Jalan and I were talking to Dragonlet (8) about gender, using the Genderbread Person model. The timing is influenced by Dragonlet recently coming out to us as nonbinary.

Among other things, the model separates out Gender Presentation.

So I said that I have a fluid gender presentation, as I wear skirts as often as not and blouses with them when I can (I don't have enough), even though my gender identity is male.

Jalan pointed out that genderfuck might actually be more apt.

I reflected that one of my favorite looks is black pencil skirt, black hose, and very red blouse with matching nail polish, but I wear that in combination with shaved head and full beard, and I don't give a damn that I've got a belly and no breasts or butt.

Yeah, she's not wrong.

Hashtags follow
#Genderbread #GenderbreadPerson #nonbinary #Genderfuck #GenderPresentation

Nobody "looks like" anything. There is no such thing as "looking gay" or "looking straight" and to assume facts about a person based purely on their presentation is to do them a disservice.

Presentation, just like Gender and Orientation, are a spectrum. Yes, you can be #gay and dress #femme, or you could still be straight and dress #femme. #enby and my fellow #agender peeps don't owe you #androgyny simply for being between or outside of the gender binary.

And for the love of all that is holy, please do not assume a person is #trans simply because their AGAB does not match their presentation.

#Queer #LGBTQIA #LGBT #GenderPresentation #Agender #Gender #GenderBinary #QueerProgress #Demigender #NonBinary #GenderSpectrum #genderspec #trans #FreedomOfExpression #Bigender #Pangender #Omnigender #Genderqueer

"That guy in the pink shorts looks like if Ryan Reynolds and Benedict Cumberbatch had a child who did drag."

-- 14yo making #airport observations

Note 1: none of this was derogatory. Said kid likes both actors and was admiring the person's fashion, "gorgeous eyelashes", and "soulful eyes." Being able to pull off drag is a badge of honor for this child.

Note 2: Setting the scene - to me the guy appeared solidly masculine-presenting: a 20something cis man with a good bit of Miami Vice in his fashion choices.

#ShitMyKidSays #fashion #eyes #genderpresentation

What is the actual function of gender being on ID cards in a society that doesn't have specific laws around gender presentation?

#gender #sociology #genderPresentation

It's hard and often dangerous to be yourself as a nonbinary person.

The way you dress or otherwise present yourself now might be more authentic, but it comes with a price. You shouldn't have to pay it, but, nonetheless, you must.

It's alright to grieve the loss of respect you once received from strangers. The new love you're shown by other queer and lgbtq people will help heal you.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #genderpresentation #exorsexism

You're nonbinary even if you "look cis" according to some.

Nonbinary people take many forms, many of which are dissimilar from each other. Your appearance is simply another normal variation.

You have nothing to prove.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #exorsexism #genderpresentation

You can be nonbinary and express it in unlimited ways.

All options, orientations, and flavors are yours to experiment with or use as you like.

Enjoy yourself boldly.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #appearance #genderpresentation

Lonliness can be a lingering fact of life for some of us.

Your presentation might make you stand out in every place you enter. Or, perhaps you blend in so well that you're invisible. Either situation is a recipe for isolation.

But you're not alone in the world (even though it feels like it). There are other nonbinary people who share a large part of your experience, and friendships can form in the most surprising of places.

You'll find your people.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #genderpresentation #appearance #lonliness #isolation

There are many ways to be feminine, masculine, or both if that's what you want as a nonbinary person.

People of all kinds have explored the ways in which these qualities can grow, flex, merge, and change.

Add your own variation to the mix as you will find your path through it all.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #feminine #masculine #genderpresentation

It’s a guarantee that there are people who won’t like how you dress as a nonbinary person.

But what really matters is that you like how you dress.

If you are happy, then no amount of naysayers can stop you.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #genderpresentation #appearance

It's important that you express being nonbinary in your own way.

No matter what you do there will be pressure for you exist certain ways, and those demands will conflict with each other. Living to satisfy everyone is not possible.

Live for yourself. Be nonbinary as you see fit for you, and it'll be enough.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #genderpresentation

Even if you're nonbinary and you normally dress in a feminine or masculine way, it's fine to change things up.

"Feminine" and "masculine" are fairly arbitrary categories even among cisgender straight people.

You might as well enjoy the some of the perks of being nonbinary and not give a sh*t.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #genderpresentation

Shout out to the nonbinary people who aren't very feminine, not particularly masculine, but aren't androgynous, either.

Keep being categorically you!

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #genderpresentation

It's alright to do the bare minimum at least sometimes.

You might be too tired to correct the same people, yet again, about your pronouns. The clothes you managed to put today might not represent you very well. It's alright if you just want to go to the store without people trying to "clock" you in who knows what way.

It's all fine. The bigots didn't win because you were exhausted. You won because you made it through another day.

Live first. "Live well" later.

#genderpresentation #nonbinarypositivity #lgbtqpositivity #queerpositivity #appearance #bigotry

You can change your gender presentation, or even just your style, whenever you want.

It doesn't matter how long you've been a certain way. Shake things up, if you like.

It's your life. Have a good time with it.

#genderpresentation #nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #lgbtqpositivity #queerpositivity #nonbinary

Body hair can only enhance your presentation.

Body hair can be gentle, soft, and delicate.

It can be rugged, imposing, and even beastly.

It can be simply there in all its fuzzy, unpredictable glory.

Body hair is exactly what you make of it in regards to your presentation, because it’s another aspect of you.

Nothing more, and nothing less.

#nonbinarybodypositivity #nonbinarypositivity #nonbinarypride #nonbinary #bodyhair #genderpresentation ..

There's no "one size fits all," when it comes to how you'd like to be treated as a nonbinary person (besides basic decency).

Maybe pronouns are very important to you, but you might also not care. Perhaps you're not concerned with how others see you. Or, maybe "passing" is extremely important.

Your needs will be unique because every nonbinary person is unique.

#nonbinarypositivity #nonbinaypride #genderpresentation #passing

Your nonbinary fashion can come from thrift stores, drug stores, department stores, sewn yourself, all the above and more.

However you build your style, it'll be perfect for you because you chose it.

#fashion #genderpresentation #nonbinarypositivity #nonbinaypride #nonbinary

Dress in a way that you feel emphasizes your gender.

Since presentation does not equal gender, your style can be anything that pleases you.

Your presentation is your business. When you have the option, don’t let anybody get in the way of you.

#nonbinary #nonbinarypositivity #genderpresentation ..

Your gender presentation or ideal appearance can be anything at all.

Your desires in this can be "strange" or "unusual" to others. It doesn't have to make sense to anyone but you.

It needs to do just one thing, and that is make you feel complete.

Strut your stuff in all the greatness and variety of a rainbow.

#nonbinary #nonbinarypositivity #nonbinaypride #genderpresentation #appearance ..