First time post-transition where a TV show character has my deadname. 🙈
It was bound to happen. It didn't feel too bad. I didn't really have much of a connection to the name. And that was a bit of a strange feeling. 😅😅
#Deadname
"Yes, I'm her. Name's Ángela now."
"But what was your name back then?"
Don't be that fucking asshole.
Ayer después de hacer la compra una señora empezó a gritar mi deadname y mi amiga y yo nos giramos a la vez rayadisimos de que me estuviera llamando a mi (llamaba a una compi de curro).
Mi amiga se puso en modo violento con eso xd.
Os pasa alguna vez aún habiendo pasados años de vuestro cambio de nombre?
#transgender #trans #deadname
My kid recently changed her name, not for marriage or any external-rule-related factor. She just wanted a name that was more "her". And now I look at the name I gave her at birth and it doesn't suit her at all, and I think what a stupid custom we have to give permanent names to babies, when we don't know who they are yet.
#namechange #deadname
it shouldn't be too hard to extend the right to be forgotten to deadnames as well, legislatively
it shouldn't be too hard to extend the right to be forgotten... #privacy #rtbf #righttobeforgotten #europe #deadname #lgbt #transgender #lgbtq+https://kbin.melroy.org/m/showerthoughts@lemmy.world/t/1113073
I'm annoyed at my deadname, but more annoyed at my family name, because in the country where I live it sounds like a first name, so when I go to some shop or public office and they ask my name I sound like I am answering with my first name (like a child or something?) and on top of that, not even pronouncing it correctly
this is SO ANNOYING to the point that I try to put another surname every time it's about some pickup where they don't check against official documents
#deadname #fail
this is SO ANNOYING to the point that I try to put another surname every time it's about some pickup where they don't check against official documents
#deadname #fail
I think that telling anyone your deadname places an unfair burden on them. I don't want to know anyone's deadname. As far as I'm concerned, it has nothing to do with them as they are now, just like my deadname does not in any way represent me. It never felt like my true name anyway. It always felt like a role I was playing. Like I'd somehow picked up the wrong lunch order at the canteen of names. There are sensitive, potentially damaging things that once shared, can't be taken back, and honestly, I would prefer to think of people only as they themselves feel most comfortable being called. Because you know a brain holds on to those kind of little trinkets. I would rather not burden myself nor anyone else with that kind of difficulty. And if anyone flat out asks? They don't understand what they're asking for. Like a child asking for a mousetrap to play with. Or a boulder to eat.
#deadname
#kindness
So here's some affirmation for you freshly hatched lil fuckers (endearing), there will be a point when you hear your dead name in the wild and it won't send you spiraling.
Never felt that way? Great, this post isn't for you. I know there are many out there that experience genuine distress, and I'm here to say it does go away I've spoken to two men who have my dead name and I only just realized today it stopped bothering me at some point.
challenge for cis people, difficulty impossible: Not using the old name when asking what name to use after the name change
lost so far
- secretary at work that changes the name in the system
- the fucking Standesamt that changed my name addressed me by my deadname in the friggin letter that tells me to pay for the new birth certificate
Today I learned that #slack saves a „username“ field for your account and doesn’t tell you ANYTHING about that. This lead to my #deadname being #leaked today.
So…
a #queer space I’m in is using Slack as a communication platform. Due to various concerns we wanted to switch to Matrix.
Our IT had put up a Slack-Matrix #bridge to ease the shift away from Slack.
Turns out this bridge was using a „username“ field that slack had previously depreciated in favor of display names.
As I had joined a Slack years ago before my #transition it must’ve created this username from my email back then, which contained my deadname.
When I transitioned I changed my email and the „Full name“ field on all the slack instances I was on.
I joined that queer Slack space after this and it must’ve just copied over that original username.
THE USERNAME FIELD WAS NOT SHOWN ANYWHERE. It was completely #hidden.
And now the Slack-Bridge had leaked my deadname via the username into our new Matrix space.
Dear Slack Developers/Team,
WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK?!
FOR ANYONE WHO WANTS TO CHANGE THIS NAME:
- Go to the slack web app (I couldn’t find it on mobile)
- Click on the profile picture on the bottom left and click on „Profile“
- Click on the tree dots next to „Set a status“ and „View as“
- Go to „Account Settings (external link)“
- Scroll all the way down (UNDER „Deactivate account“!?!)
- Click „expand“ on the „Username“ section
- Change your username and click „Save“
Live in Montgomery County (#MontCo) in the #Philadelphia #Philly suburbs? Want to get an official, legal name change ASAP? Maybe your ID still has your #deadname and you're worried that you won't have access to help to get it changed?
The county offers FREE legal name change services. They're not just for trans/non-binary/gender-expansive folks, but the county has noticed a huge some in interest in the services from those communities since November.
More details from our friends at the Philadelphia Inquirer:
Honey, I don't care what you identify as, you will always be Gulf of Mexico to me
PTDR @theophylledcx vient de m’appeler Julien et il a dit qu’il voulait partir en vacances dans le Pouetou Charentes. Il est en #roue libre ! #nosregionsontdutalent #deadname
@transworld why u said their #deadname ?
Gericht: Facebook muss Beitrag zu Hamburger Politiker löschen
Es geht um einen Post, der gegen das Selbstbestimmungsgesetz verstößt. Ein Grünen-Bürgerschaftsabgeordneter hatte einen Eilantrag gestellt.
#HH #Hamburg #Facebook #Transperson #Deadname #Entscheidung #Gericht #HamburgNews
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