Personality disordered friends, I see you. I see how underrepresented we are, and how others see us as inferior.

#psychology #schizoid #schizotypal #borderline #dependant #avoidant #paranoid #antisocial #narcissist #obsessivecompulsive #histrionic

In infants, the chief causes of outrageous behavior—impulsivity, attention-seeking, and a sense of entitlement—are considered normal, but in adults they're key symptoms of the "cluster-B" personality disorders.

@gurwinder #Neotoddlerism #Narcissistic #Histrionic #Antisocial #Borderline
https://www.gurwinder.blog/p/the-outrageous-rise-of-neotoddlerism

@deannapizzuti 😎👽 No one challenges Elon, emperor of the GalaXy — Except the EU guardians of his potential European victims, disagreeing with Musk's disordered, disruptive interpretation of free speech.

Kudos, @EU_Commission for standing up to Elon Almighty!

#RuleOfLaw #EU #DigitalServicesAct #Xtwitter #Musk #Provocations #Histrionic #Misinformation #Disinformation #Lies #HateSpeech #Extremism #Terrorism

@EricKHoward Now he knows he'd better not stubbornly refuse to attend an audience with his intergalactic brightness, emperor Elon! 🤔🙇😂😂😂😂😂🙇😂😂😂😂😂

#Mastodon #FreeSpeech #Freedom #SocialMedia #Xitter #AntisocialMedia #MuskSuX #Histrionic #YouStayYourProblem #LeaveXitter

@slcw As sad as it is: For Elon the attention *he* can possibly attract is worth more than the attention another person gets for possibly being hurt.

#Mastodon #FreeSpeech #Freedom #Equality #Community #LeaveTwitter #MuskSuX #Histrionic

@metacurity Well, that's a lesson for everyone not to entrust a histrionic sociopath like Elon Musk with any information & data you would want to be treated as confidential.

#StandWithUkraine #ConfidentialInformation #UntrustworthyMusk #BetrayalOfSecrets #FragilePersonalities #PersonalityDisorders #AntisocialPersonalityDisorder #Histrionic #HistrionicPersonalityDisorder #NationalSecurityThreat #MuskSuX #IlloyalPersonality

When a #borderline, #narcissist or #histrionic woman says, "I feel unsafe" it likely means YOU are unsafe. Don't ignore, minimize or make excuses for your abuser. This is a threat and you need to be careful. https://bit.ly/44c66lM
#AbuseHasNoGender #NPD #BPD

@DemocracyMattersALot Apartheid prince, worst businessperson of the decade & attention junkie Musk better cease treating employees as bondsmen.

#MuskSucks #LeaveMusk #LeaveTwitter #Histrionic #Sociopathy #Megalomania

@EgyptianAphorist Sad, lonely & attention-addicted rich hobby despots abuse their rulership over an oversized & overpriced sandbox to ban words out of linguistic ignorance & infantile spite.
To be in the news.
Try to grow up & get a fucking dictionary, Elon!

#Mastodon #SocialMedia #CommunityCounts #Fairness #Tolerance #LeaveTwitter #AntisocialMedia #LonelyElon #ElonHomeAlone #IntolerantInfant #Histrionic #MuskSucks

@edgeoforever Actually leaders of the free world's liberal democracies should lead by example & immediately #LeaveTwitter!

As long as they don't, journalists & lots of other folks won't leave Eloon's brown sh*tpool either.

#FreeSpeech #Freedom #Democracy #Fairness #Community #SocialMedia vs #RottenBird #AntisocialMedia #CorporateMedia #Manipulation #Antisemitism #Nazism #Extremism #MuskSucks #Histrionic #LeaveTwitter

@ct_bergstrom Musk simply wanted to let his patient victims on the rotting birdsite know, who's their Adolf.

#Mastodon #FreeSpeech #Freedom #Democracy #Community #Fairness #SocialMedia #MuskSucks #Histrionic

@WPalant @brianonbarrington Real white supremacist elites wear white go-go boots... and white silk stockings underneath.
Fitting the skin color of sons of Apartheid like Musk.

#DefendDemocracy #UnitedInDiversity #DeSantisWhiteout #RemoveRon #Insurrection #Rebellion #RuleOfLies #MuskSucks #Histrionic #Antisemitism #WhiteSupremacy #DrainIdiocy #AmericaDeservesBetter

#Lovebombing boosted with #texting is the equivalent of a #dopamine relationship speedball (cocaine and heroin). Separately, both love bombing and text messaging can create potent dopamine brain baths. Together, they’re a powerfully destructive combination.

Dopamine creates intense wanting that leads to seeking behavior. Seeking eventually leads to a reward – the release of endorphins and other feel good neurochemicals. Reward reinforces the wanting and seeking behavior that, in turn, leads to more reward. This is called a dopamine loop and it can be incredibly addictive.

Whether it’s wanting and seeking more validation of ever increasing love bombing in person or via text or on social media – you need more and more of it to get the same intense rush. Especially when everything is shiny and new, or rather, shiny and new narcissistic supply.

Therefore, when dating, resist the urge to text excessively. First, if you’ve met someone who’s not a personality disordered abuser, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. For example, you find each other on one of those god awful apps. And then you text each other like teenagers for two weeks before the first coffee date.

Dopamine! Dopamine!! DOPAMINE!!!

No normal human being of reasonable attractiveness can live up to a 2 week long dopamine binge. Regardless of how kind, intelligent and interesting they actually are. She or he will likely disappoint due to the unrealistic anticipation of the texting dopamine high.

Second, let’s say Dopamine Damsel or Dopamine Dude, does meet your wild expectations. She or he could very well be your next #narcissist, #borderline or #histrionic nutter. In order to keep the dopamine loop looping, the reward needs to be obtained and then increased. And who can top the intensity of the pre-meet text-fest in person?

A person who can be intensely charming, intensely engaging and intensely provocative, flirtatious and seductive. Someone who’ll contort and shape shift themselves (i.e., #mirroring) into being anything and everything they think you want them to be to get you to fall in love with them. Again, it’s likely to be another #NPD, #BPD or #HPD nightmare.

Third, a person who’s willing and/or able to begin texting a stranger excessively from morning to night, well, I have questions. Like do they have a job? Friends, family or pets? Anything in their life that requires attention and responsibility? Do they have impulse control and self-restraint? The ability for delayed gratification? Hobbies and interests that don’t involve their phones, social media and dating apps?

Best case scenario, it’s another #codependent looking for their next intense dopamine relationship disaster. Worst case scenario, it’s the next disaster.

#AbuseHasNoGender

Scratching the surface on personality disorders today.

Couldn't quite keep it under the 5 minute mark, but did my best!

#mentalhealth
#bpd
#npd
#histrionic

#mentalhealth
#bpd
#npd
#histrionic
#eupd
#borderline
#narcissistic

#NarcissistDictionary: #Empath

Urban Dictionary says, "Probable #narcissist who mistakes #hypervigilance and #projection resulting from
early childhood #trauma for a Trekkie superpower. Will spend more time
telling you how they think you feel than actually listening to your problems,
yet believes themselves to be a healer of sorts."

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

To the Urban Dictionary definition, I would add "probable narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic, #psychopath or some other combination of the #ClusterB variety pack. And while I'm at it, let's discuss #NarcissisticAbuse.

"Narcissistic abuse" is one of those terms like "empath," that proliferates YouTube and the rest of the narco-sphere. Abuse is abuse. When it comes to intimate partner abuse, child abuse, workplace bullying, etc., narcissists are just one of the usual suspects.

Are all people who perpetrate abuse narcissists? No. Again, the usual suspects include the narcissist, borderline, #histrionic, psychopath, #paranoid and #dependent personality disorders. These are also the folks at the root of most high conflict divorce and custody litigation.

Regardless of the actual clinical diagnoses of the abuser, abuse is, in and of itself, narcissistic.

Abusers have no empathy for their victims. In fact, they have contempt for anyone who allows themself to become a preferred target or doormat. They don't feel bad if they hurt you, because their intention is to hurt you.

Abusers blame others -- usually their victims -- for their abusive behavior. And, if you try to hold them accountable or expose their abuse, they play victim and abuse you harder. Some borderliners argue that they can't be abusive; only narcissists can be abusive.

This is ridiculous.

For example, #NPD wife and #BPD wife assault their respective husbands. Why? Because they're triggered for some reason, and, using Cluster B "logic," their husbands deserve it.

According to many BPDs, however, it's only abusive if NPD wife assaults her husband. Alternately, it's not abusive if BPD wife assaults her husband. It's the BPD who's suffering, not the husband that they bit, kicked and scratched up.

This is nuts.

A BPD diagnosis doesn't magically render abusive acts not abusive. Some borderlines (diagnosed and undiagnosed) believe they're empaths. An empath is someone who supposedly has superhuman empathy.

Self-identifying empaths claim they can feel the world's pain and suffering so acutely that it "makes them" hurt others. That's right. Other people's pain makes the borderline react with anger and sometimes violence because of their massive empathy. In Objective Reality Land, this is the OPPOSITE of empathy.

Like I said, it's nucking futs.

#AbuseHasNoGender

#NarcissistDictionary: “I hate you!!!”

When a #narcissist, #borderline, #histrionic or other #ClusterB variety pack says, "I love you" it doesn't mean "I love you" the way it does to a normal or a #codependent. Their declarations of love are intense, but superficial. “I love you means” they see you as all good in that moment.

A #NPD, #BPD or #HPD loves you when you make them feel good about themselves. They love you when they're getting everything they want. This is the pleasurable side of splitting.
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#Narcissists, #borderlines and #histrionics love the way toddlers and teens love. Their construct of you is dependent on their immediate ego and feelings states. This is why you can be their soulmate on Monday and by Thursday they’re sharing photos of themselves with their newest soulmate.

Just like kids often have a new #FavoritePerson every few months. The instant there's a disappointment, frustration or a new shiny object they drop their best friend.
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Alternately, "I hate you" actually means they hate you. Ultimately, narcissists hate everyone and respect no one. They hate you because:

• You see their limitations, flaws and pathology.
• You told them no.
• You held them accountable for lying or cruel behavior.
• You're not okay with their cheating.
• You don’t #enable them anymore.
• They can’t possess your goodness and talent.
• You didn't buy them a pony.

What does love mean to you? Does it mean suffering abuse to prove you're a good and loyal person? Does it mean allowing someone to hurt you in the hopes that they'll love you? What's your half of the equation?

If you’re confused because they ping pong between loving you and hating you, then be confused no more. These individuals are incapable of enduring mature adult love.

#AbuseHasNoGender

#Narcissist, #borderline or #histrionic exes often have very odd ways of asking for help and favors. Odd as in entitled and antagonistic, with ample #guilt, #blame and #shame trips.

I've lost count of how many emails clients have shared with me from a #NPD, #BPD or #HPD ex over the years that go something like this:

"You're never here for me and the kids. Everything's you're fault! The kids can't go to influencer camp because you don't give me enough money!!!!" [Not true - child support and spousal support are paid like clockwork].

"You're an unempathic narcissist!!!!! Now I'm with a real man and I've NEVER BEEN HAPPIER!! He knows how to Iove an empath like me!!!!!" [Snort.]

"I never should've married you, you deadbeat POS! Since you always let me and the kids down and DO NOTHING for them, you need to cosign my new car lease, give up your vacation time with kids because I booked non-refundable tickets to DisneyWorld without asking you AND the kids want a pony!!!!!"

Sometimes all you can do is laugh. Or, to borrow a southern expression, bless their hearts ;)

On a separate note, is influencer summer camp a thing now? I made that one up.

#AbuseHasNoGender

Relationships with a #NPD, #BPD and #HPD are like being the designated driver 24/7/365. All the relationship responsibility, all the time! They exaggeratedly profess their love for you, and then projectile vomit on you. Eventually, they grab the wheel and drive you into a wall.

To put it bluntly, being the "KeyMaster" in a relationship with a #narcissist, #borderline or #histrionic sucks. The burden of being the grown-up is on you. And, if you're a codependent (due to being a #ParentifiedChild), you're likely only too willing to take on this thankless job.

What are you getting out of this? What are you afraid you'll miss out on if you resign this voluntary position?

#AbuseHasNoGender

#NarcissistDictionary" "You're an emotionless robot!"

Of course, you're not really an emotionless robot. If a #narcissist, #borderline or #histrionic partner or ex has ever accused you of being a robot it likely means that:

a) You’ve stopped telling the #NPD, #BPD or #HPD your
thoughts and feelings, because they weaponize them against you.

b) You’ve emotionally
detached and walk away from their #ClusterB threats, tantrums, rages, name-calling and victim playing.

c) You're freezing as a defense mechanism (i.e., fight, flight, freeze or fawn).

Relationships with #narcissists, #histrionics and #borderlines eventually devolve into an endless series of no-win situations, which can instill learned helplessness then despair.

You have emotions, but you've stopped sharing them because it isn't safe. Detachment is healthy in the face of repetitive, relentless pointless conflict. The healthiest choice would be to end the relationship and have friendships with people who don't mistreat and abuse you.

Ideally, detachment and disengagement is a temporary coping strategy while planning your exit. Long-term it's no way to live.

#AbuseHasNoGender

#Narcissists, #borderlines, #histrionics and the rest of the #ClusterB variety pack can be quite the historical revisionists. Yes, they're #PathologicalLiars in matters consequential and inconsequential. When they rewrite history, however, they almost uniformly transform themselves into innocent, rosy-smelling victims and portray their actual victims as villains.

Typically, they do this via a combination of #gaslighting, #projection, #DARVO, blatant lies, half-truths, distortions and reality TV quality acting. Even when the facts eventually come to light, they shamelessly deny, lie, cry, tantrum and obfuscate with #WordSalad.

While I understand this phenomenon in terms of their characterological pathology, I never cease to be amazed by their refusal to take #accountability especially once they’re fully exposed.

You've got video, audio or emails that prove the #narcissist, #borderline or #histrionic partner’s or ex's lies and abuses? Spplffft! It doesn’t matter as far as the #NPD, #BPD or #HPD is concerned. They just tell more lies and play victim harder.

What they said or did last week, yesterday or two minutes ago is meaningless. They shake their Magic Victim 8 Ball and poof! It's time for freshly excreted self-serving lies.

They cry, pitch a tantrum, rage, pout and blithely ignore being fact-checked. They brazenly insist on their newest lies, distortions and false narratives and continue to deny, lie, gaslight and contradict themselves and anyone willing to listen to ever growing mountain of manure.

Then, when you point out the most recent pile of steaming, blatant BS, they're the victim and you're the asshole.

Narcissists, histrionics, psychopaths and borderlines don't see their cruelty, self-absorption, pathological lying and entitlement as bad. You deserve it. You make them do it. For that matter, anyone who holds them accountable is a bad, nasty person who's abusing them/victimizing them. It's completely backasswards.

Again, this is pure BS. The bad behavior is bad, not pointing out the bad behavior.

#AbuseHasNoGender