Compersión
#compersión

"Don't you ever feel lonely and jealous when your partner's out on a date and you're not?"

Haha, oh, my sweet summer child.

You underestimate what a treat it is to spend a night by myself, eating pizza bagels & watching Studio Ghibli, with absolutely no need to entertain anyone else.

Don't get me wrong -- I love my partners! But I love them a heck of a lot more when I get to be away from them sometimes.

Society expects us to live in each others' pockets, and to spend very little time alone. But for an introvert like me? Time all by myself, unobserved and unaccompanied, is an absolute necessity.

I love knowing that my more-extroverted partner is out getting their social needs met, while I'm having my delightful goblin-time.

#polyamory #dating #introvert #ambivert #SocialNeeds #compersion #queer

My partner had minor #surgery today and for me this was one of the more difficult experiences of being #poly. Sharing the privilege of caring for my partner, bringing her, fetching her, looking after her when she's back home, was hard. Seeing her being close with others or knowing that she shares intimacy with others was always a source of joy for me (#compersion ). Letting others in the #polycule have their moment in caring for her, was work. #polyamory #relationships

🥂 Cheers to the many loves and many kinds of loves in our lives. #compersion #gay #enm

Ich dachte heute über #Compersion nach.
Das ist ein Begriff aus dem Bereich #Polyamorie

Er bedeutet so viel wie:
„Mitfreude“ – wenn man sich freut, dass die Partnerperson erfüllende romantische, sexuelle, sonstige innige Beziehungen mit anderen Menschen hat. Ein mögliches Gegenstück dazu wäre Eifersucht.

Ich habe festgestellt, dass ich Compersion oft auch ganz abseits von romantischen und/oder sexuellen Beziehungen fühle.

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"Why Open Relationships Are A Bad Idea — No Matter How Good They Sound"

I skimmed the article. The argument is mostly like this:

"I cannot generate compersion. Therefore, opening up a relationship would be torture for me, and thus, no one else can do it. Kthxbai!"

#polyamory #cnm #enm #nonmonogamy #compersion #mononormativity

https://worldcrunch.com/culture-society/open-relationships-mistake

New #book What Is #Compersion ?
Understanding #Positive #Empathy in Consensually #Non-Monogamous Relationships
Marie Thouin #Polyamory #OpenRelationships https://rowman.com/ISBN/9781538183953/What-Is-Compersion-Understanding-Positive-Empathy-in-Consensually-Non-Monogamous-Relationships

https://doi.org/10.22613/zfpp/10.2.8 „bereichert nicht nur unser Verständnis von Compersion, sondern trägt auch zum Gelingen aller Arten von Beziehungen bei.“ Das Paper »Compersion in nicht-monogamen Beziehungen – eine buddhistische Perspektive« ist sehr lesenswert. #compersion #buddhismus #polyamorie #emotionen #beziehungen #nichtmonogam #eifersucht #dieviergöttlichenverweilzustände #ethik

I'm far too fascinated with far too many topics. I've compiled an exhaustive list of hashtags for some of those interests; I'll try to do better about keeping it current and updated.

#ADHD #AdoptDontShop #Antifa #AntiNarcissism #Apatheist #BasicIncome #Bioswales #Bisexual #BLM #BorderCollies #BPD #Cannabis #CatsofMastodon #ClimateChange #Comedy #Compersion #Cooperatives #DadJokes #DBT #Debian #Democracy #Democrat #DemocraticSocialism #Depression #DisposablePeople #DogsofMastodon #EatTheRich #ElderMillenial #Empathy #EndCorporateWelfare #Equality #ExcessiveHashtags #ExecutiveDisfunction #FBR #GallowsHumor #History #Humanist #HumanRights #IStandWithUkraine #JusticeMatters #LegalizeIt #LGBTQ+ #LiberalAF #Linux #LoveIsLove #MaskUp #MentalIllness #MutualAid #NonSequiturs #Persist #Polyamory #ProChoice #Progressive #ProudWoke #Puns #Resist #Solidarity #Spaceballs #TwitterMigration #UBI #UnionStrong #USA #USPol #Vaccinated #VoteBlue #VotingRights #WeirdoLib #Weltschmerz #WokeAF #Xennial

I'm really freaking fortunate to have both a wonderful boyfriend and a wonderful husband, both of whom get along with each other with respect and camaraderie. My cup is full right now. What fills your cup?

#PolyGoals #ENM #Poly #Compersion #Polycule #Happiness #Gratitude

Where the magic happens: #compersion

Two popular DIY NAS operating systems: TrueNAS (formerly FreeNAS) & Unraid.

Both support virtualization and containers
Unraid requires a paid license (one-time purchase)
TrueNAS Scale is better suited for distributed storage.

More: https://cybertalk.io/en/unraid-vs-freenas/


#homeserver #server #Homese#digitalisierung #compersion #unraid #truenas #Server #homeserver #server #Homese#digitalisierung #compersion #unraid #truenas #Server

Asking on behalf of a friend who's not on Mastodon (this seems like a safe space):

"Asking for advice: any nonmonogamists out there who could give me (I'm demi, my life partner is pan) advice and resources? Partner is exploring, I'm not."

#multiamory #enm #ethicalnonmonogamy #nonmonogamy #monogamish #polyamory #jealousy #compersion #demisexual #pansexual

I am finally getting around to watching *Girlfriend, Girlfriend*. It's a pretty run of the mill #HaremAnime. I'd put it somewhere around the first season of Quintessential Quintuplets but with a cast that feels like they're acting the age they're depicted.

The elephant in the room is that, pretty much from the word go, they're #poly. The characters have never heard of #polyamory. They make a lot of mistakes; dumb assumptions; and have ideas that will set off a mix of red flags and cringey memories for actual poly folx. But there's a boy who is in a sorta functional relationship with a girl who then is confessed to by another girl but is so insecure that he can't reject an advance. He pitches that he date both of them openly since he doesn't want to lie, cheat, or hurt feelings. New girl says she doesn't want the existing couple to break up because they are a good couple and she likes that first GF makes him happy, #compersion.

Unfortunately, it's mostly just a setup for normal harem #anime stuff. Introducing a third girl who wants in to the relationship happened way too early. There was a lot of interesting potential hinted at that they just kinda sped through to establish it as a status quo for third girl to shake up.

I'm on the fence about whether I'm glad or frustrated that they don't use words like throuple, triad, compersion, envy, and jealousy. Yes, this would be an unhealthy example to model a relationship on. But it's a comedy where everyone is dumb in their own way on top of everyone having an underdeveloped prefrontal cortex. You aren't supposed to model your relationship on them but learning accurate terminology could still help some young people trying to understand what's going on in their head and heart.


At the end of the day though, it's probably a good thing that it got made, adapted, and dubbed. The mangaka, Hiroyuki, is monogamous and clearly didn't consult with poly folx on the project. His stated motivation was to tell an "unrealistic" story where nobody has to have their heart broken when the protag chooses one partner. Not great but someone with clout in the industry was able to use that clout to open the door. Hopefully in the future we'll get a show written by someone who knows unicorn hunters outnumber unicorns 50-to-1😅

Member of the #AcadémieFrançaise complains about #English loan words and the consequences for #French society of the loss of the ancient French word "compersion" (in fact an English word invented in the 1970s)

https://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/nll/?p=59056

"And it's indeed ironic for a luminary of l'Académie Française to argue, by implication, that the remedy for the French nation's collapse is polyamory."

#compersion #polyamory #language #standards #LanguagePreservation #globalisme

#Polyamory might not be for everyone but the skills you learn are.
#communication, #consent, #compersion (and many more)

https://transform-social.org/texte/love/

#ADHD #AdoptDontShop #Antifa #AntiNarcissism #Apatheist #BasicIncome #Bioswales #Bisexual #BLM #BorderCollies #BPD #Cannabis #CatsofMastodon #ClimateChange #Comedy #Compersion #Cooperatives #DadJokes #DBT #Debian #Democracy #Democrat #DemocraticSocialism #Depression #DisposablePeople #DogsofMastodon #EatTheRich #ElderMillenial #Empathy #EndCorporateWelfare #Equality #ExcessiveHashtags #ExecutiveDisfunction #FBR #GallowsHumor #History #Humanist #HumanRights #IStandWithUkraine #JusticeMatters #LegalizeIt #LGBTQ+ #LiberalAF #Linux #LoveIsLove #MaskUp #MentalIllness #MutualAid #NonSequiturs #Persist #Polyamory #ProChoice #Progressive #ProudWoke #Puns #Resist #Solidarity #Spaceballs #SubstackAuthor #TwitterMigration #UBI #UnionStrong #USA #USPol #Vaccinated #VoteBlue #VotingRights #WeirdoLib #Weltschmerz #WokeAF #Xennial

Finding #compersion in your #polyamory journey can be hard. Some people can even think that it's impossible and that they will never be able to get over their feelings of jealousy and possessiveness.

However, that's not true. Sometimes, compersion strikes when you least expect it.

https://www.discoveringpolyamory.com/blog/how-to-find-compersion-in-polyamory