🧵 3/3
So it’s been challenging for both of us. I don’t normally leave the house often anyways, but I can’t keep cancelling much-needed medical appointments indefinitely. If anything, I’ve erred on the side of giving him as much rest as possible, but it’s also not healthy for either of us to be confined to home for months on end.
These are the challenges with having a #servicedog when something unexpected happens. You have to do what’s best for them, but fuck, you need them too! #codependency
Turnkey
A #poetry thread
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i.
I walked into a prison cell
and closed the wrought iron gate behind.
At first the place felt harmless — well,
my gentle jailer seemed so kind.
Although I held a golden key
to turn the gate’s old rusty lock,
for years I knelt obediently
each time my jailer came and knocked.
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#poem #poemaday #codependency #mentalhealth #monochrome #blackandwhite #photography
Many years ago, I wrote #lyrics to go with the track Promise from #LastWindow.
It's a case of life imitating art. It's almost like I channelled the feelings of my future self. I'm still grieving. I'm just going to let myself feel whatever I need to feel.
PROMISE
I treasured the promise you made me.
It gave me
the strength to fight.
But now I grow weary of crying,
of trying
to understand.
And now...
Now I close my eyes,
I see your smile
and I'm wondering why.
Why you went away,
and all the promises you made to me,
they're dying.
And I'm all alone
among the ruins of
our shattered dreams.
I wonder if you still remember,
together,
those dreams we had.
But now they have faded and left me
so empty,
just like your words.
But now...
Now I close my eyes,
I see you smile
and I ask myself why.
Why you went away,
and all the promises you made,
have they all died?
Am I all alone among the wreckage of
my broken heart?
Do you close your eyes
and see my smile?
Do you ask yourself why?
Why you went away,
and all the promises you made
were they all lies?
Now are you all alone among the wreckage of
your broken heart?
Illustrated version here: https://blog.outtolunch.me.uk/2013/03/28/last-window-promise-lyrics/
A big part of overcoming (anxious attachment-style) #Codependency is knowing when to take a pass on other people and their weird psychic black-hole vibe.
Goes for groups, too. Maybe *especially* for groups.
@cptsd @schizoid @neurodiversity
This is like my #codependency song. I was always "almost there" 😢
So much more about you that you never let them see
You turned away, but not to me
And I know how they tried to take you
Held you up and meant to break you down
But you can't be
For so long I tried to reach you
I know I'm almost there
I'm close enough for you to see
And you've been hiding in the shadows
Have you forgotten how we used to dream?
Let me remind you
The light doesn't blind you at all
It just helps you see
Can you see?
Yeah, you have become
Yeah, you have become beautiful
Ashley Tisdale’s “Me Without You” is less a love song than a hostage situation set to a power-pop beat. If you’ve ever mistaken codependency for romance, this one’s for you.
#Feminism #PopMusic #AshleyTisdale #Codependency #MusicCriticism #PopCultureAnalysis #ToxicRelationships #MediaPsychology #AttachmentTheory #SongLyrics #CulturalCritique
https://songreading.wordpress.com/2024/12/19/me-without-you/
All couples fight — but what if the fight never ends? Sam Levinson’s Malcolm & Marie strips down the toxic cycles of ego, art, race, and codependency in a brutal two-character showdown.
#FilmEssay #MalcolmandMarie #ToxicRelationships #FilmCriticism #CinemaStudies #JohnDavidWashington #Zendaya #SamLevinson #NetflixFilm #ModernLove #RelationshipDynamics #WhoIsAfraidOfVirginiaWoolf #Codependency #EssayWriting #MovieAnalysis
https://ninetypercentcrapmoviereviews.wordpress.com/2022/11/07/malcolm-marie/
@cptsd @schizoid @neurodiversity
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VS53N-Evz4Q
I really needed to hear this. I alternate between my head ruling and my heart ruling. Dr Snipes in this video says it will probably take at least a year to get to a better place mentally. I don't have a need to be in a relationship, I'm actually at my happiest when I'm not. The problem is that men seem to like to reel me in with false promises and then I become emotionally dependent on them. All I know is I will put up with any amount of crap just to not lose them.
But no more. At some point I found where I left my self respect. It's like a hyper puppy that keeps wanting to escape, but I have the leash now.
#mentalhealth #cptsd #schizoid #complexptsd #codependency #anxiety
How the US kept EU military small as a strategic
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYFpiwyTXcU
#military #Europe #SelfSufficiency #Codependency #CripplingPolicies #DefenceCapabilities #Politics
And people say #Menherachan is unrealistic...
So you don't have to sign up to her mailing lists.
Codependency Worksheets: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1YriWffchqYo7Ywh8jX5hSAns8EIKzd-C/view?usp=sharing
CPTSD symptoms quiz:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1kFOcEft5H6UQGFd3TXqPklxqFnd_k1--/view
20 Signs of CoDependency and Tips to Address Them - Dr Snipes
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Szndq5C2ZwY
https://m.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLcB3trehXswgcWsXcYCFlTnVAH9rSqqzD
Dr Snipes has some really useful and enlightening videos about adverse childhood experiences and their impact on mental health, including #codependency, #anxiety, #depression and #complexPTSD.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6F-NMtOVmJI
@schizoid @cptsd @neurodiversity
#mentalhealth #cptsd #schizoid
