Discovered a great overview of another reason I'm not a fan of the new macos look... inconsistent iconography. From Apple. They literally wrote the book on design language, but I guess it's not their thing now?
Reading:
https://tonsky.me/blog/tahoe-icons/
The book that Apple wrote: https://dn721903.ca.archive.org/0/items/apple-hig/Macintosh_HIG_1992.pdf