@grrlscientist tbh a lot of wisdom feels summarised like
"Be kind",
"Try your best but not all the time",
"Cause harm only when not doing so would cause more",
"Consider wider impacts before you act",
"Remember you make mistakes",
"Remember this could be a mistake",
"Other people / any another person matters exactly as much as you do",
"Not everyone experienced what you did",
"Not everyone experiences what you do", and
"Not everyone will experience exactly what you will".
A few more like
"Disco isn't dead",
"Create what you needed",
"Iterate to explore hidden parameters",
"You don't deserve mistreatment" etc.