Taught by God to Love

A Day in the Life

“But concerning brotherly love you have no need that I should write to you, for you yourselves are taught by God to love one another.” — 1 Thessalonians 4:9

There are days when I read a verse like this and feel both comforted and exposed. Paul tells the believers in Thessalonica that they are “taught by God” to love one another. The Greek word he uses is theodidaktoi—literally, “God-taught.” That phrase arrests me. Love, according to Paul, is not merely a moral duty or a social expectation; it is a lesson taught directly by God Himself. This kind of love is philadelphia, brotherly affection rooted in shared life in Christ. It is not sentimental. It is covenantal.

When I look at the life of Jesus, I see what it means to be taught by God to love. Jesus loved the fisherman who misunderstood Him, the tax collector who betrayed his people, and even the disciple who would deny Him. He loved not because others were easy to love, but because love flowed from His union with the Father. “God is love” (1 John 4:16). The Greek word agapē there does not describe mere emotion; it describes self-giving, steadfast commitment. Augustine once wrote, “Love God, and do what you will.” He did not mean that love excuses sin. He meant that when our hearts are formed by God’s love, our actions will reflect His character.

The Thessalonian church had already begun to practice this love, yet Paul encourages them to “excel still more” (1 Thessalonians 4:10). Love is not static. It matures. It stretches. It grows in difficult soil. I think about how often love feels unnatural to me. Perhaps you have known what it is to grow up in a home where affection was scarce. Or maybe you have been wounded deeply, and your heart hardened to protect itself. The study reminds us that love does not always come freely because of sin. And that is true. But the gospel does not leave us there.

Paul had already told these believers that God would “increase and abound in love for one another” (1 Thessalonians 3:12). Notice the source. It is God who increases love. The Christian life is not a self-improvement program where I grit my teeth and try harder to be kind. It is a transformation where the Holy Spirit forms Christ’s character in me. As John Stott observed, “Love is not a sentimental emotion but a practical commitment.” That commitment becomes possible when God supplies what we lack.

In the life of Jesus, we see this divine enablement embodied. When He encountered the woman caught in adultery, He did not condone her sin, but neither did He crush her. His love was truthful and restorative. When He washed the disciples’ feet in John 13, He demonstrated that love stoops. He knew Judas would betray Him, yet He washed his feet. That is love taught by God.

If I am honest, there are people I find difficult to love. Perhaps you do as well. The question is not whether love is required; Scripture is clear. The question is how. Paul’s answer is that God Himself becomes our instructor. Through the Holy Spirit, He reshapes our reactions, softens our defenses, and multiplies our capacity to care. The Spirit of God takes the truth that “God is love” and makes it experiential in our relationships.

Sometimes the struggle is not whether we love, but how we express it. You may care deeply but feel awkward putting affection into words. You may serve tirelessly but rarely say, “I love you.” God understands that limitation. He is prepared to teach us expression as well as intention. Love may look like patient listening, a handwritten note, a prayer whispered over someone’s name, or forgiveness extended before it is deserved. In each case, the source is the same: God’s love overflowing through us.

In a culture that often confuses love with affirmation of every desire, the biblical vision is more insightful and enduring. Biblical love seeks the good of the other in light of God’s truth. It refuses to abandon righteousness, yet it refuses to abandon the person either. As C.S. Lewis wrote in Mere Christianity, “Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person’s ultimate good.” That ultimate good is conformity to Christ.

Today, as I consider a day in the life of Jesus, I ask myself: where is God teaching me to love more deeply? Perhaps it is within my own family. Perhaps it is in the church. Perhaps it is toward someone who feels like an enemy. The promise of 1 Thessalonians 4:9 is that I am not left alone in the effort. The same God who commands love supplies it. The same Spirit who raised Christ from the dead dwells within me to empower obedience.

If you are struggling to love someone, do not withdraw in frustration. Bring that name before God. Admit your limitations. Ask Him to teach you. Ask Him to cause His love to overflow. He is the authority on love. And He delights to train His children in what reflects His own heart.

For further reflection on Christian love and spiritual growth, consider this article from The Gospel Coalition: https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/what-is-biblical-love/

As we walk through this day, let us remember that love is not self-generated; it is God-given. And every difficult relationship becomes a classroom where God Himself is the teacher.

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