I just learned about pathological demand avoidance and I think I found my flavor of autism. Just reading about it so many things clicked into perspective for me. I don’t know what that means for me yet but my world feels a bit lighter tonight and maybe for the first time there’s hope that someday I won’t feel like an imposter for simply existing.
#PathologicalDemandAvoidance #Autism

This is exactly like #pda stepson Zs behaviour during a meltdown: a complete inability to do what she’s told; physical and verbal abuse to resist; trying to push all of the buttons to make the officers lose their sh!t. I relate so hard to the officers’ predicament. When Z has a meltdown like this it’s so hard. Do you think this is a pda meltdown or just the behaviour of a ‘spoiled brat that’s never been told no’?
#pathologicaldemandavoidance #asd #autism
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HFF9cHOO0BA

My morning with a pathological demand avoidant stepson
https://threeofus.substack.com/p/my-morning
#family #parenting #autism #pathologicaldemandavoidance #persistentdriveforautonomy #neurodiversity #abuse #depression #anxiety #children #mentalhealth

#Pathological #Demand #Avoidance (PDA) Misconceptions

#Pathologicaldemandavoidance (#PDA) is most often seen in people with #autism, but certain traits also have been seen with people with #ADHD and other sensory processing #disorders. In this video I will talk about what PDA is, why it's often searched with ADHD and autism, strategies that can help those with pathological #demandavoidance, and what it's like living with PDA.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7xHvNw70FCc

1/ #PDA step son got me again last night. He’d been civil after school, then at story time before bed he mentioned something about Mexico City and I replied that it’s a huge city with about 10 million residents. Without missing a beat he said ‘shut up - I wasn’t talking to you’. His mum called him out on it and he said ‘shut up isn’t a swear word’.
#pathologicaldemandavoidance #persistentdriveforautonomy #autism #neurodiversity

1/ #PDA stepson was in maximum c*nt mode again this morning. The first thing he said to me after getting up was ‘shut up, I hate your voice and you snort like a pig’. He repeated this endlessly even though I’d left the room to avoid confrontation. The theory goes that he’s in fight or flight mode because he needs to get ready for school.

#autism #asd #neurodiversity #pathologicaldemandavoidance #persistentdriveforautonomy

1/ Step son was on an even slower go-slow last night than usual. Getting him upstairs and ready for bed was excruciating. We were an hour behind normal bedtime and C and I were knackered.

I asked C for the 1000th time to implement a natural consequence… that he should forgo the usual bedtime story and snuggle as there was no time…

#Pathologicaldemandavoidance #persistentdriveforautonomy #parenting #autism #asd #neurodiversity

1/ C’s eldest (nearly 10) is on the #autism spectrum and displays #pathologicaldemandavoidance / #persistentdriveforautonomy .

He’s vile and abusive to me - as an example, this morning as I was making my bed, he came into the room and screamed at me ‘get the hell out’. This was my first interaction with him. I left without reacting as I know that engaging makes things worse. It really grates though as I feel like I’m enabling an abuser. He’s part of the package with C and his brother

I don't think anyone who doesn't struggle with it can know how fucking poopy #PathologicalDemandAvoidance is because it's not *ever* just 'don't like, have tantrum'.

Case in point: it's halfway through spooky season - my favourite season of the year - and I want to play and enjoy that in #Palia, #WoW, #AnimalCrossing, #CityofHeroes and #GuildWars2.

But I can't, because all the fun stuff I could do is *too much* so *my brain won't let me*.

Argh. 😢

#AuDHD #mentalHealth #gaming #disability

C and I have just discovered a thing called #pathologicaldemandavoidance #pda which exactly fits the challenging behaviour we’re trying to cope with with our 9 year old who has #Autism We’re at our wits end - he refuses to do anything (getting out of bed, getting dressed, eating, drinking). He’s also violent and verbally abusive to all of us. This discovery will hopefully enable us to learn more about coping strategies, and connect with others facing similar challenges. #neurodivergence

Hey Fedi,

Do you happen to have good resources to help someone with pathological demand avoidance? Resources both from an inside and outside perspective would be nice. The search results I find just make me worried about pseudo-science and/or lack practical advice.

#Autism #PathologicalDemandAvoidance #AskFedi

So I'm reading more about #PDA, aka #PathologicalDemandAvoidance or the less stigmatising #PersistentDriveforAutonomy.

If you're new here: my husband and I are diagnosed #ADHD, our 7yo "Flip" is diagnosed #autistic, but we're probably each some constellation of #AuDHD based on experience.

And I'm fairly certain that Flip matches a PDA profile, which sadly isn't widely recognised or screened for, especially not here in #AotearoaNZ.

anyone on here learning about #pathologicalDemandAvoidance/ #persistentDriveForAutonomy and how it has affected their lives? #pda #demandAvoidance #autism #autistic #adhd #audhd #audhdwomen #ADHDwomen

Can anyone relate bc I feel like this is pretty #actuallyautistic #pathologicaldemandavoidance of me but idk…

I always like to think I question Everything, until another thing I’ve never questioned gets challenged or disproven.
Then I’m like “😱oh noo what other lies am I subconsciously living in accordance with?? I better reassess every thought I’ve ever had and question more things!!”
Rinse and repeat
Which does not serve #trustissues well 😅

#pdaautism #pda #audhd #cptsd

I’m so freaked out by medical stuff (not to mention severe pda) I’ve never had a primary care doctor only a pediatrician 10+ years ago and urgent care visits when needed since then. Anyway. Now I’m at a doctor and it’s the worst I hate it here it smells disgusting and I want to leave how do people do this every few weeks help 😭

#actuallyautistic #audhd #dysautonomia #chronicillness #pathologicaldemandavoidance #cptsd

@Holberg @Hey_Beth

FWIW, I label people with that pathological behavior and psychographic trait a “compulsive contrarian.”

I’ve also seen it scaled down in observed behaviors of children, specifically: “pathological demand avoidance”

Seeing unprocessed issues of minoritarian (in this case, authoritarian-minority) manifest onto the body politic is low-key traumatizing everyone.

#CompulsiveContrarian #PathologicalDemandAvoidance

“it’s just a phase” no shut the fuck up
That ignorant bullshit is so damaging
Stop invalidating whatever counterculture makes kids feel happy or secure just bc your life has always been a sad slice of soggy white bread & you were brought up to believe flavor is scary evil
Don’t pass that on
Grow up ffs
Let weird kids grow into healthy weird adults instead of breeding another generation of cptsd messes
#actuallyautistic #audhd #pathologicaldemandavoidance #cptsd #adhdkids #RaisingAutistickKids

I don’t watch #dancingwiththestars but I check the cast every year to see if I know or even recognize a single contestant or if I still might as well live under a rock lol 🪨
#popculture #audhd #pathologicaldemandavoidance

But what does #PathologicalDemandAvoidance feel like from the Inside?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bO6Nua9jkBQ
#mentalhealth #avoidance #ADHD #autism #spectrum #emotions

Story of my life #PDA #PathologicalDemandAvoidance https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bO6Nua9jkBQ&ab_channel=I%27mAutistic%2CNowWhat%3F