Reflecting on my week:
classes, clients, self-coaching …
▪ I'm *so* impressed with how an #InternalFamilySystems approach is helping my clients access important insights, quickly. Check it out!
▪ A significant part of learning the method is doing our own inner work; I'm pleased & surprised at the calm & energy it's brought me.
▪ I learn so much better in the company of like-minded peers, especially when we have a structure where we can chat & share insights.
I have spent way too long on this landing page for Parts. I think I'm gonna call it done and ship it soon, just need to adjust a couple of more things in the playground. #InternalFamilySystems
Continuing to iterate on the sidebar UI for Parts, trying the Figma-style approach today, where the properties editor palette only shows up if a Part or a Relationship are selected. Cleaner, I think! #InternalFamilySystems
More progress on Parts! Got a first version of the relationships between different parts working, plus improved the editing experience. #ClojureScript #UIx #InternalFamilySystems
If you're an #InternalFamilySystems practitioner and want to be part of the founding group of therapists that will shape Parts, please register your interest on the Parts website: https://parts.ifs.tools ✨
Parts, our #InternalFamilySystems parts-mapping tool, is getting closer to being ready for launch. The backend is more or less done, and now I get to focus on my favourite part: the UI. ClojureScript and UIx make for a really powerful combination there!
Trauma, Attachment & Resilience - Online Summit
32 talks - 35 speakers - 10 days of live interaction
March 10-24
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Coming up: Peter Levine, Richard Schwartz, Stephen Porges, Bessel van der Kolk, ...
#EMDR #Brainspotting #IFS #InternalFamilySystems #SomaticExperiencing #Polyvagal
doing some brainstorming of functionality for the Parts mvp. https://parts.ifs.tools #internalfamilysystems
While doing some #internalFamilySystems therapy this morning, a rather judgmental part came up & wanted another part to shut up. When asked about its goal, “Harmony” was its answer. Here’s my new mantra: one cannot find harmony by telling people to STFU. It just doesn’t work. It requires listening.
I brought up this idea of acting from 'outside' myself to my therapist and on my own I have been thinking on this more closely. I’m using therapy to help me flesh this out. My therapist suggested that we explore the #internalfamilysystems model in conjunction with this idea and I'm very open to that and grateful that she brought it up and is willing to walk along with me, following my lead, as I sort this out. She is really the only person I have to talk to in my life that doesn't simply look confused by my analysis of my own inner world. Everyone else means well, but I feel constantly invalidated because they cannot relate to me.
And what I'm exploring IS a confusing idea and *I’m* not even entirely sure what is going on here. I can sense two different experiences; two different approaches to perspective. Slowly, a clearer picture is forming.
The outside voice, as I’ve been referring to it, makes suggestions that are detached from my emotions. It's a bit like a NT person trying to tell a ND person to suck it up. It's not unkind to me, this voice, but it’s out of touch. It creates rules and guidelines for how I should live without taking my emotions into account. It wants to create solutions without considering how to work from such an emotional place when that IS where I am, it is my reality. It wants me to ignore my emotions and act, live, be as if they weren't even there when in actuality they are very much present and they cause a lot of strife and obstacle.
The difficulty is trying to act from within the storm, as it were. To make decisions by using my emotions as cues or to solve problems while also considering my emotions. Outside of making usually thoughtless, spontaneous choices driven solely by emotion, I’ve never done this. I've never managed or really tried to integrate my emotions in a balanced way. I either act from a completely emotional place or I act as if I don't have them. I make movements within windows where my emotions are quiet and I move hard and fast while they aren't cutting into me and then I suffer the cuts and bruises that I inevitably get because I'm essentially running at full speed on numb feet, with a body unfeeling, and then when I can feel again I realize how much I've injured myself by trying to be someone I'm not.
Long time no post... Time for a #reintroduction I guess! A lot has changed since I was here last. I found out I'm a #starseed, I learned #reiki, and these things have completely changed my life. I also learned a few things about #crystals and want to learn a lot more. Getting back into making music, including for #meditation.
Still relevant:
#Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic
#NonBinary #Lesbian #LGBTQIA
#SchoolTrauma #TraumaHealing #CPTSD #InternalFamilySystems #Narcissism #NarcissisticAbuse
#PersonalGrowth #Multipotentialite #Autodidact #Unschooling
#MartialArts #InlineSkating #Linux #Writing #Blogging #Music #Art #Programming #Gaming
#Cats #Dogs #Wolves #Horses #Animals
Pixar's "Inside Out" is based on the #InternalFamilySystems model by the way!
"Therapeutic changes and healing happen when enough Self energy is felt by parts. Self energy enables protectors to open up and share what is keeping them in their current roles, and also supports parts releasing burdens when they are ready."
"Please notice that Self energy is the healing quality of #IFS, and this means that parts with enough Self energy can help other parts heal and change."
What is Self energy:
So maybe the way we're treating our inner states right now is like trying to push a car. And it might be better to take another look under the hood.
There's a model of human personality that is called #InternalFamilySystems (#IFS). It suggests that we're all made up of different parts. Many of them might be giving us grief, but instead of being a 1950 parents towards them, it might be best to become attuned 2020s caregivers.
7/8
I finally found an (available) IFS therapist, and she sent me this link to a YouTube series that introduces Internal Family Systems. It's great! I'm impressed, she's doing a great job giving examples and making the concepts clear.
If you've read Richard Schwartz's book(s) and enjoy getting the same things explained in a slightly different way, or have friends asking you what the heck IFS is and want a link for them, check it out:
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLCJ2fBBavCJEoQPzbMIOuQ2luJDHrWPSL
https://lateboomersden.blog/2024/02/26/ifs-meeting-the-people-inside-your-head/
IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy has been quite a discovery. Reminds me in a lot of ways of Carl Jung's map of the mind. I think it shows a lot of promise.
#Discoveries, #IFS, #InternalFamilySystems, #Psychology, #RichardSchwartz, #Therapy, #Trauma
Digging in the Dirt
I have used much metaphorical and analogous imagery to describe my healing journey and my various inner processes since that journey began nearly six years ago. Navigating a ship. Tending a garden. Restoring a house. Crossing a river. Each of these visualizations was like a recurring waking dream waiting to be analyzed for its truths. Lately, following the recent work I did using Internal Family Systems…
#mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthawareness #internalfamilysystems #ifs #psychology #cptsd #trauma #archetypes #jungianstudies #recovery #healing
http://bipolarbodhisattva.com/2024/03/01/digging-in-the-dirt/
My Internal Family
Life often synchronistically provides me with the solution to a problem not long after the problem presents itself. This happened just this week after I tried to write a post about some of my inner workings, but abandoned it when it was clear it was painting an inaccurate (and unkind) picture of myself. I simply didn’t have the language to describe what I was trying to talk about, a frustrating place for a writer to find themselves in.
#archetypes #jung #internalfamilysystems #IFS #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthawareness #pain #anger #trauma #fear #books #bookstodon
http://bipolarbodhisattva.com/2024/02/21/my-internal-family/
Read my ★★★★★ review of Ilyse Kennedy's "The Tender Parts," the latest book about the brand-new psychotherapy model I personally use in my own therapy, and have gotten a lot out of, known as the #InternalFamilySystems methodology or #IFS. This is a great, small introduction to the subject, for people who might want to get their feet wet. Bonus for the insightful reference to Dwight Schrute from "The Office!" https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/63188139-the-tender-parts
