What to do if bullying? Try consistent boundaries

1. do not writhe or waver. (Movement attracts the bully)
2. do not attempt to appease. (Any offer is interpreted as weakness and obtains thrust)
3. flee to a safe position that you could hold with support
4. then stand still. Set limits on how others treat you. Affirm boundaries (The bully will redirect attacks eventually)
5. connect: turn to a trusted person, reach out only to someone you feel well about
6. offer backing, foster, become accomplice, enjoy

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"Stating the outcome a policy is supposed to achieve isn’t a policy." 🧵

"Frontline staff who understand the system and understand why it isn’t working are always seen as the problem, never the solution. Politicians, civil servants, consultants, management boards, working groups – all [generally] assume they’re the solution."
https://commonweal.scot/an-empty-promise-that-explains-everything/

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We’re calling on the Scottish Government to help #EndYoungParentPoverty with a top-up to the Scottish Child Payment to:

Support children at highest risk of poverty
Promote gender equality #KeepthePromise
Mitigate DWP policy of paying <25s less in benefits
http://opfs.org.uk/endyoungparentpoverty

The #CareReview will publish its final reports on Wednesday 5 February at http://carereview.scot

Shout if you want #ThePromise to be kept and show your commitment to #KeepThePromise!

more here

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After 102 years of denial, the #ArmenianGenocide remains fresh in many minds. Some people #KeepThePromise as we commemorate one of the largest-scale attempts at eliminating a whole group of people. #Denialism is a crime in some jurisdictions.