So, a #Blåhaj followed me home from IKEA. I think this seals some sort of pact or something...

Any guidance on care/feeding?

Brb, buying a #Blåhaj for ~literally no reason at all~!

UM.

I have read #TheGenderDysphoriaBible and I have many questions and several "AAAAAAAAAHHH" moments.

That's a cis reaction, right? Asking for a friend lol.

As someone who always prefers websites over apps ( whether it be me writing a project or using a technology ), my favorite line from @pluralistic keynote in PyCon US is

"An app is just a website that we have wrapped in the correct DRM to make it a felony to protect your privacy while you use it"

https://youtu.be/ydVmzg_SJLw

Attention Deficit High-Definition

#adhd

I know I'm screaming into the void, but #priceline sucks when you're trying to cancel a non-refundable reservation..

@Satiah big agree

I could use some help from my #Linux friends. I'm on #FedoraKDE with an NVIDIA GTX 1070.

It seems that EVERY OTHER GODFORSAKEN UPDATE I lose my NVIDIA driver.

I'm a fan of Fedora and KDE, am I right in hating NVIDIA as much as I currently do (for reference, I currently hate NVIDIA quite a bit)?

#microsoft #Windows #macOs #linux

https://github.com/shouldly/shouldly/issues/1034 - a migration guide from FluentAssertions to Shouldly. Excellent work https://github.com/felipextrindade #dotNET #testing

#SAKAMOTODAYS ep 1 is crisp! I'm current on the manga, so I'm very excited to see it animated!

@Johannab I tried starting knitting earlier this year (before my official diagnosis as well), but life got in the way. This is a good sign to start trying to make that potholder again...

After some talks about #ADHD issues i had the following 3 insights:

# Why “Being Bored” Doesn’t Work Like It Used To

Being bored was relaxing as a child because there was no actual backlog. nowadays, even when i have "nothing to do", that's a lie -- and i know it and that's making being bored insufferable. thus, i need to

1. find a way to ignore this w/o escapism through e.g., meeting people despite not having energy to do, just because the prospect of facing this fact is more dreadful, and
2. actually reduce the # of things i'm responsible for RIP

1/3

# Doing Nothing != Expecting Nothing of Myself

When i have "nothing to do", this is often because i kept a day empty as a reward for me or finished tasks earlier than expected. in order to "relax" i then (unsuccessfully) try to just "not do anything". the problem here is that relaxing is not about not doing anything, but setting the expectation to not "finish" or complete something. it's not about what you do but what you demand from yourself. So i failed because

1. i was still expecting something from me, while i should not; namely, that i should do nothing (which i fail miserably at by doom-scrolling, or rabbit-holing in a slightly better scenario), and
2. i wasn't really doing something gratifying while i actually should do something when i'm relaxing (i just should not expect/demand it from me)

2/3

# Energy Needs Are Not Defined by the Task

It's a good idea to reward yourself after successfully completing a task. unfortunately, i often find myself to (seemingly) not have enough energy to... actually "do my rewards". and as i view(ed) my rewards as just new tasks... they suddenly require energy, even though they're gratifying. the thing is, with ADHD, the # of energy a task requires has almost nothing to do with the actual "power draw" of the task. reading a book can be absolutely impossible (task) or a power source (reward). So I failed because i was framing my rewards as todos "todo: reward yourself" and building an expectation (see insight No. 2). in my current mode of me thinking i was literally talking to myself "so, now, what to do/finish/work-on next?". that's wrong. the key thing is to actually frame things as a reward, and suddenly the same "thing" is not a power draw, but a power source.

With all that out of the way, let's see how much of these insights i can convert into action 0:-)

@BluesDriveAmelia@sakurajima.social I know what you mean about the visuals. #DanDaDanAnime has made me a #ScienceSaru fan!

:blob_cat_giggle: ADHD meme to brighten your day during sad times.

#ADHD
#AuDHD

Honk and Bonk