Him:
Like taboo?

Me:
It's ok, but can be a bit boring.. my go-tos are more along the lines of Eldritch Horror or Dead of Winter

Him:
What's that

Me:
Hang on.. You weren't talking about gaming anymore, huh?

#gaming #boardgames #games #fetlife #kink

I just saw the hashtag for Caturday, and was thinking two thoughts at the same time:
- oh, I should post a picture for Caturday
- it's already Sunday here

...the thoughts melded together and came out as "I should post a picture for Cuntday"

That's not a thing. But also.. I mean...

#adhd #audhd #autism #disability #neurodiverse #caturday #Australia #fetlife #kink #bdsm #swearing

I was going to post something the other day about how I had a submissive until about 10 months ago, when we stopped our dynamic.

He is married and his wife had asked him to stop his kink stuff for a time to refocus his energy and time in his marriage and family. He and I had talked when we first started with our thing, and we're very open about how his relationship with his family, and my relationship with Greg, were our priorities and that was how we wanted it. I don't usually do hierarchical relationships, but this suited everyone involved and was a deliberate decision... whereas my issue with hierarchy is that it's often not through deliberate choice, but is just followed because that's "the way it's meant to be".

For some reason the last couple of weeks I'd started thinking about him a fair bit. I had a couple of dreams that he was in, and when I sat down and had a real think about why I was thinking about him I realised it was because I was missing him.

Then, yesterday.. out of the blue, he messaged me on Fetlife. He's reactivated his account, we're chatting again. Things with his wife and family are great and they've agreed that he can go explore his kink side again.

Sometimes the universe is an interesting place.

#relationship #dating #NonMonogamy #kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife

Honestly, as far as kinksters go.. Swingers have to be some of the most whingey little babies I've ever met.

I'm constantly getting messages from swingers complaining that there are no events for them to attend, and when I point out that there are monthly munches they are welcome to attend they complain that it's a kink munch.

Dude, it's Bathurst - the selection pool is small.

Firstly, swinging is a kink. Secondly, if you're not interested in going to the event and you're not bothered to start your own, don't message a complete stranger and about something not being tailor made for you and your dick.

This is exactly why I stopped organising.

#kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife #dating #swinging

Hallo zusammen,
Ich bin #neuhier - hab mit meinem "Alltagsaccount" schon ein paar Erfahrungen bei Mastodon gemacht und langsam war die Sehnsucht groß, eben auch mit Themen, die meine Kollegen nicht unbedingt mitlesen müssen, aktiv zu werden.

Freu mich auf den Austausch hier, zu Themen wie #polyamorie #kink und #consent vor allem im Bereich #erotica. Empfehlt mir gern eure Lieblingsprofile!

Ich schreibe und spreche meine Sachen ein, aktuell gibts die auf #Fetlife zu lesen und zu hören. Bald dann ja vielleicht auch hier.

I often get messaged on Fetlife by people I don't know asking to meet up with them to play.

I don't tend to do this anymore because of covid, so I'll simply respond "sorry, I don't meet up with strangers".

Women and queers tend to message back with something akin to "I totally understand, have a great week!"

Men almost always message back asking how to "not be a stranger", or they start arguing with me that they aren't a stranger because we're chatting/I know their name/we both live in Bathurst etc..

But it's like... why are you, a grown adult, unsure how to not be a stranger to someone? Like is the concept of learning about and becoming friends with another person that much of an alien idea to you?

Also, I'm not a vending machine you pay friendship into until I fuck you - and I get the irony of this, seeing as I often fuck my friends.

#fetlife #dating #kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive

Every damn time a fake Domme posts in the local personals on Fetlife, there's an idiot that goes "I'm interested!!!!"

:headache:

#SexAd #Fetlife #fakes

Now we know why the Heard and McDonald Islands ended up with tariffs...

#USPol #US #USA #Trump #tariffs #kink #bdsm #fetlife #antarctica

It's interesting how it's always the men with the "LordMasterDivineDomlyGod" names who make declarations of how sadism/masochism works for everyone*, and when you question what they've said they decide you're the one being stubborn and ignorant?

Like, my guy.. my little guy, it's ok that other people experience things in different ways to you. It's really ok.

#kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife

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* brought to you by the ever pervasive bullshit idea that sadists are naturally dominant and masochists are naturally submissive, because sadism is active and dynamic, but masochism is passive and receptive.

Him:
I'm in security. I'm a consultant.

Me:
OK, well I don't play with anyone who is a cop or works cop-adjacent, like in security companies.

Him:
Umm well actually it's finance security. I'm not a security guard

___
1. You said security, my guy.
2. That's not really any better.
3. Still not interested.

#kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife #dating

@alexisbushnell im not in the UK but I love this idea! Is the online footprint a #Fetlife group or something else? #CiNK #neurodivergent #kink #BDSM #disability

Schön, schön... bei #Fetlife stellen (anonyme) Organisator*innen eines Berliner Munches in Gründung eine Person, (die u.a. Übergriffe von einer Person aus dieser Orga/deren Awareness-Team erfahren hat und dies vertraulich ansprach), öffentlich an den Pranger.
"Wir glauben allen Opfern, aber [...]" diesem halt nicht, wa? Lieber ne Hexenjagd.
Kann eins so machen. Muss eins sich halt später nicht wundern, wenn der Munch als nicht safe gilt.

#Berlin #tateropferumkehr

I'm also connecting with people on FetLife. I want to meet different people and be inspired. #FetLife #Community #LGBTQ #Social

I run a local kink group on Facebook, and in November called someone in about being a chaser.. they decided to leave instead of engaging with the conversation about how chasing and the fetishisation of trans bodies is actually transphobia. After they left I attached a ban to their account so they couldn't rejoin and start shit because I had a feeling...

They've just tracked me down on Fetlife - 5 months later - and started drama in multiple groups there about it ("you banned me for no reason!"), posting in groups I'm in and commenting on threads I've posted in.

...but I made a mistake for banning them? 🤔

#kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #Fetlife #Facebook #FacebookGroups

I opened OkCupid and they served me up a banner that says I should join Tinder. The end is near. Match.com has enshittified online dating. I guess it's time to join Feeld and FetLife. #dating #datingapps #tinder #okcupid. #feeld #fetlife #matchdotcom #enshitification #onlinedating

I have the feeling #Fetlife became a place full of #bots and #fakes
Maybe I have to give it up on it 😩