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@ace_arovolution aka Katharina Kroschel und Annika Baumgart (auf Insta) plädierten dafür, das asexuelle und aromantische Spektrum separat zu betrachten.
Neben @aktivista präsentierten sich der Podcast Ace AROund the Cake, das Team von AroAceBildung und das nagelneue Aro and Ace Research Network: https://ahc.leeds.ac.uk/dir-record/research-groups/2147/aromanticism-asexuality-research-network
So viele interessante Gespräche, so wenig Zeit. Seufz. ⬅️
#aromantic #asexual #philosophy #asexuell #aromantisch #queertheory #amatonormativity

Wusstet ihr, dass eine Online-Blumenhandlung den 28.5. als Tag des Lieblingsmenschen ausgerufen hat? Wir haben ein paar Funfacts zu Feiertagen und ein paar unkommerzielle Ideen für euch, falls ihr Lust habt, euch das Datum als Feiertag der queerplatonischen Beziehung zu krallen.
#Aromantik #TagDesLieblingsmenschen #queerplatonic #amatonormativity

https://aktivista.net/2025/05/27/der-28-mai-ein-neuer-tag-des-lieblingsmenschen/

The publication pipeline has been a little slower for me lately but excited to see this journal article come out into the world! Thanks to Nicole Seymour for patiently co-authoring this baby with me.

This link is free access for 3 months, so grab it while ya can! Abstract follows.

This article outlines a theory of aromantic and asexual film aesthetics exemplified in a reading of the surrogacy comedy Together Together (dir. Nikole Beckwith, US, 2021). Contextualizing this analysis within the long genre history of the romantic comedy, the article argues that this film constitutes a challenge to the presiding atmosphere of compulsory sexuality in contemporary culture by focalizing a platonic intergenerational friendship, highlighting the quotidian charms and pleasures of that nonsexual and nonromantic relationship, and portraying it as both nurturing and finite. ...

#asexual #aromantic #amatonormativity #AroAceAesthetics #FilmStudies #RomCom #TogetherTogether

https://tinyurl.com/h73h59sf

Based on recent experiences :)
#amatonormativity #meme

once a person wrote of my rope workshop, in a slightly lamenting tone, that people were "too casually dressed and that it was technical, not sexy".

proudly.

my take on that is intentional. people who want to dress up and/or flirt and/or play can go to so many places.

people who could be sex repulsed or averse, or just not be in the mood, or just had a breakup (having a partner, if one wants, even for 5min, is a privilege not everybody shares), the socially anxious, people with concentration difficulties, or some of the above or even all, all can practice and learn their knots in peace.

my take on sex positivity is the same as anything else. inclusivity is less "all should be possible and who doesn't like looks other way" , but finding consensual group compromises to include more people.

some needs are better acomodated than others, also in queer circles. we need to have a talk about that (it is also normativity).

#bondage #aspec #amatonormativity #SexPositivity

There is a widespread #myth about that everyone will or should eventually have romantic feelings or engage in romantic relationship because that's "normal". The implication being that if you do NOT do these things, you are not normal, something is wrong with you.

This myth is known as "#amatonormativity". It is wrong. ❌

In reality, there is a wide variety of people in the #aromantic spectrum who destroy this myth every day by literally just existing. 😛

#ASAW #aro #LGBTQ

Today's been kind of exhausting with everyone talking about #valentinesday. I'm #aroace and don't care about any of it ​:akko_confused:​​:kannadepressed:​​:neocat_sad:​

More power to people who do feel romantically etc attracted to others, but #amatonormativity was in full effect today ​:avulpixsigh:​

However as an #aro I didn’t like the heavy #amatonormativity since it’s ok to be single and you can be happy (like me!) & you don’t have to be defined by, or sad for not being in a relationship #aromantic

As a side note to my last toot…
Did other #trans people whose egg broke later in life spent years having “not exactly a crush, I just want to spend all my time with you” on people of their actual gender and orientation?
(I wonder if the gender and orientation in question are a factor too, given #amatonormativity and #genderstereotypes.)
#transition #queer

Elizabeth Brake giving the keynote address at our conference right now! #philodons #philosophy #nonmonogamy #polyamory #conference #philosodons #amatonormativity

#introduction

I like to follow a diversity of people with different experiences of life.

My hobbies are:
- #writing, mostly #fanfiction
- building in #Sims4. (Account for Sims4 stuff here: @3elllama)

I have things to say about and/or am learning about:
#workersRights #industrialAction #unionising #ucuRISING
#race #raceEquality
#neurodiversity #autism #ADHD #plurality
#disabilityRights
#bodyPositivity
#gender #transRights
#amatonormativity #ethicalNonmonogomy #relationshipAnarchy
#UKpolitics

Unlearning Amatonormativity: Digging Deeper is out!
Its a workbook i played a very small role in.
It works to build on the understanding of amatonormativiry in the first workbook and lay out how amatonormativity is intertwined with and embedded in broader systems of oppression like cisheterpatriarchy, colonialism, white supremacy, capitalism and desirability politics.
This understanding of and approach to amatonormativity is at the center of all the things i give a shit about.
Probably a good read if youve ever wondered why i think aro politics is connected to everything
https://gracesofluck.wordpress.com/2021/11/17/challenging-amatonormativity-digging-deeper/

#amatonormativity #aromantic

do any other aro folk find that amatonormativity in lgbt+ tv and movies somehow hurts more than amatonormativity in cishet stuff?

It doesn't really make sense since in the straight stuff I have to deal with both the heteronormativity and amatonormativity, while the lgbt+ stuff has only the amatonormativity.

I think it's because i expect it in straight stuff. I've braced myself for it. But with the lgbt+ stuff, I don't brace myself the same way. I hold out hope that it won't happen. So it's like a punch i've didn't see coming.

#aromantic #amatonormativity

Amatonormativity works to obscure and belittle so many different ways of relating.

A central part of the work to undo it is to explore and imagine these other possibilities.

Which is so lovely, because pretty much anything is possible. But you're left building everything from scratch without any blueprints. I'd be lying if I said that wasn't hard work.

#amatonormativity

Being asexual and aromantic makes it hard to picture a future for myself.

So many of the markers of adulthood are rooted in amatonormativity. Marriage, partnership, having children, home ownership, not having roommates...

And i just flat out dont want some of those things.

And the parts of it I might want are hard to imagine outside of amatonormativity.

What could partnership even look like for me? Do I even actually want that or am I just trying to replicate the closest thing to amatonormativity I can? Could I ever find a person that wont treat our relationship as second place or something to be overshadowed once a romantic/sexual partner comes along?

What does parenting look like for me? I think I'd prefer to not be a single parent. But how can I not be a single parent while still being single?

#asexual #aromantic #amatonormativity

Not only that, but we often expect a decent amount of the care we will all need when we are older to come from our children. If we were never in a position to be able to raise children (even if we wanted to), what does that mean for our later years?

And so so so much more. The world I live in wasn’t built for people who never have a romantic partner. And it’s becoming more obvious to me every day.

(5/5)

#aromantic #amatonormativity

Even the care we give and receive from our children is restricted by the bounds of romance. Raising a child on your own isn’t possible for a lot of people (I highly doubt I’d be able to do it with my depression and fatigue). But, if you aren’t in a romantic relationship your options are almost nonexistent then. Adoption can be a complicated (and potentially expensive) web of amatonormativity to crawl through (see the two friends from Ontario who had to get the law changed to be legal coparents). If you aren’t able to/don’t want to raise a child on your own, and you aren’t romantically partnered then it’s an uphill battle to be a parent and care for your child.

(4/?)

#aromantic #amatonormativity

We expect them to be the people we take time off of work to care for. Would your boss stare at you sideways of you had to take the day off to visit a friend in the hospital? Would they be more understanding if it was your partner/spouse?

Insurance is a really obvious example of this. You can get your spouse on your insurance or be on your spouses insurance. If you live somewhere with (inadequate) universal health care, your two options are to either get a good job, or marry someone with a good job. For a ton of reasons (*cough* capitalism *cough*) good jobs aren’t available to everyone and they certainly aren’t accessible to everyone. So, what happens to the unpartnered people without these good jobs?

(3/?)

#aromantic #amatonormativity