@chuckanderson A bit of a whirl here complete with tears. Don't worry, it's me, not you. I typically like/boost introductions to help people find their people. I read your introduction & had concerns but followed you anyway. When you just edited your introduction adding your enneagram #9w1 (me too!) I had a flash of understanding as to my concern: the 'I am not my own' concept has been used by church leadership to take away my no. Never saw it so clearly as just now. A little freer now. Thanks.