I noticed how many of the #allistic people and especially organisations tend to just walk all over my schedule. They are surprised when they show up half an hour too early and it makes me stressed and grumpy. In turn they get stressed and grumpy when I just send them away until it's time for them to show up. Why do we even make an appointment, when they intend to show up when ever. 🤷 #adhd #autism

#Autism #FWakeAutism #LanguageBigotry #Hyperfocus #Monotropism #FWakeMonotropism
#CommunicationsBigots #FWakeCassandra
#Allistic

“When people are telling the truth, they don’t feel doubted, so they don’t feel the need for additional support in the form of details. When people lie, however, even if what they say sounds credible to you, it doesn’t sound credible to them, so they keep talking.”
― Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence

@StarkRG @actuallyautistic Not asking the question which needs to be asked.

A significant reason why #allistic #workplace #interaction can be *so* #stressful.

@rabia_elizabeth
@actuallyautistic In the main, yes. (And none whatsoever for chicken-shit.)

#Allistic #Autism #Sociability #Conversation

@johnnyprofane1 I think this is perfect just as it is, and entirely accurate. I consider both #ABA and #CBT the #LGBTQ equivalent of #ConversionTherapy.

If we accept that #nuerodifference involves physiology, then what exactly are we supposed to be fixing? We are not broken. At best we need to learn to cope with #toxic indifference of #allistic society.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #ADHD @actuallyautistic

@johnnyprofane1 There is so much about the normative #allistic social gauntlet I just don’t get. Sometimes I wonder if this perplexing outcome of expressed #individuality and obvious surrender to #populism is merely a continuation of that same game that happens in our teens, and they just never got over it.

I suppose I didn’t consider if my confusion over #political behavior might also be part of my social #dissonance. Very possibly!

#ActuallyAutistic

@lkanies @hmm_cook It may be worth clarifying what we’re motivating our #neurodifferent kids FOR?

We maintain #routines for daily living needs… getting ready school, homework, bath and bed time.

For #interests, it’s best to let them self-pilot. We can introduce them to new things and see what sticks. But are #allistic kids so malleable that it works differently for them? If anything, we worked to maintain multiple interests.

#ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting @actuallyautistic

@theynege I would start by responding that no one should have to explain themselves. Why is everyone naturally expected to buy into #allistic expectations?

I would simply offer that #neurodifferent people don’t often just socialize because. We often require some shared connection before we engage with people, partly because this requires a real expenditure of mental energy. And if we’re already drained for other reasons then it’s even less likely to occur.

#ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

@MisuseCase

We might be having an #Autistic vs #Allistic conversation mismatch.

I'm not questioning your experience with having an #ADHD brain.

One of the things I've learned about my 55 year old #Autistic brain is that I am able to think about and analyse systems.

Is it the "systems" vs "individuals" aspects of the mismatch I'm wanting to explore and understand.

https://mcormond.blogspot.com/2021/02/my-privileges.html

Dear #Allistic people,
Why are you so resistant to letting people have alone time?
#AskAllistics

Yes, I'm actually asking cause I don't get it.

I'mma do it!

Dear #Allistic people,
Why do so many of you want to touch me?
#AskAllistics

🤣

I do think likewise though #allistic kids should learn abt #autistic styles of socializing, so they understand that their style of socializing is one of many rather than the only one.

That way they understand their autistic classmates' social styles and needs, they can be better allies against ableist #bullying, they learn how to live in a neurodiverse world, and because believe me, #neurodiversity creates legendary friend groups!

So regardless of neurotype, teach your kids abt neurodiversity!

I present here an allegory about the autistic and allistic mind, seen as gardens. It can help explain, for some, how people who looked allistic all their life turn out to be autistic.

https://yourautisticlife.substack.com/p/the-autistic-and-allistic-minds-as?sd=pf

#YourAutisticLife #autistic #autism #ActuallyAutistic #garden #allistic #mind #allegory

Asking #allistic about #autism is like asking fish about #Birdism: being scared about breathing under water. Ducks are highfunctioning-birds and hummingbirds low-functioning.

Because they judge "functioning" by the ability to accept having the head under water. The longer, the more functioning.

Showing fear of drowning is a symptom, that can be reduced by exposing the bird to water again and again. The best way to (dis)solve the problem, is to "teach" the bird to be under water.

@mattblaze But you’re just supposed to acquiesce and do as we say. Then everything will be as it should. Haven’t you grokked the #ableist agenda yet…? There’s no rationalizing #allistic #righteousness and #privilege.

I was in a school district SPED meeting today. The looks on their faces when i remarked, “Staff requires training to understand the harm done by expecting children and parents to mask for their benefit,” truly warmed my heart. 🤣🤣🤣 #ActuallyAutistic

@devxvda ooh! #Allistic demon #exorcism…? Sounds lovely… Where do I sign up? #ActuallyAutistc

@isaacs Did not know the word: "#allistic".
Differences in Autistic v. Allistic Communication
https://accessate.net/features/2791/differences-in-autistic-v-allistic-communication
Thanks for sharing. 🙂​

@MindfulnessBelle @actuallyautistic 🤣🤣 I just disable the stream of consciousness filter until they get that anxious flight response look. Ah! My work is done here. #ActuallyAutistic

It reminds me of one of my favorite expressions. “If that thing I said scares you, just remember that my filter works.”

Or “Are you REALLY sure you want me to answer that?” Most only make this error once. If they do it again I don’t stop to ask.

I use these as #allistic #training aids. 🤣🤣

@danseurignoble I’m sorry, but I refuse that #allistic #delay label. Compared to who? Ugh. Yes we #neurodivergent folks do things differently but that never diminishes us. That’s accomplished by allistics that insist the world in theirs and only their perspective matters. #BULLSHIT! #ActuallyAustistic #AutisticAF

You adult at whatever pace is relevant to and healthy for you. ❤️