#selfemployed

Stefano Marinellistefano@bsd.cafe
2026-01-14

RE: mastodon.bsd.cafe/@stefano/115

UPDATE: I just had a talk with two of the owners (whom I've known for years) and one of the young developers who was on yesterday's call. She confirmed that this manager's behavior was unmanageable. High-strung and narcissistic, he had apparently been let go from his previous company due to his inability to work with colleagues and owners alike. It seems he was even trying to boss the owners around.

To make a long story short, the entire sysadmin team threatened to quit if I stopped collaborating with the company. As a result, the owners summoned the manager in the late morning, and he resigned. They are reverting to the previous management structure (led by one of the owners). They might drop a few projects, but they said they prefer returning to a more "human" way of running the business - which is what always set them apart in the past.

I told them I'll think about it. If things are truly as they say (and I have no reason to doubt them yet), I'll propose a 6-month trial collaboration to see how things actually evolve. I'm aware it's easy to "pass the buck" - was it really just the manager's fault, or are the owners using him as a scapegoat now that things went south? However, given our history, I'm willing to give them the benefit of the doubt for now.

#IT #FreelanceLife #WorkLifeBalance #ToxicManagement #TechLife #Consulting #SelfEmployed

Hey fellow #AuDHD and/or #selfEmployed folks!

I love being self-employed because my ADHD just doesn't let me work on someone else's schedule. I thrive on the fact that I'm my own boss and that as long as I always keep deadlines and quality standards, I can structure my work according to my health and needs.

However, I've been struggling lately with separating work from free time. Since I'm able to work at an irregular schedule of my own choosing, I technically always feel like I'm 'on call'. I can never clear my head, go home and say 'I'm off the clock now' like regular employees.

I've been thinking about a few ways to tackle this issue myself.

I could of course designate a certain time span as 'work time' and set boundaries that way. But that'd defeat the entire advantage of being self-employed, that being that I work on my own spontaneous schedule. I need the ability to say "I'll work from midnight til 3 AM tonight", "I'll be able to do a 9–5 today because my brain's feeling really good today", or even "I can't work today at all". With a set schedule, I can't do this.

I might split 'on-call and available for e-mails' time from 'get work done' time, because the former is usually what causes the anxiety.

I'm also thinking about using separate user accounts for work and personal computing to further separate the two worlds; but without clearly defined times for boundaries, that'd just mean I'd constantly check the work account regardless, anxious that I'm missing important messages.

Do any of you have experience with this and could perhaps give me some advice?

#ADHD #MentalHealth #Work #Autism

Stefano Marinellistefano@bsd.cafe
2026-01-14

UPDATE: I just had a talk with two of the owners (whom I've known for years) and one of the young developers who was on yesterday's call. She confirmed that this manager's behavior was unmanageable. High-strung and narcissistic, he had apparently been let go from his previous company due to his inability to work with colleagues and owners alike. It seems he was even trying to boss the owners around.

To make a long story short, the entire sysadmin team threatened to quit if I stopped collaborating with the company. As a result, the owners summoned the manager in the late morning, and he resigned. They are reverting to the previous management structure (led by one of the owners). They might drop a few projects, but they said they prefer returning to a more "human" way of running the business - which is what always set them apart in the past.

I told them I'll think about it. If things are truly as they say (and I have no reason to doubt them yet), I'll propose a 6-month trial collaboration to see how things actually evolve. I'm aware it's easy to "pass the buck" - was it really just the manager's fault, or are the owners using him as a scapegoat now that things went south? However, given our history, I'm willing to give them the benefit of the doubt for now.

UPDATE: One of the company owners (whom I've known for many years and is a good person) has asked to speak with me in about fifteen minutes. I've agreed. I'm curious to see what he has to say. I'll update this post after the call.

Original post:

Yesterday I lost a client. And I couldn't be happier about it.

It's a long-standing client, but the management changed a few months ago. On Monday, they requested an emergency intervention, which I handled immediately.

On Tuesday (yesterday, evening), they asked for a non-urgent enhancement to be closed by Wednesday evening. I explained that due to various reasons (including urgent family matters), I wouldn't be able to finish the task before Friday. That's when the lecturing started: they told me they set tight deadlines even for non-emergencies because "that's the proper way to do things", and anyone working with them must respect them without exception.

I requested a video call to clarify. I explained that the work requires nearly a full day and that I simply couldn't close it by Wednesday. Even the physical time required to copy the data exceeded their deadline. But the new management believes that by applying pressure, you can overcome anything. Even the laws of physics.

Their response was sarcastic: "Our requests take priority, even if you are dying". I smiled and reiterated that I had no other way. "We will therefore have to find a new consultant who respects our timing", they said.

My response: "Okay. Our agreement expired on 31st December. I was waiting for a renewal, but it never arrived. Meaning, I have no legal obligations toward you. You have the data, the passwords, everything. Have a great day.".

The manager, annoyed and failing to understand the implications, replied: "Fine, we’ll look for someone younger with fewer family ties to manage.".

This morning, the phone rang. It was the manager, asking me to reconsider. His tone remained contemptuous, so I told him my decision was final. Two minutes later, I got a call from their biggest client - the one responsible for over 50% of their revenue. They had been notified I was leaving and informed the company they would also leave if I was no longer the one supervising their machines.

I called the manager back, friendly, trying to see if they were willing to change their attitude - to move from peremptory orders to requests between human beings. He started talking about "suing for damages" if they lost their main client because of me (to be clear: I am not taking that client for myself).

I don’t know how this story will evolve, but right now, I'm just enjoying a breath of fresh air outside my window.

#IT #FreelanceLife #WorkLifeBalance #ToxicManagement #TechLife #Consulting #SelfEmployed

Zelda 🎀TheZeldaZone
2026-01-05

Pros of being a :

I am watching as part of work/research

Cons of being a self-employed streamer:

I am practicing Bubsy (SNES) for tonight's stream, also as part of work/research.

2025-12-23

It's not Christmas time, it's bookkeeping time.

#selfemployed

Katharine O'Moore-Klopf, ELSKOKEdit
2025-12-21

Fellow , , & , you need to read this entire Bluesky thread about list created by . aren’t verifying or reading what they cite as source papers. bsky.app/profile/benpatrickwil

2025-12-05

Dành cho freelancer! Ứng dụng FreelancerHealth giúp tính toán chi phí bảo hiểm y tế sau thuế một cách chính xác. 8 người dùng đầu tiên sẽ được dùng miễn phí trọn đời để test ứng dụng. Ứng dụng dùng Python, Supabase và Vercel.
#freelancer #baohiem #taxes #thuế #ACA #selfemployed

reddit.com/r/SideProject/comme

🌱🏴‍🅰️🏳️‍⚧️🐧📎 Ambiyelpambiguous_yelp@veganism.social
2025-12-05

@miya I believe for a lot of people it really is that easy theres a lot of drop in floss software replacements. But relearning workflows probably means lost productivity and revenue. It sucks that capitalism puts people on a treadmill to survive even if theyre self employed. A rational economy would have ditched windows for linux years ago

#FLOSS #Windows #Linux #Capitalism #SelfEmployed

Martijn van Exelmvexel@en.osm.town
2025-12-03

uhm fiverr is just too weird, not going there. #freelance #selfemployed #gigeconomy #upwork

Martijn van Exelmvexel@en.osm.town
2025-12-03

Also! They have a made up currency called "connects" and everything you do costs X connects. Bid on a job? 9 connects. But you can get yourself at the top of the list by spending more connects. Boost your profile for a week? CONNECTS please. #freelance #selfemployed #gigeconomy #upwork

Martijn van Exelmvexel@en.osm.town
2025-12-03

ok folks you can hire me now. happy to discuss mastodon friend rates. upwork.com/freelancers/martijn #freelance #selfemployed #gigeconomy
#upwork is a nasty platform with dark patterns all over. But it seems to work for people.
What folks ask for is kinda silly. For example, paraphrasing, "I have a bunch of shapefiles, an URL and $1000 , please make me a website like the one at URL"
There's no way to ask clarifying questions, just bid and hope for the best?

Martijn van Exelmvexel@en.osm.town
2025-12-02

thinking of doing some piecemeal little projects via upwork or similar. Anything GIS / Python / React / data wrangling. Anyone have experience with that? Where should I look? #freelance #selfemployed #gigeconomy

Gethin Colesgeth@aus.social
2025-11-26

Where can I connect with other #selfemployed #creatives
I’m a #photographer but try to not hold that against me :D
And #filmmaker although that title is a bit grandiose for what I do and I’ve been a #graphicdesigner and dabbled in #webdesign

Is there a way on mastodon to direct posts to followers with those interests so you’re not spamming everyone with irrelevant waffle?

Sarah | Time for Kindnesstime_for_kindness@kind.social
2025-11-26

How does kindness show up in your workplace?

“I experienced kindness from one of my clients; I explained that a tricky family situation meant that I wasn’t able to start my work for her until later in the day, she replied immediately to say 'Work can wait.'
She literally used these words. It was such a relief.”

This is a great reminder of Graham Allcott’s people first, work second message that we really love.

#Kindness #Work #SelfEmployed

Text reading “people first, work second, always” around a medal podium with a number one ribbon on the tallest podium and the word “people” on that platform, and “work” on the second place platform. In the corner is the book Kind by Graham Allcott.
2025-11-10

Booth setup from The Michigan Tattoo Convention this past weekend!
Years of pouring my soul into something, seeing the results of my hard work, the continuous development & evolution of 💫 Arcane Cluster 💫

30 vending/live painting events in the bag for 2025!! 😵‍💫

#fulltimeartist #selfemployed #artist #vendor #booth #artwork #livepainter #merch #artbiz #MastoArt #artistsonmastodon #art #arcanecluster

This year has been absolutely wild.. Shifting gears from doing an event just about every weekend since the beginning of May.
 Still processing things, but feeling some seriously deep feelings of gratitude for all the support this year & that I'm able to support myself & my son as a full-time artist!! 🙏✨️ 
There have def been highs & lows, countless obstacles & self-doubts to overcome.. but the vision has never been more clear, and I've never felt more secure as an artist.
 I've experienced exponential growth every year since launching the art biz in 2020 & I know none of this would be possible without the endless forms of support this amazing community has to offer! I've met so many kind, super creative & supportive humans over these last 4 years particularly that have changed my life forever. Thank you for all the opportunities. Thank you for believing in me!! Love you all  💖 dont give up on your dreams & it's never too late to start!!
Melancholic Mediocrity :v_bi:LibertyForward1@beige.party
2025-11-09

(Sorry in advance for bombarding with hashtags, but..)

Yet again I plead to the #Fediverse to get #Fedihired as a paid or unpaid #DataAnalyst #intern. I'm not formally trained but (as uncomfortable as it is for me to boast) I truly feel that I have the cognitive *capability* of learning as I go. I want to see whether I actually *can* do so.

Unfortunately I'm guessing this is probably the worst possible time to try and break into the industry, however I am desperate and hoping for a miracle.

I've always been "self-taught" because I've never been an ideal student. It's how I learned to program #PHP, #SQL, and how I learned to work with #spreadsheets.

I might not be an expert with any of those topics but I usually managed to stumble my way through, and accomplish the goal I needed, serving my purpose for a previous employer for 8½ years, until their financial position necessitated my layoff.

I need real-life experience working with #Data and hopefully build a portfolio I can use for #gig work or a job or something.

So I'm reaching out to #selfemployed any #Data experts to ask if they might need help. Let me take a stab at some non-critical things.

If I suck, you're not out more than just a little bit of your time interacting with me; you were going to do it yourself anyway, right?

If I do it *well*, then you just got free labor, I get experience and potential portfolio fodder.

Plus you get the sense of pride from helping someone struggling to survive, and helping a #neurodivergent, #LGBTQ couple who both struggle with #MentalIllness and #poverty.

Obviously I will take *paid* work as well; remember, #MinimumWage in my state is still a measly seven dollars and twenty-five goddamned cents per hour, so you can go super cheap.

Think of it like you're rummaging through the bargain bin for temp workers and you decide to give some no-name brand a try: Me!!

2025-10-22

Another lit #Finnish word I learned yesterday: "työrauha", or "work peace"[^1].

Basically the concept that your employer or manager can NOT, apparently, barge in in the middle of the workday and interrupt you with a "three days ago you did X and that's absolutely wrong, you should never have" or "you're a waste of taxpayer money". Like, this is one thing they supposedly actually can't do!

[1]: en.wiktionary.org/wiki/ty%C3%B

#academia #selfemployed #antiemployment #antiwork #phd

Katharine O'Moore-Klopf, ELSKOKEdit
2025-10-03

, I just now came across an excellent blog post (from 2023) that you might find helpful when you must during a period of or in your life. blog.editors.ca/editing-in-tim

treefiftytreefifty
2025-09-12

I’m trying to transition out of my salary role and into being (again) but I need to find clients and a network first.

No idea what the right hash tags are here, but if anyone is looking for programming or or help, especially in the or space, let me know!

linkedin.com/in/kurtismullins

If you have any suggestions on my LinkedIn profile, I’m all ears.

17+ years experience. Located in . Thanks!

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