#Attachment

Dr. Jennifer CainDrCain
2025-07-23

The more your children seek you out for comfort when they are distressed, the more likely that they will be able to more quickly recover when something painful happens. You can influence this by how you handle their emotions when you set limits with them. Showing empathy is the key.

Learn more at my website: jennifercainphd.com/blog




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Mother facing her young child, holding him gently under the arms, while he listens to her. Caption reads: "Empathy during limit setting can strengthen your bond with your child and help prevent trauma."
Subir Pal vedic astrologersubirpal
2025-07-23

HOW DO WE OVERCOME ATTACHMENT TO MATERIAL THINGS

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WIST Quotationswist@my-place.social
2025-07-17

A quotation from Thomas Carlyle

Trust not the heart of that man for whom old clothes are not venerable.

Thomas Carlyle (1795-1881) Scottish essayist and historian
Sartor Resartus, Book 3, ch. 6 (1834)

Sourcing, notes: wist.info/carlyle-thomas/724/

#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #thomascarlyle #sartorresartus #attachment #clothes #clothing #fashion #heritage #memory #nostalgia #remembrance #veneration #past

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2025-07-11
Jeiter Foreverklingoncome@mas.to
2025-06-29

#Attachment El folklore judío no hace que esta cinta despegue más allá de la mera curiosidad. Tarda bastante en entrar en materia, y solo al final consigue que haya cierto tono perturbador. #CineJeiter m.filmaffinity.com/es/userrati

2025-06-27

07-08-25: “Our Refuge and Strength: Transforming Attachment to the Living God” w/ Geoff Goodman. Explore how #attachment shapes relationships to #God and others. Free: members, $35: non-members. 3-4:30PM EDT via Zoom. More at ift.tt/hLI2Rt8?utm_source=dlvr #socialwork #mentalhealth #psychotherapy

Adrian SegarASegar
2025-06-22

As a facilitator, working with both sides of an issue with a group can be hard. Doing so challenges me to practice non-attachment.

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Working with both sides: A photograph of The Meeting for the Town/Community Center, Marlboro, VT. Photo by David Holzapfel. I'm the guy wearing a checked shirt.
Subir Pal vedic astrologersubirpal
2025-06-19
WIST Quotationswist@my-place.social
2025-06-17

A quotation from The Bible

What shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?
 
[τί γὰρ ὠφελεῖ ἄνθρωπον κερδῆσαι τὸν κόσμον ὅλον καὶ ζημιωθῆναι τὴν ψυχὴν αὐτοῦ]

The Bible (The New Testament) (AD 1st - 2nd C) Christian sacred scripture
Mark 8: 36 (Jesus) [KJV (1611)]

Sourcing, notes, other translations: wist.info/bible-nt/25457/

#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #jesus #bible #newtestament #achievement #competition #focus #gain #life #priority #profit #soul #winning #world #worldliness #attachment

Adrian SegarASegar
2025-06-12

What is the relationship between connection and attachment when people come together at meetings? A painting by John Singer Sargent offers a clue.

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2025-06-02

Tonight in class we explored relational ethics, also known as caring ethics. I’m skipping over the lesson itself to focus on what came up for me.

There is an assumption in relational ethics that every one has access to multiple caring relationships beyond therapy. Therapy offers connection, others in a person's life are expected to provide emotional nourishment as well. Some people arrive without any safe relationships. Many carry histories of trauma, neglect, or isolation. In those situations, therapy becomes the one space offering presence and care. Rules and boundaries shape the work, the relationship often holds the entire emotional weight.

Helping others often gets presented as a response to loneliness. Service becomes a substitute for connection. Provide care, contribute meaningfully, fill time with acts of support. None of this addresses the core need. Loneliness demands recognition, conection and shared experience. External acts do not replace mutual relationships.

Another question arose around empathy. We were asked to think about when we first showed empathy. My answer surprised me. Therapy offered the first safe space where empathy emerged. Childhood lacked attunement, emotional safety, or reflective experience. In that environment, empathy could grow. Survival required internal distance.

During trauma work, a therapeutic relationship provided attuned presence. Over time, emotional empathy stirred. Later experience gave it permission to form and take root.

Some conversations treat empathy as universal or innate. This creates pressure, erasing different pathways toward growth. People raised without emotional safety often build these capacities during adulthood.

#Counselling #Therapy #RelationalEthics #CaringEthics #Trauma #Empathy #Loneliness #MentalHealth #TherapistTraining #RelationalTherapy #Attachment #TraumaRecovery #CPTSD #Healing #EthicsInTherapy

2025-05-28

Just started listening to the audiobook for "healing the fragmented selves of trauma survivors: overcoming internal self-alienation" by Janina Fisher.

I just started it but there's already a line I like: "what is it like to live in a body organized to expect annihilation or abandonment." 🎯

Another part talks about "internal wars", which I very much relate to. I'm often filled with contradictory wants: want to learn x programming thing while deeply not wanting to, wanting to use and knowing that it's bad for me and I shouldn't, wanting to take care of an annoying thing and not wanting to do it, wanting to be more social and not wanting it, etc.

She uses internal parts analysis, which i definitely related to: the lazy part vs the mean parent part, the compulsive/addicted part, the evil self-hate/self-destructive part, the total collapse and given up part, etc.

The purpose of the book seems to be to help the trauma survivor have an integrated self with a compassionate inner part that can provide support when the person is having a hard time, and not react with shame/abuse directed towards the self. that sounds like it would be really nice!

I've built up a bit of a "nicer, more supportive, less impulsive, more reflective inner parent" this year (starting from having nothing on the inside that could provide that perspective. The only inner parent I ever had was a mean one by whose metric I was never doing enough and was always failing), but it's still hard and I still have struggles in this arena.

Anyway, I'm looking forward to hearing what she has to say.

#CPTSD #trauma #PTSD #recovery #addiction #therapy #books #audiobooks #did #attachment

Cover art for the book "healing the fragmented selves of trauma survivors: overcoming internal self-alienation" by Janina Fisher. The cover shows a stack of rounded beach rocks on a shoreline of many rounded rocks.
earthlingappassionato
2025-05-28

It's Attachment by Annette Kussin, 2020

How do we make sense of our relationships—successes and failures, preferences and challenges, past and present. And after we make sense of them all—what do we do to increase the successes that we are striving to attain.

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In It's Attachment Kussin offers us a comprehensive overview of this dominant theory of human development and relationships in a way that gives us both understanding and practical ideas for constructive changes. She shows us the central features of the main attachment patterns that are present throughout childhood and adulthood as well as clear suggestions for how we might identify what pattern characterizes our own life. From there, her book provides practical insights into how our attachment pattern is central in our choosing a partner and being a parent. It also explores how we might change our pattern toward one that provides the greatest likelihood for developing an autonomous sense of self and satisfying reciprocal relationships.
Subir Pal vedic astrologersubirpal
2025-05-25

HOW DO WE OVERCOME ATTACHMENT TO MATERIAL THINGS

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“At some time of their lives, I believe, most human beings desire to have children and desire also that their children should grow up to be healthy, happy, and self-reliant. For those who succeed the rewards are great; but for those who have children but fail to rear them to be healthy, happy, and self-reliant the penalties in anxiety, frustration, friction, and perhaps shame or guilt, may be severe. Engaging in parenthood therefore is playing for high stakes. Furthermore, because successful parenting is a principal key to the mental health of the next generation, we need to know all we can both about its nature and about the manifold social and psychological conditions that influence its development for better or worse. The theme is a huge one and all I can do in this contribution is to sketch the approach that I myself adopt in thinking about these issues.”
—John Bowlby, A Secure Base
#parenting #attachment
Buddhistdoor Global (BDG)buddhistdoor
2025-05-20

BDG feature: Finding Calm: Buddhist Insights on Managing Anxiety

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The Zen Art Center :verified:zenartcenter@universeodon.com
2025-05-19

When we cling to our thoughts, desires, and opinions, we become detached from reality—not grounded in the present moment. True presence doesn’t mean ignoring thoughts—it means letting go of clinging so that your mind can meet each moment as it truly is.

#Zen #Mindfulness #LetGo #Attachment #Nonduality #Consciousness #Awareness #ClearMind #Presence #Now #Meditation #Reality #Dharma #Thoughts #SelfInquiry

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2025-05-19

How you can grow attachments to "useless" things.

So I have this old vinyl record player (Technics). It's about 40 years old, and I've had it for 20 years or so.

It's always had a broken dust cover. Bits were missing, and a couple of cracks.

Recently, I've bought a brand new replacement cover. The player really looks the part now.

But I can't quite get myself to throw away the old one. It's been sitting on my desk for about two months now.

#nostalgia #vinyl #attachment

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