I just had somebody reach out for an energy clearing. (Yes, if you message me I'm happy to do those whether I post them or not.)
It's just as easy to ask me to clear the gunky energy as it is to ask me to help you get into a program or something. If you can message and tell me you're having a problem clearing the gunk then you can message and tell me you're having a problem shifting other things too.
I'm not here to make it difficult. I'm actually looking for all the ways I can make it as easy as possible for you, including putting a little quiz up to help you figure out which thing might work for you.
So, let's answer some questions right now.
Do I need to know exactly what I want my life to look like? Do I need a plan?
Nope. You don't need a plan. If you have no clue what you want, you just know you don't want to be where you are, then I take on the responsibility for making a plan using the intuitive guidance that I get. They'll give me a breadcrumb trail and we'll follow it.
If you happen to have a plan or a goal in mind, then we work from there. I'm still using the breadcrumb trail they show me, it's just the goal has been pre-determined.
But my dirty laundry is embarrassing/painful/scary/upsetting.
I've put a fair bit of my dirty laundry out in the world over the past few years. It's probably one of the reasons why you're reading my stuff. It's because I offer the human side of this process. If dirty laundry was really that bad you wouldn't be reading this right now.
The dirty laundry is there. It's just kind of like dust, there's always some of it present. You never really get it all cleaned up. It's okay that it's not the polished version of yourself you want to present to the world. You like the fact that I'm real, what makes you think I won't like the fact that you're real too?
When you go to the salon and they wash your hair and put it in a towel, your hair is no longer styled and set. You're a drowned rat for a few minutes while they cut it. You're okay with that process because you know the final result will be good and you'll walk out of there looking like a million bucks. What if doing this work with me is the same idea?
We go through that process of feeling like a drowned rat for a while and when we get to the other side, you feel a whole lot better. Maybe it runs a little deeper than just having wet hair, but it doesn't have to be scary and it is temporary.
At least with the hair dresser I kind of know what's going to happen! I have no idea what you're going to find or what will happen.
You can't see the path and it stops you. I get it. You think I don't because you watch me talk about how I manage things all the time. You think I just break down the walls like they are made of feathers. But there is work that went into being able to do that or even give the appearance that I can do it. When I first started this process I couldn't do it either, I just wasn't talking about it then. By the time I decided to start writing and sharing, I was well equipped to manage the obstacles that came up. I can do it because I've practiced a ton and I've learned how.
I don't expect you to be able to do this smoothly. I don't expect you to not be afraid of what might happen. I don't expect it to be easy for you all the time, nor do I expect it to be difficult all the time.
Honestly, I don't know your path either. I don't know what the guides are going to tell me you need. I don't know what I'm going to find. I don't know what the steps are going to be until I get them intuitively.
I have a process that I use to deal with every breadcrumb that shows up, regardless of what it is. I handle it all the same way, but that doesn't mean that I know what they all are before I get to them. I have to trust the path too, just like you. I have to trust that your path will show up for me so that I can help you. I have to trust my own guidance. I have to trust the things that I've learned how to do. I have to trust it all just like I'm asking you to do.
The only real difference between you and me is that I've learned to not be afraid of an unknown breadcrumb. It's a scavenger hunt where you don't get a list of what you're looking for. That's all it is. I've just learned to be okay with that and I want to teach you the same thing.
I have ways to manage the fear, to manage the anxiety, to deal with the unknown, to trust and take the baby steps anyway. I coached myself through all of it and I can do the same thing for you.
My job is to make it as easy for you to get over that first hurdle as I possibly can. I'm here when you're ready to take the leap and jump the hurdle. I can't make you, but I can support you in the process if you can take the step to reach out first. I can't support you until you reach out first.
Love to all.
Della
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