Devoleena Bhattacharjee expresses support for Dalljiet Kaur amidst husband Nikhil Patel’s cheating scandal- Jul 13, 2024
Devoleena Bhattacharjee expresses support for Dalljiet Kaur amidst husband Nikhil Patel's cheating scandal- Jul 13, 2024 Devoleena Bhattacharjee Stands by Dalljiet Kaur Amidst Husband Nikhil Patel’s Cheating Controversy #DevoleenaBhattacharjee #DalljietKaur #NikhilPatel #CheatingControversy #SupportingFriends Devoleena Bhattacharjee, a prominent…
For fucks sake... Got a long time friend of mine, and I've been struggling with talking to them. I know I can be negative and defeatist about myself, but this person, everything that doesn't work out or offers resistance is suddenly "I'm terrible, I'm useless, this is why I can't find a partner, this is why all my friends betray and abandon me" etc ect.
Like, they already know they need to be going to therapy, but aren't, and any time they've brought it up, I've tried to point them towards affordable resources for that in their area, and.... Nothing ever comes of it.
They are constantly holding grudges against anyone in their past, that they have perceived as wronging them, in any possible way. To the point, I'm surprised there isn't an issue they have with me, after fucking up our housing situation, when we moved in together, and I had a total mental and emotional breakdown, which lost us our apartment.
They are always looking for reasons (excuses) why they can't do a simple thing. Like, they interviewed for a new role where they work, and they didn't get selected for it. I simply suggested they ask the interviewer/hiring manager for feedback on their interview, and they went right into the "woe is me, it's because I'm awkward, scatterbrained, and this is the exact same reason I can't ever find anyone on those dating apps". Like... They are acting like they just don't care about trying to learn about themselves, or improve.
Regardless of what the interview was for, the feedback is good to get, because they are trying to go to school this semester, and sure would be good to know what to work on, for when trying to get a new job after school.
I just, I'm having a hard time being there to support them, when all they do is be so self-defeating, about the simplest of things.
They mentioned once, they think they may have Borderline Personality Disorder, I'm not certain about that, I'm not a psychologist or psychiatrist, but I've had a greater than average experience with folks with BPD (a mother, 2 ex's, multiple friends), I don't exactly see it, but... I've also never seen it in someone who wasn't a woman, femme, or system before, so maybe it looks a bit different there.
I just, I want to try to be there to help them so much, but I don't know how to handle or deal with that constant negativity and defeatism. They get upset at the weirdest things, and just refuse to acknowledge actual problems, instead preferring to deflect them to unrelated events.
I get so worried them, because, to be honest, they spout an awful lot of incel nonsense (follow a big "leftist" incel YT'er, which means they've started to get that toxic shit in their brain too, I've had to call them out on a racist take, that came directly from that YT'ers mouth before), and they haven't gone to the misogyny, but they keep acting like they are too good for most people in those dati6apps they mentioned, but also refu6ri interact with anyone in them, that doesn't fit a very narrow, exact mils if what they want.
Anyone have any advice of how I can try to help, or at least support them?
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