There is no moral framework, no version of security, that can explain away these deaths and requires starving millions. And that is exactly why we are in the streets.

Because when they call for the horrors, we respond by organizing. We grow stronger in the face of brutality because we know there is another way forward. There is a way to send this racist, messianic government home: by building power from below, as a new majority of Palestinians and Jews who refuse to give up on each other or on this land.

We will not stop fighting. We will not allow this government to silence us. We will continue to mobilize, and to take the streets again and again until the war crimes come to an end.

We will stop this war, we will bring the hostages home and we will build a future rooted in peace and dignity.

In Solidarity,
Standing Together

#DontStaySilent #TelAvivProtests
#StandingTogether 💜 #FreePalestine
#TwoStateSolution #EndTheOccupation
#EndTheApartheid #EndTheGazaMassacre #Gaza #famine #starvation #GazaGenocide #MarcheDeLaFarine #FlourMarch #StopWar #Information #Desinformation #BreakingSilence #BreakingTheSilenceIsrael

Des militants manifestent devant la chaîne d'information Kan11, exigeant qu'elle couvre la famine d'origine humaine à Gaza.


Activists protest in front of the Kan11 News Broadcaster demanding of them to show coverage of the man-made famine in Gaza
Sim Barrsimbarr@c.im
2025-06-25

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The first hour of the #AmericanMasters #documentary on #JanisIan - #BreakingSilence - is especially remarkable! Everyone should know her story ... You probably don't!

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2025-06-21

#Music #RockAndRoll

Watched a very interesting (to me) 2 hr episode of AmericanMasters on #PBS about the life & career of #JanisIan.

I have a few recordings of hers but didn't realize how meaningful her music was starting with #SocietysChild (1967), which spoke to the then (& still now in some places) controversial issue of inter-racial dating & marriage, thru #BreakingSilence (1992), which spoke to the issues of gender identity & the holocaust.

If you haven't seen this documentary yet, you can watch it here:

pbs.org/wnet/americanmasters/j

The Omen Mediatheomenmedia
2024-11-26

Discover the power of silent voices speaking volumes. "Makayla's Voice: A Letter to the World" teaser is now trending, bringing a tale of love, resilience, and the beauty of neurodiversity to your screens. Don't miss this heartwarming story on Netflix.

Check out the teaser right here: theomenmedia.com/post/the-hear

Rohit Mehtabloggermehta
2024-09-05

Director exploited actress Soumya as a 'sex slave', repeatedly abused her under the guise of calling her his daughter.
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2024-08-14

Nikhil Patel Opens Up About Marriage Drama with Dalljiet Kaur: Clarifies Allegations & Family Struggles.

Nikhil Patel Opens Up About Marriage Drama with Dalljiet Kaur: Clarifies Allegations & Family Struggles. Nikhil Patel Breaks Silence on Marriage Drama with Dalljiet Kaur: Clarifies Allegations and Family Struggles 1. . . . . Nikhil Patel has issued a detailed statement addressing the ongoing…

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