Don't you dare put a date in this format in your dating profile in Feeld:

2025-07-23

It is going to bark at you that phone numbers in profiles are prohibited.

:holdthepain:

#OnlineDating #DatingProfile #date #PhoneNumber #stupid #Feeld

Pro-tip: if you're going to send likes to folks who don't pay for Majestic on Feeld, it pays to have a distinctive name.

Why?

The only thing that people you like who don't pay for Majestic are able to see *clearly* is your name.

A little known feature of Feeld is that when someone likes you, they are placed in your stack so that you can see them and decide to like back or pass.

Note that this seems to be affected by distance, and does not always happen. It happens often enough, however.

Still, having a distinctive name improves your chances of matching when you send a like to someone who does not have Majestic.

I've turned away this way two people who, in all likelihood, hit the wrong button. They were both cishet men. One of them was a Dom. :headache:

I immediately knew they had liked me because of their names.

This is, also, how an ex of mine and I connected. I was relatively new to the platform and had sent her a like (I'd now send a ping). She did not pay attention to my like or my name, I showed up early in her stack, and she liked me back, unaware that I had liked her. Our encounter was the stuff of legends. (7 months later, she shat all over our relationship, but that's another story.)

So, again, use a distinctive handle!

#proitip #dating #OnlineDating #Feeld

Men are so unserious.

Me: What's your relationship style?
Him (M62): Man woman.
Me: Thassit??

#Feeld
#DatingInTheBay
#MiddleAgedHotness

I opened OkCupid and they served me up a banner that says I should join Tinder. The end is near. Match.com has enshittified online dating. I guess it's time to join Feeld and FetLife. #dating #datingapps #tinder #okcupid. #feeld #fetlife #matchdotcom #enshitification #onlinedating

Dear #Feeld users,

Okay, I get it. Sometimes people travel, and they forget to update their profile to indicate what's going on. It sucks when this happens and there is no information in the profile regarding where home is. Even something as imprecise as which US state you live in would be useful, better is when you put in the nearest metropolis to your location.

Doing this helps prevent wasting your time and mine.

There's one behavior that I find insufferable, however. That's when someone decides to browse profiles from a location different from their home, and they don't mention anything in their profile about what's going on.

What does this mean?

Are you going to be here for a few days? A week? A month?

Are you traveling abroad and want to keep browsing your home base? (I did this during my recent trip to Canada.)

Are you moving to my area?

What is it?

When you don't explain, my go-to reaction is to reject your profile. I don't aim to waste a ping on you.

#dating #OnlineDating

I'm leaving #OkCupid today, most likely forever. I've had multiple matches on this platform, but only two of them became intimate.

This is abysmal.

I'm much more successful on #Feeld and #FetLife, and I have the same success rate on OkCupid as I do on #KinkD.

(KinkD is abysmal, but I don't pay for it, and do not feel the need to pay for it. Not paying for OkCupid is unthinkable. It would ignore my dealbreakers, and I'd get inundated by meaningless likes.)

#dating #DatingApps

Feeld dating app - Your nudes and data were publicly available - Cyber Security Services - London

Link

The list of countries where you can't download #Feeld should also be the basis for an automatic State Department travel advisory and maybe some targeted economic sanctions.

https://support.feeld.co/hc/en-gb/articles/14876019037212-Feeld-App-Unavailable-Countries

Good news, everyone.

#Feeld now allows you to send a short message with a ping.

🥳

You don't know how often I've wanted to do this. I'm sure some people thought, "what does this weirdo want with me???" A message would have clarified.

#dating #weirdo

I asked Reddit of my local area for advise on dating apps for Trans people finding cis people and they sent me to Feeld, Thought yeah try it out i've tried like 10 other apps and get nothing.

ALL THE FUCKING PEOPLE WANT TO HOOK UP AGAIN!!!! I WANT CONNECTION & DATES NOT QUICK SEX.

Fuck this all, Dating apps are a fucking shit show for a Trans Submissive Top like me.

#Feeld #DatingApps #TransDating #Dating #LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA

Word to the wise.

I've let my #Feeld subscription lapse, given how buggy the app has been.

I thought that without a subscription, I just wouldn't be able to *see* the profile of people who liked me without a ping.

True, I cannot see them, besides their name.

However, what I did not realize is that it makes the list of people who liked you without pinging you unmanageable. You cannot *pass* or *like* anyone.

Fair enough, but their documentation is not clear about this.

I'm not about to resubscribe. I ran into the same bug that I used to this morning. I got the notification that someone had liked me, but they were nowhere to be found.

:why:

#dating

#Feeld now has an undo button. I repeat. Feeld now has an undo button.

I think you can only undo rejections right now.

I don't recall rejecting someone by mistake. I have sometimes liked someone by mistake, and I have sometimes sent a like rather than a ping, but I don't recall rejecting by mistake.

#dating

Oh, er... yes. I did run into a cockroach today (i.e. a #scammer) on #Feeld.

What tipped me off?

The one picture that appeared to be professionally taken... you know... by a professional photographer.

That and the regurgitation in the profile text waxing poetic about BDSM.

I'm going to post a link to the original picture as a reply to this post. The picture that was used in the profile was cropped, but it was indeed the picture that I found with a reverse image search.

#DatingProfile #DatingPictures #ReverseImageSearch

I've said it before: the #queer and #BDSM worlds are both rather small.

I bring on #Feeld and what do I see but the guy who organizes the bi board games that I go to. 😂

#dating

@renegadejade

I don't do hookups.

Now, for dating...

Feeld used to be the best place for people who are into kink and queer.

However, the update in Nov 2023 has introduced shitty bugs, like getting notifications that someone liked you, but not finding them among your prospects. 🤬

OkCupid used to be my second choice due to its filtering capabilities. I now favor it over Feeld.

I wrote an article about Feeld's bullshit:

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/05/13/i-no-longer-recommend-feeld/

#Feeld #OkCupid

I saw a couple with blurred faces on #Feeld, and I immediately thought of this skit.

#dating #DatingPictures #BlurredFaces

https://youtu.be/YjElsV3r8Xg

BREAKING NEWS AGAIN.

#Feeld decided to flush all the people who liked me or pinged me.

:headache:

I had been cleaning up the obvious mismatches.

Lucky for me, I had time to connect with one person. The other folks were either fakes, or not immediately interesting.

I'm half-expecting this person to say that our connection was a bug.

Note that I would have put it all up to bugs all the way down, except that I have screenshots of the notifications that I got, and they match the name of the people that appeared in my likes...

This is bullshit, on top of bullshit, on top of bullshit.

#dating

BREAKING NEWS!

You know the problem I had with #Feeld? Whereby I would get notifications of pings or likes, but when I went to check, nothing was there?

Well, well...

I went to check now and everybody is there.

:headache:

I have screenshots of the pings, and I have screenshots of the folks that suddenly showed up.

Feeld effectively admitted that their software is not working right by fixing the bloody problem.

FFS!

:why:

#dating

I No Longer Recommend Feeld

The powers that be killed the golden goose.

If you’ve already read this article, please read the updates at the bottom. They are eye-opening.

I’ve complained about the state of Feeld before. Namely, in this article:

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2023/12/04/the-latest-feeld-update-is-a-complete-shitshow

Well… it’s gone from bad to worse. Feeld used to be the application I’d recommend for the gender and sexual minorities. It had its flaws, but there was a critical mass of people on this app that did not exist anywhere else. I was willing to put up with its flaws, if it meant that I was able to find people to be intimate with. I did find such people. Feeld was the number one app for me in terms of numbers.

Feeld has made it really hard now for me to match with anyone. In addition to the preexisting problems that they never fixed, Feeld added new problems with the November update. The major issues I have are now these:

1. It does not matter how I set my search parameters, the app arbitrarily cuts off the number of people I can see. I’ve tried everything. I’ve reset the app. I’ve reinstalled it. I’ve set my distance filter to the max. It does not matter. I’ve complained about this since before their upgrade, repeatedly. They never fixed it.
2. This did not use to happen, but I now get notifications from the app about people who like me or ping me, and when I go to check they are not there. I’ve complained about this repeatedly, too. No fix.
3. There’s no moderation on this platform.

So I’ve told them. After my current subscription ends, I’m deleting my profile. End of the line. So long, and thanks for all the matches!

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Now, don’t get me wrong. I think all the dating apps suck in various ways. Feeld was just the one that sucked the least in my book. Do also note that geography can impact your experience on the apps greatly. In particular, on Feeld I can only guess how many pings I’ve wasted on people who just happen to be passing through because nothing tells me where they are based.

A friend asked me a few weeks back about what dating app he should try. I still mentioned Feeld, but it was negatively, and he decided to pass on it. I cannot blame him. OkCupid was my second choice. He’s now on OkCupid and happy about it.

I’ve also returned to OkCupid, and I’m now matched with five people there. These are all submissive folks. This has never happened before. I’m thinking the gender and sexual minorities are moving to OkCupid, en masse. I’m still not a great fan of OkCupid because it makes it really hard to find people who are into BDSM, but it is better than nothing.

This sucks, big time. Feeld used to be number one. KinkD was number two but only barely. OkCupid was number three. OkCupid is on track now to surpass them all.

Oh, and if you are a sex educator who somehow associates with Feeld, you’re beclowning yourself with your association. Good job! (Yes, I’m looking at you, Evie Lupine.)

Update May 17th, 2024.

Okay, so Feeld proved to me that my conjecture above is completely true. People liked me, or pinged me. I got the notification, but they did not show up in my likes or my pings. How do I know? I brought up the app, and I had 18 likes and pings total. Prior to this, I had one match, and no pings or likes. I connected with one person while the 18 likes were there, but this person hasn’t replied yet.

I know for a fact that some of these folks were those for whom I had received a notification but did not show up. How? I took screenshots of my notification log when I got a notification without the person being in my likes. And yes, I took more screenshots when those folks suddenly showed up.

Among the people there I noticed a few people who, as I recall, I had matched with, but turned out to be flakes. I even recognized one as a nonbinary individual I went on a date with. I did contact him by text. He said he wasn’t sure if he had liked me again, but I think now those people I had matched with before were a bug.

How do I know it was a bug? Well, a few hours later, all those pings and matches were gone again. WTF are they doing at Feeld? This sudden appearance and then disappearance feels like someone was just issuing ad hoc SQL commands into the database and seeing what happened. Then they realized their mistake, and reverted, at least partially. (I still have the new match that I made.)

So if I did not see the pings and likes that people sent to me, what did this mean? I suspect the same thing happened to those people that I had pinged. They got a notification, but I was nowhere to be found in their pings. It means that a good deal of the pings I had been sending were pissed away.

Feeld is an amateur operation. Amateurs can pull the wool over your eyes for a while, but when the shit hits the fan, they reveal themselves for what they really are, amateurs.

Use OkCupid.

Update June 4th, 2024.

Support no longer talks to me. Brilliant!

I also saw something strange. I was going from profile to profile in the app when I landed on the profile of someone who claimed to be from the company and wanting feedback. This happened during the night, so I did not act immediately. By the time morning rolled over, the profile was gone.

I’m now operating under the presumption that this was a scammer trying to grab information out of people.

If it happened to be real, well, that’s a mighty stupid way to gather feedback. How do I know that this person is real? Did they implement a system for us to know that this is real?

Use OkCupid.

Update June 5th, 2024.

Well, well. The same thing that I reported on May 17th, 2024, happened again. Roughly 20 people showed up as people who had liked me or pinged me. This time I acted faster. I culled the straights, and the profiles that appeared flaky to me. I think I had rejected some of those prospects before, I re-rejected them.

I matched with two folks. I’m wondering if I’m now showing up into the prospects of people whom I liked.

The rest of the bugs, however, remain intact.

Use OkCupid.

#AutisticWriters #BDSM #EvieLupine #Feeld #GenderAndSexualMinorities #lgbtqia #OkCupid #queer #YourAutisticLife

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/05/13/i-no-longer-recommend-feeld/

In a dramatic reversal, I'm having better success on #OkCupid than on #Feeld right now.

I'm matched with one genderqueer individual on #Feeld and they are not talking.

On OkCupid, I'm matched with

1. One trans man who has some stuff to deal with in his life before we can date.

2. Another trans man who is not talking.

3. A fem presenting non-binary individual. (We've exchanged a couple of line. Not sure yet if they'll talk or not.)

4. A pansexual boy. He's talking.

5. A gay boy. He's talking too.

#dating