Spoon Theory and The New Car Smell

From the You would think a salesperson would know this Dept. #neurospicy #anxiety #adhd #neurotypical #car #sales #spoonie #spoonielife [...]

https://awadwatt.com/tezoatlipoca/spoon-theory-and-the-new-car-smell

I think, after 20 years since my diagnosis as an #Aspie, I'm finally able to "pass" as a #neurotypical successfully if I choose.

I just had an epiphany that, to me at least, might be the "key" to unlocking this secret - small talk's banality IS important! #Gossip MATTERS! It's mandatory! We're about to get all #philosophy up in here!

See, you know how we all have two faces - the one that we show to the world, and the one that we keep to ourselves or our closest companions? The Outer Self and the Inner Self?

That's what's called the "#Human Condition", also known as the "Hedgehog's Dilemma" (reference - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedgehog%27s_dilemma ).

So summarize all of that for you, the long and short of it is this:

We are individuals that want to "join" with others (think "relationships" of all sorts).

That creates two concepts - The #Self, and The #Other

We want and desire for The Self and The Other to be one, to be merged, joined, ultimately. But, there's a couple of problems with that.

There's the fear of LOSING The Self when joining with The Other.

And, there's the fear of rejection from The Other. From being cast aside, forgotten, ignored.

So The Self, in defense of itself, creates The Wall. The Wall divides us, keeps us separated, but safe.

It's a translucent wall - and we control the opacity. Through it, we choose how much of The Self to show to The Other, how much we risk rejection, or fear of being absorbed and losing our individuality.

And that's where "small talk" comes into play. By using "small talk", #neurotypical people clear the opacity of their wall; risking vulnerability (just a little!) to The Other. Showing just a LITTLE bit more of The Self.

Every "small talk" conversation should be thought of in these terms:

The Self: "Oh Hi, Other! I'm a person! A real human with needs, desires, feelings, emotions. Are you?"

The Other: "Hey there Self, yeah I too am a real human with needs, desires, feelings, emotions! We should totally chill more often!"

The Self: "A'ight, lets hang, my man!"

The Other: "True Dawg, True. For sho!"

I have no idea why that turned into a #racist remake of the movie Friday at the end, but the point is this.

Every bit of small talk, every communication between you and another person about the minuscule happenings in your life, in their life... it's tiny peeks through The Wall. It allows for a collection of "mini-risks", that allow neurotypicals to "gel" and learn to start to trust each other, to build stronger bonds.

To really start to merge... just a little closer to each other.

Now that I know that... I don't think I'll see any public gatherings, informal meetings, get-togethers the same way again.

Or, to sum it all up in a horribly culturally-appropriating way:

"Chillin' wit yer homies makes you a pack, yo!

Family."

#aspergers #actuallyautistic #racism #monkeysphere

#neurodivergent #neurotypical #autistic

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DSSX3azjR1w/

And here’s my biggest #frustration of the past few days. Like I only have #256GB of storage in my phone, why is 175 of it filling up the majority of the space? You were the #neurodivergent choice, #Apple, the alternative. Why are you being #neurotypical in not telling me exactly what this data is for? That way, I can at least get rid of the one #app that’s causing all this bloat. Or at least give an option to clear this manually, as it’s not really necessary when my #backup is only 12Gb. #SMH.

The word "conduct" in "this is no way to conduct yourself" ( זו לא צורה להתנהל) is the #neurotypical equivalent of the word "peace" in Kwame Ture's "peace is a white man's word".

Go conduct yourselves y'all.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mGYQRkS53TU

Are you capable of being spontaneous?

#ThingsIWonderAbout #Neurodivergent #neurotypical #poll (okay to boost for reach)

People with #ADHD, #autism, #dyslexia say #AIagents are helping them succeed at work
A recent study from the UK Department for Business and Trade found that #neurodiverse workers were 25% more satisfied with #AI assistants and were more likely to recommend the tool than #neurotypical respondents.
The study involved 1,000 users of #Microsoft 365 #Copilot from October through December of 2024
https://www.cnbc.com/2025/11/08/adhd-autism-dyslexia-jobs-careers-ai-agents-success.html

Autism is a learning disorder. It's not something that can be healed. I am blessed with friends who tried to enrich my life by introducing/coaching me onto things which ameliorated the autism: falun dafa – I only practice the meditation,

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#neurodiverse #neurotypical

What do #Neurotypical editors need to know about working with #AutisticWriters? Real talk on inclusion, collaboration, and unique voices—plus a call for #ND stories & tips! Drop yours in the comments or pitch a guest post. #WritingCommunity #Accessibility

https://dreamspacestudio.net/what-i-wish-neurotypical-editors-knew-about-working-with-autistic-writers/?utm_source=mastodon&utm_medium=jetpack_social

This is a question for people who are NOT neurotypical extroverts:

Do you believe that most NT extroverts lack empathy especially with regards to people who aren't NT or extroverts?

#neurotypical #neurodivergent #extroverts

@Bluewall granted, #Ransomware also does and the #neurotypical wording may imply that only that is being accepted.

• Tho granted #DDoS does make a resource inaccessible and #MITM'ing #SSH will act like a #DoS on said connections, as mismatching #Pubkeys rightfully throw an error and cancel the connection attempt…

#Phishing doesn't impact the availability of data directly, so it's the only one where I could reasonably exclude it since phishing is only done as a means to obtain credentials, aka. obtaining access to an entrypoint.

ADHS/ADS as a system - Zu meinen recht fragwürdigen persönlichen Gründen für "Gesellschaftskritik"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWtGpM4lzp4

#Politik #Neurotypical #Neurodivergent #ADHD

[P] It's so easy to see how reward-chasing lemmings looking for social consensus reward from charismatic influencers will lead to the extinction of almost all life on earth. If the moronic lemmings could get their reward-fetish on via scholars instead? This world would look VERY different. But why do that when you can accept consensus from right-wing Dark Triad abominations, eh lemmings? I suppose it must feel good to be that dumb.

#psychology #actuallyautistic #neurotypical #why

HI #cis #het #white #neurotypical people.

STOP telling your non cis non white non het neuro atypical friends, colleagues and family that they’re fucked

WE KNOW.

How about you shut the fuck up with your constant well-meaning attempts to keep us “in the loop” and instead listen to what we want and need… and then actually HELP FIX SHIT INSTEAD OF CATASTROPHISING!

Sincerely, someone who is a trans, queer immigrant neurospicy person with PTSD who is getting sick or being told I need to do x y or z, infantalized or otherwise ignored when I say “No, listen and be an active participant in the solution!”

#uspol

We need a global competition where so #extroverts and #introverts can fight for the privilege of being considered #neurotypical.

I've just realised that I have misplaced feelings of failure.
For years I have thought I'm a failure because I couldn't have a notebook by my bed and write down ideas/thoughts so I didn't need to remember them and by writing them down I could relax and sleep.
Now I realise this is #NeuroTypical people not understanding #ADHD no wonder it felt impossible and overwhelming. I'd be writing non-stop, multiple notebooks each night and no relaxation.
#IAmNotAFailure

But I think it would be great to choose NOT to pass horrible painful or deadly genetic diseases to my children. I worry though that same technology would result in people trying to have #neurotypical kids.

I think instead of calling people #neurotypical, we should call them #neuroaverage, since "typical" implies that a majority of people have no remarkable attributes (which seems totally untrue), while "average" would merely imply that someone is at the center of a spectrum.

#Republicans do support #GunControl. They support taking #guns away from the #people they want to #oppress, specificially Black people, #trans people, #neurodivergent people, and #leftists. Ronald #Reagan created gun control to #disarm the #BlackPanthers. This is why they're always trying to convince us that the latest #shooter was anyone other than a #cis #white #neurotypical #RightWinger.

[P] I'm hoping over time we'll see more trans folks coming out against DERTs. I don't want to see the trans movement get dragged to the political right, because those fuckers are just going to outlaw their meds. There has to be a united, lefty WE that doesn't include the vile bigotry of those who "fit in" with vileness. No TERFs, no SWERFs, no DERTs. Forgiveness must always be there, but we can't tolerate hate.

#psychology #actuallyautistic #neurotypical #trans #genderqueer #alterhuman

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