#attachmentstyle

2025-05-26

Do you have any lived experiences with #DismissiveAvoidant friends, family or lovers?
That's probably the #AttachmentStyle that I've had the most problems with in the past. I try to avoid DAs but many seem to be magnetized to me. I run from them because they're unsafe for me.

DOXA 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️doxa@press.anyaforger.art
2024-08-15
Saipher Zuretiscifr
2023-12-04

Therefore, they're afraid of committing to another person because if they ever truly open up and be vulnerable with another person, that person would then be able to hurt them. The tragedy is in the fact that without vulnerability we can't truly experience love. And what is life without love?

Saipher Zuretiscifr
2023-12-04

They believe that they're protecting their heart by chasing after the emotionally unavailable person because they'll never get close enough or be vulnerable enough to truly be hurt by them. Their only sense of security is in isolation because they believe that they can't be hurt if they're not attached to anyone.

Saipher Zuretiscifr
2023-12-04

Those who are stuck in Anxious Avoidant loops continuously look for emotionally unavailable people, because they're also emotionally unavailable. There's a desire to obtain the unobtainable in order to validate their worthiness. On a core level, their higher self knows that it will never work and that a relationship with the emotionally unavailable person would be unhealthy.

2023-07-07

I’m very sensitive to the ebb and flow of feelings of security in my #relationships. I analyse partner behaviour and often misinterpret it. I have an insecure #attachmentstyle because I was neglected as a baby and throughout my childhood. I have taken great strides in healing in recent years. Dynamic Interpersonal Therapy gave me the insight I needed to make the breakthrough.
I’ve unwittingly spent my whole life trying to fill the void of a mother’s love with #sex. #mentalhealth

2023-05-31

@haileymichellemanning nice article Hailey. I’ve been working on myself to break out of the anxious attachment style, by learning about #codependency and practicing #dbt. #DynamicInterpersonalTherapy made a huge difference too. As you say in the article my #AttachmentStyle varies from partner to partner, but I’m in a much better place now 😊

The Secure Relationship 💘TheSecureRelationship@ohai.social
2023-02-28

"The Good-Enough #Relationship"

Try not to get stuck chasing the idea of a #perfect#Relationship. #Perfect#elationships don't exist. Try to let go of perfection, and instead strive for improvement, improvement is attainable, perfection is not.

♥️ #Relationships #RelationshipAdvice #Love #Attachment #AttachmentTheory #AttachmentStyle #SecureAttachment

The Secure Relationship 💘TheSecureRelationship@ohai.social
2023-02-28

Vulnerability takes bravery and discernment. However, be cautious with those who may reject or shame you. Sometimes, it's necessary to face rejection for the benefit of ourselves or our #elationships. Finding balance is key. ❤️

♥️ #Relationships #RelationshipAdvice #Love #Attachment #AttachmentTheory #AttachmentStyle #SecureAttachment

The Secure Relationship 💘TheSecureRelationship@ohai.social
2023-02-18

Most of the avoidant clients I treat have limited memories of childhood, especially those involving #emotionalSupport.
This is a sign that they learned so early in life to stuff their feelings out of awareness, that they never knew anything else.

♥️ #Relationships #RelationshipAdvice #Love #Attachment #AttachmentTheory #AttachmentStyle #SecureAttachment

The Secure Relationship 💘TheSecureRelationship@ohai.social
2023-01-18

It's normal for couples to fight. What's important is that they can come back together and repair. The ability to repair and keep their #emotionalBond strong, even in the face of conflict, is how #healthyCouples thrive.

♥️ #Relationships #RelationshipAdvice #Love #Attachment #AttachmentTheory #AttachmentStyle #SecureAttachment

The Secure Relationship 💘TheSecureRelationship@ohai.social
2023-01-17

Anyone need to hear this tonight? You’re not alone.
🙋🏻‍♀️

#BrenéBrown

♥️ #Relationships #RelationshipAdvice #Love #Attachment #AttachmentTheory #AttachmentStyle #SecureAttachment

The Secure Relationship 💘TheSecureRelationship@ohai.social
2023-01-15

To feel truly empowered, work on letting go of the things you can't control, and taking charge of the things you CAN control.

♥️ #Relationships #RelationshipAdvice #Love #Attachment #AttachmentTheory #AttachmentStyle #SecureAttachment

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