Contemplating today how to navigate sensitivity within the #fediverse. I've been hosting a conversation this week about periods, conscience that there are people with me, sharing themselves and their experiences, I treasure speaking deeply about all the things. I appreciate the openness of heart people are displaying to each other.
I'm hyper conscious that some people experience shame around hormonal cycles and have taken into care to create CW around this multi-layered sensitive topic. This creates a layer of safety for the participants, we haven't had to fight trolls in this discussion. Using a boundary this way provides safety for both those that want to click in and those that don't want to touch this discussion at this time or in this way. I saw it said here once that it's more of a content wrapper than a warning, a way to share the topic and offer a choice.
I value caring for the needs of others with each other. As we watch our democracies shift policy against our vulnerable populations, I think it is very valuable to know what needs people have and then to build spaces that support all of our needs being fulfilled. Not everyone is going to agree with each other about what needs other people have and how to disperse resources. But if we remain ignorant, choosing not to learn, or outsourcing our learning, it will just prolong the suffering within and the suffering of our people.
If we can hold compassion for our own needs, we can hold compassion for other's needs. If we simply unfollow or block the needs of others we will remain out of touch, buffered with unearned privilege, willing to sacrifice the needs of others in order to protect the ego, the "I do it this way, so shut up or get out" vibe will "win" every argument and we will exist in our own separate echo chambers.
So, what. So, what do we do to create safe spaces within and around us? Do we work to protect the marginalized or do we pile on and punch down? Because we're so stressed, so afraid, leading to being so angry, we're willing to fight strangers on the internet?
#contemplation #communitycare #hsp #sensitive