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How to spot avoidant danger in early dating

This advice is pure gold. #dating #attachmentStyles #tsol
http://youtube.com/post/UgkxjYkMDsDzpW5-ahNLDkVNpsdAYeyBjSVV

My therapist made me do this 2of2 … but honestly, I wanted to

🌱 New Partner Checklist

✅ Look for:
❤️ Emotional availability: open with feelings, empathetic, talks through conflict
❤️ Communication: consistent words + actions, listens, validates
❤️ Security: reliable, comfortable with closeness, present in hard times
❤️ Self‑awareness: learns from past, owns mistakes, open to growth
❤️ Compatibility: shares values, respects boundaries, sees partnership as teamwork
❤️ Attachment style: balanced independence + intimacy, comfort with vulnerability

🚩 Avoid: shutting down (dismissive) or swinging between closeness + distance (fearful).

✨ That’s my therapist‑approved checklist. What are *your* red & green flags? ⬇️

#relationships #healing #attachmentstyles

🚨 BREAKING: Childhood friends are the new moms! 🚨 Apparently, those intense playground negotiations over snack swaps were actually shaping your entire attachment style. 🤯 Who knew your future emotional stability depended on little Timmy's sharing skills? 😂
https://nautil.us/childhood-friends-not-moms-shape-attachment-styles-most-1247316/ #ChildhoodFriends #EmotionalGrowth #ParentingInsights #AttachmentStyles #SnackSwaps #HackerNews #ngated

Childhood Friends, Not Moms, Shape Attachment Styles Most

https://nautil.us/childhood-friends-not-moms-shape-attachment-styles-most-1247316/

#HackerNews #ChildhoodFriends #AttachmentStyles #Psychology #Relationships #SocialScience

When You Don't Feel Like a Priority in Your Relationship #relationships #AttachmentStyles
https://youtube.com/watch?v=nDcK0RTHjZ8

Secure Attachment – from Childhood to Adult Relationships

https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/secure-attachment/

#relationships #psychology #attachmentstyles

i took the boundaries or avoidance quiz by AZ Therapists Tehrina and Joel and my result is Cat: Flexible boundaries with secure attachment.

You can take the free quiz here (they send the results via email) but you also get your instant answer on the page when you finish the 15 questions :)

Not sponsored, just a fan of their YouTube channel. QUIZ here, LMK what you got?

https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/67d71974ed871200152e1bd2

#AttachmentStyles #funquiz #relationships

A rectangular image with a light beige background displays the text "You're a CAT: Flexible Boundaries with Secure Attachment!" at the top in a burnt orange, sans-serif font. Below the text is a bordered image of an orange tabby cat with its eyes closed, lying curled up on a light brown wooden floor. The cat has dark orange stripes and white markings around its mouth and eyes. Its front paws are neatly tucked underneath its body. At the bottom of the image, in a smaller, burnt orange font, it reads "Congratulations on completing the Boundaries and Attachment Styles Quiz!

The Dismissive Avoidant Danger Zone (6of6)

They will deflect your concerns, project their insecurities onto you, and stonewall when things get tough.

Key Takeaway: Dismissive Avoidants are often running from something profound: the vulnerability inherent in true connection. Your most important job is to recognize these patterns early, listen to your inner voice screaming "this isn't right," and ultimately, choose yourself and your own emotional well-being.

Have you encountered these patterns in your relationships? What were the red flags you wish you'd recognized sooner?

#DismissiveAvoidant
#AttachmentStyles
#RelationshipRedFlags

UO research shows cats are more attached to people than popularly thought https://getpocket.com/explore/item/your-cat-is-probably-more-attached-to-you-than-you-think #cats #AttachmentStyles

Hi guys, if you are suffering with this I hope you can access good support.

These posts are a massive simplification of course, there is no summarizing this in 4 slides, it's just intended to point out a possible path.

There are free support groups online too, so much more accessible these days. David Kessler has got lots of resources @iamdavidkessler both paid and free for bereaved people.

I just want to say that continuing bonds is a secular idea, it can be spiritual or aspiritual, you can, for example, believe in the soul of a person staying with you, or you can hold onto the impression they have made in your heart and the impact they have had on you and hold that with you; you can find the way of keeping them with you that is true and real for you.

In Ireland:

you can free call the Samaritans at any time on 116 123 at any time if you need someone to listen. You can also email them if you prefer, jo@samaritans.ie

Irish Hospice foundation have a helpline for bereavement support which runs from 10am to 1pm on weekdays, it's 1800 80 70 77

Academic stuff:
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0030222815576124 < insecure attachment styles and complicated grief

A study finding 93% of ADHDers had insecure attachment:
https://findresearcher.sdu.dk:8443/ws/portalfiles/portal/134088245/Association_Between_Insecure_Attachment_and_ADHD.pdf (I've seen other numbers other times, but the percentage is always extremely high).

#grief #bereavement #complicatedgrief #adhdgrief #griefandloss #bereavementcounselling #adhdandgrief #griefsupport #adhdireland #attachment #attachmentstyles #insecureattachment #avoidantattachment #fearfulattachment #fearfullyattached #preoccupiedattachment #ambivalentattachment #continuingbonds #davidkessler #psychology #psychiatry #psychologystudents #psychotherapy #counselling #persistentcomplexbereavement