I got some really helpful feedback on this topic from some friends earlier, but I thought I would ask here too.
Having only been fully out about a month, I feel extra self-conscious the more femme I present. (As an example, I have never worn a dress out anywhere.) I identified an underlying thought where I'm telling myself that I haven't "earned" that yet.
Any advise beyond ignore/push-through those thoughts?
I have the opportunity, but not the obligation, to send an announcement of sorts to coworkers that my name has changed. I've directly told my team and others I work with on a daily basis. Is there a point to making a wider announcement?
I don't really want acknowledgement or extra interest, but I also don't want to be rude and have someone surprised by seeing it in Slack or in email first. This is a very LGBTQ+ supportive workplace.
I actually don't know if I've really experienced 'gender euphoria' the way a lot of people describe it. For me every milestone in my transition has just resulted a reduction of dysphoria. It brings a feeling of relief which comes with a sense of momentary 'euphoria' I suppose, but people talk about it like it should be some re-occurring thing? Like it's some high you have to keep chasing.
I've never been interested in 'gender euphoria', I just want to feel like a normal woman. Do cis people experience 'gender euphoria'?
#trans #transgender #transsexual #lgbt #lgbtq #asktransgender #asktrans #transwoman #transfem #woman #gender #genderdysphoria #gendereuphoria #euphoria #dysphoria
My voice therapist asked me to bring her some sample voices that appeal to me and I'm a bit stuck. I have a terrible time with names or faces, so while I can remember voices in my head and think "oh, that was nice", I can't put it to a name to find a recording to share with her. I'm not really sure even how to proceed. I know I want to go for a softer, gentler voice, and though I have a decent vocal range I'm going to wind up in alto territory. Does anybody have any suggestions?
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:repost_ok: i have questions for AMAB people on estrogen HRT! i'm non-binary, considering going on estrogen sometime in the future. i think i'd like it maybe
when did you start? what are some side effects you are getting/have gotten? have you stopped? would you have done anything differently? what would that be? why?
#transgender #transition #hrt #trans #transsexual #transfem #nonbinary #estrogen #hormonereplacementtherapy #asktrans #genderaffirmingcare #boost #boostswelcome sorry for hashtag spam i need reach for this
I am hoping someone in here might have advice. I am in a #transfem support group. When I engage in it, it helps me a lot.
The problem is, every time something really bad happens to someone in the group, it sends me spiralling for a bit. And by "really bad" I mean suicide, or people going missing, or etc. Every time I engage with the group for even months afterward, I have these awful waves of grief. It pushes me to disengage, because it feels like the only way to insulate myself from the pain. But distancing myself also hurts, because my support network is otherwise pretty small.
How do I find an emotional compromise here? I need the emotional crutch this group provides, but I also need to be able to recover when that crutch fails.
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Asking all #transfem / #transfemme people: can anyone tell me what it is like to get electrolysis done under sedation? I can see that it is possible, but I want to know if it works / is hellishly bad before I ask for an estimate
Otherwise I will likely continue seeing my clinic that just does numbing shots. It's just going very slowly because I don't get enough time off to do this often
Has anybody renewed their passport using their deadname plus the gender flag of their choice? I think I understand what the process looks like but it'd help my autistic brain to hear someone's experience doing it.
Thank you!
Hey everyone, I met a neat trans man via substack, who is putting an anthology of stories together, something to provide a means for trans voices and experiences to be amplified and told. He put this together, and I wanted to spread the word. If possible, I highly encourage you to participate! Maybe you know someone who does, please pass this along to them, and feel free to boost as far and as wide as possible :) Here is the project blurb and relevant links:
Trans Kids deserve love! If you are a family with a trans child, or if you’re a friend or educator of trans children, please consider participating in this anthology of stories. Participants are welcome to remain anonymous. A wide range of works will be accepted. Find out more at https://transfriend.substack.com/, or head over to the submission form at https://tally.so/r/n0L6kA to participate.
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Has anybody tried https://www.wantable.com? I'd like to find a service with a stylist that I can talk to about finding things that will work with the tall, broad-shouldered, but otherwise thin body shape that I have and won't be transphobic. I know some people use stylefix and I may try that or dailylook, but I like the way wantable works a bit more.
Surely I'm not the only person who will read a word and figure out it's meaning by context, then after using it for a while look it up to make sure I haven't been misusing it for years, right? Unrelated to that, what's a good definition of one's egg cracking? #AskTrans
I had my first consult for VFS yesterday. The surgeon suggested Wendler with possible CTA or LRG included or as follow-ups. I have good vocal control for both pitch and resonance, but I'm constantly anxious about accidental voice drop. It would be great to not have to worry about either of those factors, and FemLar seems to be the solution to that, but it's so invasive and risky. I'm excited to take this step but worried about making the right choice. Help? #AskTrans #AskTransgender #vfs
